Why Does He Treat Me This Way
im 14 years old. my boyfriend never comes out really, but when he does i love
being with him. but it gets me down because when im with one of my best friends he completely changes, everyone tells him he does. he sucks up to her alot, and has previously told her ‘i wish i was going out with you.’
i dumped him for this, but we got back together a while back. i dont understand why when shes there he changes so much. i would tell him, but i know hed tell her that i said it and she would have a go at me and i cant be bothered with that. i dont know what to do and i dont know why, when shes there he basically just blanks me and acts as though im not going out with him, but when shes not there, he holds me and kisses me and stuff like that, i prefer it so much when shes not around, but i cant tell her this as shes my best friend. what should i do?
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don’t let him get away with making you feel like this … tell him how you feel and if he still acts the same get rid of him!!! you deserve better
You are 14 honey! still so so young. You will meet plenty of boys but you will only have a few best friends. Good luck x
Gurl u best ditch dat boiw u lyke cuz he is a total jek i mean how can he do dat ugh!! datz so not cool if u realy lyke diiz guy dem tell him how u feel n da truth den if he contnues to blank u wen ur best m8te is dere den i say dump him fast!! lol
You deserve better! tell him, that ent no way to treat a girl.
Bro’s before ho’s! stik wiv yuur mate. But i think she may be leading him on slightly if he is still carryin on. Finish him. You may love him but you wud be better of without him.
WishYouTheBest, X
I had a boyfriend like this. I am 15 now and well clear of him now. But I was 12 when we first started our.. thing. Whenever my or his friends were around he would push me about and just not be very “boyfriendy”. But when we were together it was like.. amazing. Right sound familiar?
A guy like that really isn’t worth your time honey. As for the best friend. Have a serious word with her. Is she in on this. As in is she like flirting with him too? Does she know that your boyfriend is different with you when she’s there? If she knows all of this, she doesn’t seem very much like a best friend.
Just think about it hun
Hope you make right choices x
If i was you if your going out with him you blatently love him with all your heart i would tell your best mate to not come out with you and your boyfriend i know you may fall out but if you say it nicley she proberly wont mind if she doesnt have a boyfriend herself then that could be why she wants to hang around with you and you boyfriend but talk to your boyfriend aswell and say what you feel to him and if he does love you the way you love him then he will hopefully understand and agree with you
You two should talk about your relationship and how you feel, if he truly loved you, he would understand and try to fix things so you can be happy together. If this doesn’t work, I don’t think the relationship is worthwhile, there’s plently more boys and you are still young. You should also talk to your friend as she has a lot to do with it, she might not be worthwhile as a friend either. Good luck x
Well for a start he is obviously stupid as he is trying to change to impress your ‘friend’ and get her to like him. If you love him how he is when it is just you two, give him a chance and tell him to be like that all the time and if he doesn’t , ditch him because he aint worth it. And your so called friend, if she really was your friend, she would tell him that there will never be nothing between them as he is with you so maybe have a word with her about it to.
i say leave him honey. you deserve way better than that and theres plenty more boys who will treat you loads better. he doesnt sound like a verry nice guy x x
Honey, I think your best friend probably is leading him on a wee bit if she’s still letting him get away with acting like that to you when he’s round her after you’ve already left him once for saying he want’s her not you; And think about that for a little bit aswell-he’s openly said he want’s her not you, you dumped him, took him back again and he’s still acting the exact same way; I know it hurts to think it but it’s obviously her and not you that he actually wants-I think he might either be a but shy about saying or is worried about asking her out because she’s your friend and he thinks he might get rejected.
Sit the two of them down-either separately or together, whichever way you feel happier-get it all out in the open and just tell them how you feel about this, if it carries on the way it is at the moment then i think you should dump BOTH of them! I know it might hurt, but trust me, your still so young-friends come and go aswell as b/f’s not so often maybe, but the do! It might hurt awhile but your to young to be worrying about things like this and having the people who should make you happy be bringing you down…Xx
Hey sweety..
Actually..Some1 near 2 me went thru dis..
and i can exactly tel u wat 2 do with it..
first, u have to choose who is much more important to u..
ur bff or ur bf? yeah..also consider ur bestie’s feelings for ur bf? is she loyal to u or not? if not..u should dump both of them…and leave both for themselves..I knw it’s gonna be so hard but its for ur own better tym…rite?
and if she is loyal to u..den tel her abt how u fell about it..XPRESS it so well dat she’ll be completely by your side..
Or else..tlk to ur bf abt it..or..do something similar he does wid u to his close friends..hang out more with HIS guy frnds to make him understand how u feel..
right first of all tell yr jackass of a boyfriend to choose u or her bcos yr sick of him blankin u if he chooses her but yr bezzie doesnt even consider to ask u about this then shes not a friend if u r upset if he chooses her try 2 keep it cool while yr with him then when u go home have a good cry
tbf he ent worth you, if he’s gona be like that around your best friend, then he is just a nob, get rid off him is your best bet, and for your best friend, tell her what he’s done and see if shes in with it aswell. ino you love him but obvsley he loves your best friend, its happened to me and i finished him, then they was going out..
but if urr bestfriend is a true best friend then she wont go out with him, but mine wasnt.
hope you do the best thing:)
he is obviously a player.
I was in the same predicament a while back, I dumped him and never felt better. I’m not going to say you do the same. It’s your choice but maybe if you dont want to do that again, try talking to your friend. She how she feels about it and/or if she has noticed his behaviour.
x
All young people do silly things. You cant put an old head on young shoulders. Having said that, older people can grow to be a bit mental and become nastier. You cant really win, being younger or older, Im afraid.
My from teenager to another, it really depends on how much you like him and how much you value your friendship with the girl. Talk to him about it and say you feel uncomfortable with what he is doing and if possible could he please stop it. Everyone says your only 14 you have plently of time but i know it hurts. Let your heart decide and do what you think is best. Good Luck.
sit down and talk with your best friend and let her know how you feel, and then give your boyfriend the choice of you or your mate. you will then know whether he is worth it or not.