I’m 19 years old, and recently found myself having bad trust issues, it’s
mostly towards men.
I had men walk all over me over the last few years, the thing that hurt me most was something that happened nearly a year ago, i was on a night out with my friends when i was told that they’d caught my boyfriend of 6 months cheating on me, i was devastated and went to find someone to confide in, at the time that was a guy that to me was like a brother, my best friend.
I cryed and told him what happened, he hugged me and told me it’d be alright, but next thing i know his trying to touch me. I said no, but he said nothing, the more he tried the more i pushed away but he still wouldn’t stop, i looked him directly in the eyes and said no but he didnt look like my friend anymore, he held my arm down still saying nothing, i couldn’t understand why he was doing this to me.
After about what seemed like forever I passed out, not sure why, whether it was my nerves, or the amount i had to drink, i don’t think he raped me but in the morning my jeans were undone and halfway down my thigh.
That morning i wanted to die, but he acted as if nothing had happened, taking to me like he normally would. Him acting this way threw me and i said nothing. I didn’t know how to act, he still talks to me now and i still havn’t told him how much he hurt me, it makes me feel guilty and horrid.
I kept it bottled up, pretending i didn’t care, and not talking to anyone about
what i was feeling, i eventully pushed it so far to the back of my mind it
seemed unreal, but now it’s exploded and i’m pushing away everyone close to me.
Relationships with guys seems impossible, i can’t stand them touching me and as soon as a male friend crosses the line slightly i start throwing barriers up.
I also have started to find myself been attracted to girls, i’m not sure if
this is because the way i was treated or genuinly how i am feeling.
i’m so confused please help?
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ive been with my boyfriend over 15 months. in the last two months ive tried
breaking up with him twice but he just cries and begs me not to leave him. the
thing is i feel like im not allowed to do anything without him but hes allowed
to do what he wants without me.
everyone says that i wear the trousers in the relationship which i do to some extent but when it comes to my life he overalls.
ive even started txing other blokes and thought about cheating and that is
really something that i would never dream of doing.. but its getting that bad
that i jst dont no what to do anymore..
if i break up with him i no that i wont like it cos i wont want him to be with anybody else but i really need some space and he just doesnt understand.. what can i do?
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Ive been in a relationship for over 2 years now but I dont feel the same as i did towards her anymore. Little things are annoying me and Im just not happy. We are looking to move in together which I really dont want to do because I know it will be a nightmare. Im not sure whether to ride it out or end it. I dont want to hurt her.
I used to have commitment issues and we have split over these before. We got back together because I really did love her but its less than a year since that and now Im doubting whether I want a future with her. She will think its a commitment ‘thing’ again but it isnt.
Any advice would be great.
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Me and my fiance have been driving for a baby for a couple of months hes had 2 kids previously, ive never had kids as im quite young.
My fiance used to do drugs but stopped taking them about 3 months ago. I don’t know wether its me or him who can’t have kids? Please help what should I do? I just want a baby to make mine and my fiance’s life complete.
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Please help – i don’t know what to do.
I was with my boyfriend for 7 years and we split up abput 2 years ago. In that time we both met other people. However, we have always kept in touch and he has always been my rock and for the last few months we have become close again and decided to take things slow and give it another go. About 2 weeks ago he decided to meet with his ex to tell her and to ask her not to contact him anymore. 4 days later she calls and tells him she is 2 1/2 mths pregnant. She wants to keep the baby, and he has told her he will support her as much as he can.
What do i do? i love him so much, but when i imagine him being a father its to my child – not someone elses. He also seems so worried of saying anything to stress her out in case she turns on him and refuses to let him see the child when he/she is born.
i don’t want to be selfish in this and know he has a lot on his plate – but i don’t know where i fit in all this. we haven’t even really made ‘us’ official again and i know his family will probably rather he made a go of it with his ex. But i am worried the jealousy and insecurity will kill me – what/where am i to be when she gives birth? what if she uses the baby to constantly be in touch? and my biggest fear, what if i prepare to turn my life upside down and support him and he goes back to her?
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I was 15 when I met my ex, 16 when we split up.
I’m now 23 and I still think about him daily. I dont know what is going on with his life, I havent seen him
for about a year or more. I would like to contact him but have no address other than his mother’s, and I know he doesnt live at home anymore.
Should I contact him and tell him I still think about him and maybe still love him or should I leave him be? Maybe he still thinks about me? I was stupid to let him go and I broke his heart, I was young and didnt understand love and relationships. Now I know he was the one for me, but do I contact him and risk upsetting him or myself?
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im 22 and and currently a single parent, i haven’t had much luck in my past relationships as they have usually turned out abusive.
I split from my ex in march but i have strong feelings for him still and keep getting him back involved in my life after we go a couple of months without speaking, he tells me he wont treat me like before and i really believe him. I am confused, i love this person but i don’t know if i really do want to do get back with him, but i cant bare the fact he might move on.
Not only that i was texting one if his best friends and we almost did something we may have regretted, this person has also declared their love for me and now i feel trapped between them both and scared that if i did get back with my ex his friend might tell him or may have told someone else and this will surely take him back to his old ways and destroy his trust he thinks he has in me, although this was a serious issue within our relationship the first time around, even though there was no reason.
The whole relationship with my ex has been complicated from the start, as he has his own children from a previous relationship, this was an issue for me because i found out they had been texting each other and heard rumors that they had slept together whilst he was with me, also his family dislike for other reasons, how can i decide what to do?
ive been hurt and i dont want to get hurt again but i yet i still think about my ex and seriously considering to agree to be in a relationship with my ex, the only thing stopping me is the fling i had with his friend, and i dont want to hurt him either…please help.
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I hope you can help me, approx one year ago I asked my godfather to move into our house permenantly to help our financial situation since then things have been going well.
The thing is, I am not sure if there is something going on between my mum and my godfather. Every now and then they act very secretive (and we have no secrets) and very weird. Yesterday when I went into my mum’s bedroom to see if she was alright her PJ’s were on the floor including her under garments and this is not the case as she went to bed in them last night as I said good night and turned her light off.
It might be me being stupid but I need some advice, and I hope you can shed some light on this. My godfather’s behaviour is very weirde sometimes he acts very flirtatious with my mum and it creeps me out…
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I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years and have cheated on him several times. I recently met someone else who I was seeing for just over a month but decided that I wanted to make things work with my boyfriend so finished it but now I can’t stop thinking about the other guy and want to get back in touch with him.
I feel that maybe my boyfriend isn’t the one as I’ve cheated on him so much but feel he would give me security for the future. I’m so confused and don’t know what to do, please help.
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Hi I’m a single mum with 3 children and have been seeing this guy for about 2mths and everything has been going well until the beginning of this week. He has children of his own and they stay quite away from him,but the problem is his children didnt want to see him and that has been over a year now and there was nothing he could do about it but wait.
The wait paid off as they now want to see him,which is great news. He was shocked with the out of blue text. Thing is since he got the text he has told me he wants space to clear his head as he has lots on his mind from thinking about what he’s gonna be like with and what to say to his kids as its been so long and think about things with me,whether he wants to be with me and other stuff and says he’s gonna be quiet..whats confusing is he says were still together,wants to keep in contact..
I havent heard back from him and not sure if i should just leave it for him to contact me and give him the space he needs and also how long to leave it for before i get in touch and ask him what is happening as im only human and have feelings as well and need to know where i stand..hope you can help me with my dilemma as dont want to do the wrong thing…look forward to your help,many thanks
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