i have been seeing a guy now for 3 and a half years, he is in a relationship, with 2 young children.  When we first got together i knew about this, and accepted that fact, that was 3 years ago, we are very close, before he had financial problems i would see him all the time 3 or 4 times a week, but he lives 40 miles from me, so the petrol prices and financial matters at home took hold, and he couldnt get over to see me as much, sometimes would be 6 weeks or so before i see him.

We chatted online every night, or emailed each other at work or he would ring me…….. so very close, and i love him a lot.   2 weeks ago, he called me on a sunday night, and said that he had left her (things had been on the verge of this for a few months) he had nowhere to go, so like a good friend i invited him to stay with me for the night and although he ummd and arrrd, he did eventually come over and stay with me the night, he left for home the next day, looking for somewhere to live as he had left his family home….

i txt him later that day, but i got no reply, in fact i got no reply all week to any of my txts, i was heartbroken, i couldnt understand why he was not answering me… i sent him 4 texts on sunday, a week after he had left her, and got no answer….. then monday i got a txt back, saying he had turned his phone off for some isolation, to sort his head out… he had not gone back to her, he was at his brothers…. i txt him back saying i would take a back seat for now, let him get sorted, and told him he knows where i am if he needs me….. that was a week ago… he has not contacted me again… as u can imagine, i have never gone this long without speaking to him for 3 years.. its killing me… i keep wanting to txt him again to see how he is… but if he doesnt answer me i will be even more depressed…

my question is really, is this normal for a man to just not talk to the person he has been speaking to for 3 years….. i guess its a huge thing to walk out of a 14 year relationship and leave your 2 young kids too…. but should he at least let me know whats going on?  should i txt him?  should i just wait till he contacts me?  will he contact me?
Your advice would be much appreciated…. do you think i should try and forget him…. its soooo hard.