Comments on: Should I stop using the computer http://myagonyaunt.com/should-i-stop-using-the-computer/ Relationship Advice Mon, 05 Sep 2011 20:39:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Natasha http://myagonyaunt.com/should-i-stop-using-the-computer/#comment-1728 Natasha Thu, 24 Feb 2011 21:07:06 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=20#comment-1728 I think you are very brave and i love the way you trust you're dad again. I think your dad was very controlling and should not have acted like that BUT it was in the past it will never go away and i know it will always be there but it WAS in the past and i think these things should not be forgotten but not be brought up in your mind frequently. It wasnt you're falt you should not be blabed for what happened. Dont put yourself down at all. I think you should talk to your dad (if you have'nt done already) it will help, he needs to know how you feel even you dont just talking about it will help. I hope that every thing helped and that you sort it out with your dad x I think you are very brave and i love the way you trust you’re dad again. I think your dad was very controlling and should not have acted like that BUT it was in the past it will never go away and i know it will always be there but it WAS in the past and i think these things should not be forgotten but not be brought up in your mind frequently.

It wasnt you’re falt you should not be blabed for what happened. Dont put yourself down at all. I think you should talk to your dad (if you have’nt done already) it will help, he needs to know how you feel even you dont just talking about it will help.

I hope that every thing helped and that you sort it out with your dad x

]]> By: KARIM http://myagonyaunt.com/should-i-stop-using-the-computer/#comment-1066 KARIM Wed, 07 Apr 2010 10:53:50 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=20#comment-1066 hi i want just to say that whatever our parents behave we should see it a funny thing give them the needed respect and surely they will feel better and no longer oblige you to stop any thing hi i want just to say that
whatever our parents behave we should see it a funny thing
give them the needed respect
and surely they will feel better
and no longer oblige you to stop any thing

]]> By: suzi http://myagonyaunt.com/should-i-stop-using-the-computer/#comment-546 suzi Sat, 29 Aug 2009 22:11:34 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=20#comment-546 your father is a dangerous stupid man. use the internet as much as you like but maybe you should shut it away from yourself when you have homework to do your father is a dangerous stupid man. use the internet as much as you like but maybe you should shut it away from yourself when you have homework to do

]]> By: Brittney http://myagonyaunt.com/should-i-stop-using-the-computer/#comment-363 Brittney Sat, 13 Jun 2009 21:31:16 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=20#comment-363 I'm holding back from unleashing a large amount of rage. Your father was very immature and you should not have been punished like that. He shouldn't be so controlling! I spend HOURS upon HOURS on the computer and yes my mom gets pretty angry with me but not once has she smashed my computer or needed to be dragged off to jail. She'll simply disconnect the internet or take my laptop away for a few days. Your father is unruly and controlling because he didn't want you to talking to a guy. I would understand if it was a complete stranger but it was a friend of a friend and I'm sure nothing bad would have come from it. I’m holding back from unleashing a large amount of rage.
Your father was very immature and you should not have been punished like that. He shouldn’t be so controlling!
I spend HOURS upon HOURS on the computer and yes my mom gets pretty angry with me but not once has she smashed my computer or needed to be dragged off to jail. She’ll simply disconnect the internet or take my laptop away for a few days.
Your father is unruly and controlling because he didn’t want you to talking to a guy. I would understand if it was a complete stranger but it was a friend of a friend and I’m sure nothing bad would have come from it.

]]> By: sam http://myagonyaunt.com/should-i-stop-using-the-computer/#comment-168 sam Mon, 13 Apr 2009 01:13:23 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=20#comment-168 You have approached the situation with great maturity - you went through a lot after last time and you've certainly made some difficult choices along the way but you shouldn't have to stop socialising online by any means. Aslong as you get the work/play balance right, and make sure that you don't meet up randomly with strangers without anyone knowing before hand, then you will have an easier time than before. It's ont a crime to chat to your friends online, but always tell an adult if you want to go and meet up with someone you've met online. Your dad underneath, was obviously very worried about the situation. Show him it won't happen again by keeping him posted on what you're doing online. You have approached the situation with great maturity – you went through a lot after last time and you’ve certainly made some difficult choices along the way but you shouldn’t have to stop socialising online by any means. Aslong as you get the work/play balance right, and make sure that you don’t meet up randomly with strangers without anyone knowing before hand, then you will have an easier time than before. It’s ont a crime to chat to your friends online, but always tell an adult if you want to go and meet up with someone you’ve met online. Your dad underneath, was obviously very worried about the situation. Show him it won’t happen again by keeping him posted on what you’re doing online.

]]> By: Lisa http://myagonyaunt.com/should-i-stop-using-the-computer/#comment-10 Lisa Sat, 04 Oct 2008 17:46:35 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=20#comment-10 I admire the fact you stopped using the computer for so long& did the right thing by not chatting to strangers on msn, therefore regaining your dad's trust& confidence. I do have to say that even though I understand your dad's fears for you, his reaction was way overboard and you're not entirely responsible for his behaviour. You SHOULD have behaved more responsibly. But teenagers DO get carried away& he should have handled things in a calmer more mature fashion. Having said that, it's important that you learn from your mistakes. You don't want to cause another rift in the family. Try to limit computer time to say one hour a day. Set an alarm to know when the hour is up and then force yourself to get out and walk, or do homework, visit friends, or read a book. The more time you spend on school work & the more time you devote to family, friends, and hobbies- the less time you will spend on the computer. Also stay away from msn and don't chat to strangers; it's not safe. Pls don't put yr parents through more needless worry. There'll be plenty of time to chat in a few years when you're older& wiser. Even then it's better to be safe and only chat with people you know well or have met first or can be vouched for by others you trust (someone through work, a friend of yr family, etc). It would also be a good idea to have a chat with your dad& thank him for the computer. Tell him you're glad he trusts you again& you'll try to spend less time on it so he doesn't worry. Assure him you're not chatting to anyone, that you learned your lesson, and that his friendship is important to you. Then MEAN it and KEEP your word. This is hard but it's a test of character. I know you can do it. Good luck. I admire the fact you stopped using the computer for so long& did the right thing by not chatting to strangers on msn, therefore regaining your dad’s trust& confidence.

I do have to say that even though I understand your dad’s fears for you, his reaction was way overboard and you’re not entirely responsible for his behaviour.

You SHOULD have behaved more responsibly. But teenagers DO get carried away& he should have handled things in a calmer more mature fashion.

Having said that, it’s important that you learn from your mistakes. You don’t want to cause another rift in the family.

Try to limit computer time to say one hour a day. Set an alarm to know when the hour is up and then force yourself to get out and walk, or do homework, visit friends, or read a book.

The more time you spend on school work & the more time you devote to family, friends, and hobbies- the less time you will spend on the computer. Also stay away from msn and don’t chat to strangers; it’s not safe. Pls don’t put yr parents through more needless worry.

There’ll be plenty of time to chat in a few years when you’re older& wiser. Even then it’s better to be safe and only chat with people you know well or have met first or can be vouched for by others you trust (someone through work, a friend of yr family, etc).

It would also be a good idea to have a chat with your dad& thank him for the computer. Tell him you’re glad he trusts you again& you’ll try to spend less time on it so he doesn’t worry. Assure him you’re not chatting to anyone, that you learned your lesson, and that his friendship is important to you. Then MEAN it and KEEP your word.

This is hard but it’s a test of character. I know you can do it. Good luck.

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