I want my ex back

your ex boyfriend should not be given a second thought. you have trust issues and problems with emotional proximity, which is emerging as quite common, so do not blame yourself. what he did to you is disgusting, he was not committed, nor did he care about you if he could disrespect you in that way. he’s clearly still an immature little boy who’s only instinct his putting his manhood somewhere. your current ‘boyfriend’ or whoever he is, which is not clearly stated. he is obviously infatuated by you, perhaps its no love yet but it can blossom. i see you most likely compare your ex to him. rejection to a woman leads us to attempt to seek acceptance through following relationships until we find peace with ourselves. i think this new boy is more about making yourself feel better with his promises of commitment than actually wanting to be happy. you need to let go of the past in order to have a future, and your ex boyfriend will never be able to give you that. i know it’s difficult, but believe me, moving on, getting a new hobby even, and avoiding anything serious for a while will help you focus on your needs and wants, and forget your pain and losses. only in time will you find what you’re looking for, and what you really deserve. best wishes, remember you’re not alone in this.

You have to choose. You can’t keep on messing your current boyfriend about if you’re not in love with and you love someone else, because that’s not fair on your current boyfriend. You have to think though do you really want to be with someone who cheated on you multiples of time. I know you can’t switch your feelings off for someone quickly, it is going to take some time. You have to make a decision.

If you really aren’t into this boy, then you should break it off with him, but if its because of your ex, then i think you should give him a chance. He sounds like a nice boy who will treat you well.
You should definitely not consider getting back with your ex at all! this boy did not care for your feelings when you were together and now that you are separated (because of his fault) he has not tried to win you back, which is what he would do if he really cared for you. The relationship you had with him was unhealthy, breaking up and getting back together all the time. He will keep hurting you over and over if you get back together with him. You should focus your energy on a boy that will treat and care for you better! Thinking about the past doesnt necessarily mean you still wanna be with your ex, you must give yourself time, because you cant forget about a relationship so quickly. I still think about things that happened with my ex some times, who i initiated the break up with 3 years ago, and i am very happy in my current relationship. But it doesnt mean i want him back, it just means that memories cant be erased.

I’ve been through the exact situation but I was with my ex for 3years. Yes I had the feeling I was never going to get over him and no matter how good another guy treated me, I will always be heart broken. That isn’t the case, soon the heartache fades and you start to realise you can live without that person no matter how much they once meant to you. You’ll have days where you’ll break down and cry, you’ll miss him so much and you’re going to think you’ll never get over him. But there’s going to be days that you won’t even miss him, he won’t even cross you’re mind. You just have to take each day as it comes, understand that it won’t always be like this and it will get better. time is the greatest healer, you’ll move on I know you will.

once a cheater always a cheater. the boy your with the now loves you and cares about you in every way possible he even told you he wants kids and you like him to, your ex shouldnt have deserved a second chance never mind 6. just take each day as it comes and im sure you will forget about your ex in no time just think about your future with the new guy goodluckkk….<3

If you are not happy with your current boyfriend then maybe you should end it. You are leading him on and on top of that you still love your ex.

You need time on your own to figure out what to do.

i went through the exact same situation with my ex, he used to play me off 2 other girls and i didn’t care until the last time he broke up with me, i gave him 8 chances and he blew them all. i am now over him but i am not over his cousin who i was with for two years and went through some tough times with. i still see him and have a laugh and flirt with him and maybe he will take me back after i finished it with him to give his cousin one last chance. but my ex is out of my mind now after 4 years so it does heal but like i said sometimes things and people just dont leave you or your thoughts, but be careful if you do get in contact with him as he could have a new girlfriend and it could cause trouble believe me i have had enough trouble of them. but like someone else has always said unless you know you can one hundred percent trust him and you are sure he wants you back don’t risk hurting and upsetting yourself over him. but good luck with whatever you decide.