I’ve been with my boyfriend for around 18 months now. I never thought I’d meet someone who made me as happy as he did and we made such a great couple with so much in common. We moved in together a few months ago (I moved a few hundred miles to be with him) and I have been under a lot of pressure with my job since we have lived together. Last week he told me that he has felt differently since we had a huge argument last months. I was devastated as he did not share this with me. He said my mood swings were unbearable and he felt like I was a different person. He said that he still loves me and we are trying to work things out. I am due to start a new job which will take a lot of pressure off me and I think that things would have improved drastically anyway but since we had our talk I have been making much more of an effort to not snap at him or cause arguments.

The problem is that even though he is talking about the future and keeps saying that he feels as though he has got his old girlfriend back, I still feel uneasy. I cry every day and have horrible dreams every night about our relationship ending. I feel tortured. I am paranoid all the time if he doesn’t answer when I call him and think he is going to finish our relationship every night when I get home. Although he is saying the right words I just have a bad gut feeling. My feelings may be right but I may also be paranoid. The fact he has felt differently and I did not pick up on it makes me feel like I’ve had the carpet pulled from under my feet. I just feel so low and don’t know what to say or do. I am too scared to talk to him about it because he indicates that everything is back to normal between us but I don’t fell normal. I feel like our relationship has shifted and I don’t know if it can go back!