I think he is back on drugs
I’m 17 years old and have been with my 22-year-old boyfriend for around 6
months. We have always had a good time together and have always got on really
well up until a few weeks ago when he started to act a little strangely.
Over the past few weeks he’s been disappearing for a few days and know one has been able to contact him and when he has been around he’s been really paranoid and has been acting irrationally about everything.
Up until a year ago my boyfriend was a cocaine addict but claims that he would never take drugs again because of the amount of things he lost when he was on the drugs, but with the way that he’s acting it makes me think that maybe he is back on cocaine. I really don’t know what to do because I love him so much and don’t want to loose but if he is taking drugs again I don’t think that it would be a good idea to stay with him.
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TALK TO HIM, it is the only way, don’t carry on being suspicious when you have not even given him a chance to explain. He might just be going through a rough patch like maybe a relative just died or something and maybe he is just upset or maybe this has made him resort to drugs. No matter what, you will never know until you ask him and if so you should try and help him through it but if he does not stop you may need to leave him
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I think you need to talk to him honestly about your concerns; in a calm way. Do not be judgemental and let him know if he does have any problems you will be there for him. Encourage him to open up and if he can’t talk to you about it suggest he discusses it with a friend, family member etc. Don’t be upset if he finds it harder to talk to you, it may be because you are too close and he doesn’t want you to be disapointed with him. It may take him a while to admit it to himself if he is using again; time, patience and understanding is all you can do atm. Sometimes writing things down can help- for both of you. Maybe get him to remember the reasons he gave up before and things that helped him to do so.
Hope this helps a bit.
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i think you should you leave your boyfriend, he is a bad influence. You should talk with a professional.
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I think you should to talk to him about the drugs and your relationship. You should try to understad him about the great problem, for his physical, mental and society being, and for his relationship, because when a person takes drugs becomes another person, without real sensations and emotions. You can also speak about legal problems with police and justice, and you can talk about economic problems. Another good argument for me, is about the bad people that he can meet when he looks for drugs.
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You should try of help your boyfriend in this problem, you will try but I don’t think the best solution is leave you boyfriend because he have a big problem. You can try speak with he, if he pass of you, you speak in secret with your partner’s and looked a center of desintoxication for a people with this problem or try first speak with doctor speciallized on psiquiatric.
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I think you should finish this relationship with your boyfrend, he will not able change his life and he make you feel very sad because you don’t can help him.
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i think that should talk to him but be calm and understand what he is trying to say without being judgemental hope this helps x x
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In all honesty think you should talk to him and if what he says makees you feel nervous or anything then I really think you should leave him x x
I hope everything works out for you x x
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sounds like a bad thing to do but it has worked for a number off my friends that have tried to do drugs or have gone back to them, but if he is not cooperating and you have tried everything then you need to threaten the relationship by saying that if he dont sort out his act or talk to you about if and why he is doing drugs, if he cares truly about you he will accept what you say and want to quit regardless of him being addicted or not
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