Should I Contact Him?

It might be that you only think about him because he was your first love and you haven’t met anyone else since. It’s unlikely you’re meant to be together – otherwise you would have stayed together.

If you really want to meet him and find out about his life, there’s no harm. Just call his mom’s house& ask his family for his new address. But pls be prepared that he may not want to see you again- or that he may be involved with someone else.

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maybe contact him and catch up, don’t jump in the deep end too soon and tell him you still love him cause it would shock him and remember that you split up for a reason and you may need to talk about that in time. but you could suggest a new start and forget the past but somepeople find it hard to move on. if you still feel for him then definatley get in contact because if you think about him all the time it’s obviously making you unhappy. contact him and suggest you meet to catch up and remember alot could of happened in a year.

u got nutink 2 lose u need 2 contact him it cud be the best choice u eva made nd u’ll only regret it if u dont u’ll just wonder wat wud ave happend if u did. if he dont feel da same den u’ll move on if he does den u’ll get all u want. evrytink happens 4 a reason. u’ll regret it if u do nd he dnt feel da same but trust me u’ll regret it soooooo much more if u dont find out nd if all goes rong u cud still b m8s plz plz plz contact him it cudnt get anyworse !!!

get in contact with him.. uve got nothing to lose. whether hes got a new partner or not he’ll probably be pleased to hear from you and it will get it off your mind. i always think everything happen for a reason so ur still thinking about him for a reason and now you just gotta find out what that reason is. so contact him, see how hes doing. even if he doesnt turn around and say that he still loves you, who knows you may end up starting a really good friendship.

You should contact him or else this is going to bug you your entire life. Find out how he is and what he has been upto. What ever you do, but please do not tell him your feelings immediately. Catch up with what you have missed. If he still feels the same for you.. Good luck lady! Else, you know what to do.. Remember.. you’ve just got this life to live.. Enjoy every moment… Wish you all the best… Cheers!!!

i think you should contact him because you need ta tell him hyow you feel and then you will now how he feels aswelll x good luck hun x

i say go for it if u dnt it will always be at the back of your mind thinking what could of happened. Least if you get in touch you can see whether anything will develop..

Hope it works out for u x

Yes just do it!
the worst thing can happen that you don’t find him or he wouldnt’t contact you.
So try it!!!
Good luck!

Do it. You’ll regret it some day if you don’t. My ex-fiance and I split up many years ago and although we both married other people I’ve often thought about him and wanted to get in touch, but was too scared. I didn’t want to harm either marriage, but wanted to lay some ghosts to rest. We parted on bad terms and I hated that it was left like that; there was no closure and I felt terrible that the first man I’d ever loved would, if he thought of me at all, think of me with bitterness.

To cut a long story short, I was told a few years ago that he was very ill, that his illness was most likely terminal. I didn’t know what to do, but rang him – how really strange to hear his voice all after all those years. We talked about the past and I apologised for my part in our break-up and told him how I’d wanted to contact him earlier, but didn’t dare to do it. He said he’d seen me at various times in our local town over the years, but hadn’t dared come over to speak to me, especially as I was usually with my husband. I can’t tell you the relief of finally speaking to him, hearing him say he bore me no ill will and never had. But how I wish we’d been in contact sooner, so that the shadow of his illness wasn’t there. We rang each other a few times after that, again mostly talking about the past, but then his illness got worse and that was it; I didn’t hear from him again. I couldn’t phone him at home because he’d told me his wife had forbidden him years ago to ever speak to me again. (This was another reason he hadn’t come to speak to me when he saw me in town; he hadn’t wanted to break his promise or upset her.)

He died and is buried in a local cemetry, just behind where my dad is buried. I see his grave every time I go to my dad’s; it’s always untidy and uncared for, so I tidy it up a bit and sometimes put flowers on it. His widow and son live nearby, but don’t seem to bother.

I’m glad I had the chance to put things right before he died, but just wish I’d got in touch sooner. So go for; contact your ex and meet up, if he agrees to see you, and talk over the past. Who knows? you may still have a future together which would be wonderful, but if not at least you’ll have got rid of the horrible memories of your break-up. You’ll know you tried and that is all you can do. But don’t neglect to do it; you’ll regret it if you do.

conact him. don’t tell him you love him but just make a friendship and build your relationship up. then just see how everything goes.

i was in a smiliar situation like this once but whenever i asked for advice everyone always told me that if there was a chance that the lad felt the same way then he would contact me. and that if he still liked me the way he said he did then he would make an effort to and that i should have been the one always making the effort to see him it should have been the other way around. at the time i remember thinking well what if he doesnt have the guts to contact me, but now i look back and wish i had listened more to those around me .

i know it might seem harsh putting it that way but its true tbh. and if you believe that there could be a chance that he feels the same way then contact him, but before you do think about how it could end and the possibilities it could end with. how would you feel if he had found someone else ? what if he didnt like you that way anymore ?

hope my advice helped.

I know exactly how you feel, and I think the real problem is that you are scared of his reaction, but what should happen??
When you find him and he doesn’t want to speak with your life will go on the same way and you have got your answer or maybe everything will went well.
Try it!!! I hope my advice will help you

I don’t have a solution but i know how you feel. For a time i was really intimate with a someone and we spoke all day everyday and spent so much time together and everything seemed perfect. But i could never bring myself to make a move or tell her how i felt because i was petrified she would reject me even though she seemed to be showing an interest in me. Eventually i told her that i couldn’t speak to her anymore because i liked her and it was making it difficult for me. I told her this in the hope that she would tell me there was no need because she felt the same way. However that response wasn’t forthcoming and we didn’t talk for months. She then tried talking to me telling me she really missed me, so naturally i was pulled back in, only to discover i had the exact same problem as before. So i tried to find any excuse to not talk to her again as it was so difficult for me, especially as she was by now in and out of relationships with other people. But every time i didn’t speak to her for a few months she would keep pulling me back in somehow. She told me that she wasn’t with her footballer boyfriend for the money, i didn’t believe her but didn’t want to come across bitter and jealous. One day she told me she had broken up with him after he called her fat and told her to lose weight. However she has recently got back with him, proving that she can’t be interested in anything other than money. She’s changed so much since when i fell in love with her, and i can’t help feeling that if i’d done something maybe i could have protected her from becoming what she has become. But before they got back together when she spoke to me it was as if she just assumed i didn’t like her anymore, when really i’ve felt the same way about her for 3 years now, and still do, even though i wont let myself speak to her. I can tell that she thinks i don’t think about her at all, but really she couldn’t be more wrong. Even though she’s treated me really badly i still love her, and i hate myself for it. I know i’ll never be able to tell her how i feel, which is a shame.