My parent had a baby and I am jealous

I’m sorry you’re feeling jealous. It’s natural for mom and dad to give the new baby attention as the new baby is small and needs all their love and care. Of course, you need their love too& they do love you very much- so much they wanted another baby to share with you. The problem is they’re probably so stressed out by looking after the new baby (as you know babies need lots of care) that they just lack the energy to give you as much time& attention as you also need.

The best thing is to sit down with your parents (or one of them) when the baby’s asleep and they’re in a quiet mood. Tell them that you’re lonely as you love them and want their attention but feel their time is consumed by the baby. Explain that you do understand why that is& that babies need lots of care but that you also need to spend time with them& feel their love for you. Offer to help out with doing small things for the baby like heating her milk bottle of helping bathe her or hold her (you can watch & learn how). This will lessen your jealous of the baby as you will see how helpless this small creature is. Plus if you help you’ll have more time with your parents& they will appreciate you more & have more time for you to show you their love.

Also be patient and remember this hard time will pass. Give time to your friends and get out with them& make time for your hobbies like reading or walking or music. Exercise is great for making you feel better& that way you won’t be focused on this baby issue 24/7.

Remind yourself that you’re important and that you do count& that your parents love you. Put yourself in their shoes and imagine how tired you’d feel if you had a baby to look after. Your poor mom has to get up at night to feed the baby& doesn’t get any sleep these days. Remind yourself of that when you feel bad. Do breathing exercises (breathe in from the nose and out from the mouth) deep breathing & feel as if you’re releasing your problems. Then go listen to relaxing music. It helps to talk to friends your age who might have a younger brother or sister and who’ve gone through the same problem. Take care& keep reminding yourself this time will pass.

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I think we’d all feel like that. It’s tough when anyone leaves you out for someone new; but remember they are your parents and they still love you just as much. Babies take up a lot of time and effort, but when this baby gets older its going to be you it wants to aspire to be. We have a different relationship with our siblings than our parents; you’re going to be a massive part of it’s life and pretty soon your parents will be feeling left out thinking ‘I wonder what they talk about when we’re not around’.

I know the feeling last year my mum and her boyfriend had a baby and i felt the same. I do have a younger sister but i was young when she was born so i grew up with her but now i am older i felt slightly embarrassed. I didn’t want to be involved as mum is 40 this year and my little bro is one. Now he is here i would not change it for the world. It will become natural to you after a while try not to think much about it. keep calm as you are just as important. Baby’s are Dependant and need as much support as possible as now your older you are my independent and don’t need as much this does not mean you are less important it shows that they are treating you as one of the adults. It will all be ok in the end dont you worry.

It is your responsibility to look after the baby. When the gril/boy grows up she/he ‘ll love you more than anyrthing else. You shouldn’t be jealous cause when you were a nbaby your parents also looked aftre you as they do now.

Hey there,

I know it’s hard to accept that your parents now have another child to love and you may feel like your being pushed out of the picture but you will eventually come to understand and love your new sibling.

Everything will be okay trust me on this one.

Lots of love.

I know what do you feel as feelings, I felt the same thing also. When my sister was born, I felt aside, a little forgotten and I had been becoming very jealous, it is stupid. The time had all arranged and I spoke about it to my parents and they understood what I felt, now that’s better .
You should not feel aside and forgotten.
It is normal that your parents take load has little more the new baby, it is the beginning.
Don’t worry. You will see, with time it will be better .You should try to speak to them, I’m sure that they will understand
I hope that I helped you.
Bye

What utterly useless parents. The world centres so much around them that you get squeezed in last, awh but once you have to do something about it. Kids who cut themselves, anorexia or eating disorders, suicide attempts, all from parents who wont give their kids attention like laughing at their jokes, making them feel loved and wanted, and later when kids experience others in life, they get this and change, with a few thinking changes needing to happen, and when older, the parents show personality disorders, and blatant selfishness and neglect of their own kids. Then they become troublemaking grandparents. A parent is meant to consider the feeling of a child. The child does not tell the parents how to parent. The adult should know. And they do know. Trouble is, people think age and education brings wisdom and everyone is nice. Dont worry, there is worse. Two teenagers dating for 2 years, then their parents date each other, with no respect of their kids. Yes, you can say something, but it wont change a bad person who is their parent.

I know this year my mum is having a baby im happy for her but i feel very jealous because i wont be able to do much with her anymore