My parent had a baby and I am jealous
By Agony Aunt | October 20, 2008
my parents just had a new baby and i am really jealous because i feel left out and forgotten. please help and tell me wot to do ? !
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I’m sorry you’re feeling jealous. It’s natural for mom and dad to give the new baby attention as the new baby is small and needs all their love and care. Of course, you need their love too& they do love you very much- so much they wanted another baby to share with you. The problem is they’re probably so stressed out by looking after the new baby (as you know babies need lots of care) that they just lack the energy to give you as much time& attention as you also need.
The best thing is to sit down with your parents (or one of them) when the baby’s asleep and they’re in a quiet mood. Tell them that you’re lonely as you love them and want their attention but feel their time is consumed by the baby. Explain that you do understand why that is& that babies need lots of care but that you also need to spend time with them& feel their love for you. Offer to help out with doing small things for the baby like heating her milk bottle of helping bathe her or hold her (you can watch & learn how). This will lessen your jealous of the baby as you will see how helpless this small creature is. Plus if you help you’ll have more time with your parents& they will appreciate you more & have more time for you to show you their love.
Also be patient and remember this hard time will pass. Give time to your friends and get out with them& make time for your hobbies like reading or walking or music. Exercise is great for making you feel better& that way you won’t be focused on this baby issue 24/7.
Remind yourself that you’re important and that you do count& that your parents love you. Put yourself in their shoes and imagine how tired you’d feel if you had a baby to look after. Your poor mom has to get up at night to feed the baby& doesn’t get any sleep these days. Remind yourself of that when you feel bad. Do breathing exercises (breathe in from the nose and out from the mouth) deep breathing & feel as if you’re releasing your problems. Then go listen to relaxing music. It helps to talk to friends your age who might have a younger brother or sister and who’ve gone through the same problem. Take care& keep reminding yourself this time will pass.
I hope the advice I gave helped you. You can find me anytime at my website: anonymousletters.net
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