Comments on: I think he is back on drugs http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/ Relationship Advice Mon, 05 Sep 2011 20:39:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Thomas williams http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1990 Thomas williams Wed, 22 Jun 2011 09:42:13 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1990 that was terrible advise i was addicted to drugs for 12 years and if someone is not hard with you you will never see that drugs ruin lives cocain is not a physical addiction but it is one of the hardest drugs to say no to especially crack i think if you suspect someone is taking drugs you can try asking but beleive me all drug takers are very good liers.The thing is drugs are expensive so its not really difficult to figure out when someone is taking drugs it is something that everyone who has a drug problem in the family has to do try to get some one with experience to talk to the drug user becouse thinking you are helping with words of love dont work and threats dont work the user has to see that life is better without drugs beleive me i know that was terrible advise i was addicted to drugs for 12 years and if someone is not hard with you you will never see that drugs ruin lives cocain is not a physical addiction but it is one of the hardest drugs to say no to especially crack i think if you suspect someone is taking drugs you can try asking but beleive me all drug takers are very good liers.The thing is drugs are expensive so its not really difficult to figure out when someone is taking drugs it is something that everyone who has a drug problem in the family has to do try to get some one with experience to talk to the drug user becouse thinking you are helping with words of love dont work and threats dont work the user has to see that life is better without drugs beleive me i know

]]> By: Jane http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1807 Jane Mon, 28 Mar 2011 21:57:34 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1807 I had a terrible christmas last year, long story short, after a year of being together, my boyfriend told me he had taken drugs a few times not long before we met. He's always known how strongly I feel about drugs, and how much it upsets me, as my friends all take drugs, and I have lost a close bond we all once had, because of it. So I understand why he kept it from me, but lying is something I can't tollerate, and I don't think I can get over that. I'm worried he'll go back to taking drugs of any kind, as his brother is his main influence and access to them. I cannot be with someone who takes drugs, and no matter how hard it would be to leave him, I'd have to if he took drugs again. I have sat down with him countless of times about it, he promises he won't take them again, I'm trying to trust him. I say, sit down with him and have a proper talk, make sure you both fully understand eachother's views about it, and if his answer is something you don't want to hear, then it may be time to let him go, he might come to his senses one day and realise what he'll lose, good luck, stay strong. x I had a terrible christmas last year, long story short, after a year of being together, my boyfriend told me he had taken drugs a few times not long before we met. He’s always known how strongly I feel about drugs, and how much it upsets me, as my friends all take drugs, and I have lost a close bond we all once had, because of it. So I understand why he kept it from me, but lying is something I can’t tollerate, and I don’t think I can get over that. I’m worried he’ll go back to taking drugs of any kind, as his brother is his main influence and access to them. I cannot be with someone who takes drugs, and no matter how hard it would be to leave him, I’d have to if he took drugs again. I have sat down with him countless of times about it, he promises he won’t take them again, I’m trying to trust him. I say, sit down with him and have a proper talk, make sure you both fully understand eachother’s views about it, and if his answer is something you don’t want to hear, then it may be time to let him go, he might come to his senses one day and realise what he’ll lose, good luck, stay strong. x

]]> By: SHEILA http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1719 SHEILA Wed, 23 Feb 2011 05:13:08 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1719 drugs are bad things. their bad. drugs are bad things. their bad.

]]> By: Kate http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1335 Kate Sat, 10 Jul 2010 15:59:27 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1335 I'm sorry to tell you this, but the strange behavior screams relapse to me. I was with my heroin and cocaine addicted boyfriend for many years, and kept on giving him second chances, making excuses for him, etc.... I did the same thing as you, was patient and forgiving, only to be lied to and for him to take my money and go off for days, leaving me sick with worry. Yes, he is ill, but at the end of the day, everyone has a choice. I have come to the conclusion that those who come from loving families, and who have people that love and care for them, and then STILL chose to hurt them by their actions are selfish people. After a few years of being with him, I began to think that his behavior was normal. I also started experimenting with drugs. You start to think "if I can't beat them, I'll join them". I did coke and heroin a few times, but the thought of my mum and my little brother knowing and worrying and being disappointed was much stronger than the effects of the drug. It's harsh, but the only way to help yourself and your boyfriend is to leave him. You are telling him that you will not tolerate such behavior, and deserve to be respected and loved, instead of always being second place to the drug. Best of luck x I’m sorry to tell you this, but the strange behavior screams relapse to me. I was with my heroin and cocaine addicted boyfriend for many years, and kept on giving him second chances, making excuses for him, etc….
I did the same thing as you, was patient and forgiving, only to be lied to and for him to take my money and go off for days, leaving me sick with worry. Yes, he is ill, but at the end of the day, everyone has a choice. I have come to the conclusion that those who come from loving families, and who have people that love and care for them, and then STILL chose to hurt them by their actions are selfish people. After a few years of being with him, I began to think that his behavior was normal. I also started experimenting with drugs. You start to think “if I can’t beat them, I’ll join them”. I did coke and heroin a few times, but the thought of my mum and my little brother knowing and worrying and being disappointed was much stronger than the effects of the drug. It’s harsh, but the only way to help yourself and your boyfriend is to leave him. You are telling him that you will not tolerate such behavior, and deserve to be respected and loved, instead of always being second place to the drug. Best of luck x

]]> By: sam hall http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1291 sam hall Wed, 16 Jun 2010 13:14:26 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1291 He may just be worrying about drugs again, because apparently if you do drugs it has effects later in life. Like Paranoia is one of them. He may just be worrying about drugs again, because apparently if you do drugs it has effects later in life. Like Paranoia is one of them.

]]> By: pinky http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1268 pinky Wed, 09 Jun 2010 16:47:34 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1268 sounds like a bad thing to do but it has worked for a number off my friends that have tried to do drugs or have gone back to them, but if he is not cooperating and you have tried everything then you need to threaten the relationship by saying that if he dont sort out his act or talk to you about if and why he is doing drugs, if he cares truly about you he will accept what you say and want to quit regardless of him being addicted or not sounds like a bad thing to do but it has worked for a number off my friends that have tried to do drugs or have gone back to them, but if he is not cooperating and you have tried everything then you need to threaten the relationship by saying that if he dont sort out his act or talk to you about if and why he is doing drugs, if he cares truly about you he will accept what you say and want to quit regardless of him being addicted or not

]]> By: Charlotte http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1257 Charlotte Sat, 05 Jun 2010 18:24:52 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1257 In all honesty think you should talk to him and if what he says makees you feel nervous or anything then I really think you should leave him x x I hope everything works out for you x x In all honesty think you should talk to him and if what he says makees you feel nervous or anything then I really think you should leave him x x

I hope everything works out for you x x

]]> By: Jema And Jordi http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1197 Jema And Jordi Mon, 10 May 2010 10:18:32 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1197 i think that should talk to him but be calm and understand what he is trying to say without being judgemental hope this helps x x i think that should talk to him but be calm and understand what he is trying to say without being judgemental hope this helps x x

]]> By: Margarita Lleonart http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1127 Margarita Lleonart Thu, 22 Apr 2010 18:43:12 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1127 I think you should finish this relationship with your boyfrend, he will not able change his life and he make you feel very sad because you don't can help him. I think you should finish this relationship with your boyfrend, he will not able change his life and he make you feel very sad because you don’t can help him.

]]> By: Oriol http://myagonyaunt.com/think-he-is-on-drugs/#comment-1125 Oriol Thu, 22 Apr 2010 18:37:37 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=177#comment-1125 You should try of help your boyfriend in this problem, you will try but I don't think the best solution is leave you boyfriend because he have a big problem. You can try speak with he, if he pass of you, you speak in secret with your partner's and looked a center of desintoxication for a people with this problem or try first speak with doctor speciallized on psiquiatric. You should try of help your boyfriend in this problem, you will try but I don’t think the best solution is leave you boyfriend because he have a big problem. You can try speak with he, if he pass of you, you speak in secret with your partner’s and looked a center of desintoxication for a people with this problem or try first speak with doctor speciallized on psiquiatric.

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