We never agree
we are always bumping heads over everything, we can never agree on the same things, we are always stck in the house together its like he does not want me t have any friends and he does not want to get a job he always has an exuse for everything. hes to comfortable with me and takes me for granted he thinks he can say anything he wants to me and boss me around he always tries to control everthing i trys to control my situation telling me how much i can spend on things with my own money. then when i try to break up with him he just crys and tells me we are happy, speaking for me and all i tell him everyday that im not happy im not even in love with him no more. i just want to beable to control my own situation and have him respect me and my decisions and not make me feel like i cant do anything everytime i tell him i think i would be good at something he always doudts me I HATE THIS!!! i feel soo trapped im soo depressed, i do love him in the sense tht i dont want anyone to be with himafter me. i wish he had been a little more mature so that he could have talk to me about things and understand that we have problems that he should not just dismiss all the time…:(
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He sounds like a manipulative jerk to me. The controling attitude and the way he won’t talk to you is clear to see that. And sure, you may love him. But can you honestly see yourself spending the rest of your life, tied to him, unable to break away, unable to follow your own dreams, unable to do what YOU want to do?
This is your life and by no means should he ever control you for it. So if you have to, leave. There will be other people besides him and while it might hurt to let go, you have to realize that he’s hurting you and you are too good a person to let him make you hurt the way you are. He is not worth this agony. He is not worth your tears.
But if you refuse to leave him, try forcing him to realize what he is doing to you. Have one of his close friends take a look at the situation, someone he’ll listen to always. His friend, or family member, may try to play mediator. But this may also help you relaize he might not be the one for you and that you should cut your losses.
Or maybe therapy?
But somehow you need to try to call him out on the fact that you’re human too. You have thoughts, feelings and needs that you need to have taken care of. And freedom is one of those needs that have to be fufilled.
Taylor
I wonder why you are allowing yourself to be treated this way. Seems to me that you both have issues to resolve within yourselves before you can hope to have a compatible and loving relationship. Unfortunately you cannot change your partner BUT you can most definitely change things within yourself to improve your self esteem which will help you establish your values and boundaries. Your first most important step is to work on improving your self esteem by seeing a professional counsellor, who will help you figure out your personal issues.
You need to grow up , you wish he was more mature but you will not break up with him because you don’t want him to have a relationship with anyone else? It’s a toxic relationship and you need to get out , now! Things are only going to get worse and you don’t want that you deserve better so get rid of him!
The fact that you keep going back to this guy is making me think that he definately has you wrapped around his little finger without a doubt. Everyone is incharge of their own life and nobody should change that, eventually you’ll realise that this just can’t go on. I’m sorry to have to say this, but you need to get rid, this isn’t healthy for you, you need to become a strong and confident individual, and you need to stand your ground. Tell him he’s not controlling you anymore and your fed up, get out of there, change your number so he can’t even convince you to come back, its time to move on now, sorry.
Omg! Ditch the bastard. You are wasting your life on a controlling lazy bastard who is living off a woman.
You are not in love but are attached. You are missing out on a lot in your life. Yes, you will be heart broken if you break up, but time is a great healer and in the long term you will be much happier and will find another person. You will realize and look back thinking how could you have loved him and wasted all that time with him?
I wish you the best of luck and hope you find the courage to leave him.
To be in a relationship you and partner needs to be on one accord with one another, in purpose character and goal in order for it to work. You and your partner are not on one accord so why are you together. You say you dont love him anymore but dont want to see him with anyone else and at the same time you allow him to control you, that doesnt make any sense.
You won’t see the wood for the trees until you’re a long way away from this relationship…
Spend lots of time with your friends and stay away from men for a while. You need some you time to realise what it is you really want. I would advise being single for a minimum of 6 months. Get your smile back. Maybe return to a hobbie you did as a child?
I believe, if you leave and have the strength to stay away, you will never look back.