Comments on: My friend is a compulsive liar http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/ Relationship Advice Sat, 19 Jun 2010 21:21:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Demi http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1299 Demi Sat, 19 Jun 2010 21:21:40 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1299 If you've asked her enough, then say 'ok, that's it. I would like to know if you are lying to us/what else you've been lying about/ and why. I'm sorry but I have asked on more than one occasion and I haven't got an answer. I still want to be your friend but it won't work if you don't tell the truth. I'll give you a chance to explain this to me, but if you can't or if you avoid the question again, then we can't hang out any more.' It sounds harsh but there's no way this can be sorted if she's still not telling the truth or answering you. Be firm, but kind. give her a chance then, if she is still lying, it's your own decision whether you want to continue to be friends with her or not, although I'd be pretty wary. I hope I helped. Good luck! :) xxx If you’ve asked her enough, then say ‘ok, that’s it. I would like to know if you are lying to us/what else you’ve been lying about/ and why. I’m sorry but I have asked on more than one occasion and I haven’t got an answer. I still want to be your friend but it won’t work if you don’t tell the truth. I’ll give you a chance to explain this to me, but if you can’t or if you avoid the question again, then we can’t hang out any more.’ It sounds harsh but there’s no way this can be sorted if she’s still not telling the truth or answering you. Be firm, but kind. give her a chance then, if she is still lying, it’s your own decision whether you want to continue to be friends with her or not, although I’d be pretty wary. I hope I helped. Good luck! :) xxx

]]> By: emily http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1261 emily Sat, 05 Jun 2010 23:48:45 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1261 hi maybe shes feelin a bit left out? or mabey shes tryin to get sum attention? or maybe shes telin the truth. either way its not fun bein stuck in the middle ive had enough experience with me mam and dad. but its not fair on u either. oneday wen its just u and her ask her about it nicely dont be git angry and way to eager to bust her but also dont stumble around the situation just be nice and maybe shell tell u hope it works x emily age 9 hi maybe shes feelin a bit left out? or mabey shes tryin to get sum attention?
or maybe shes telin the truth. either way its not fun bein stuck in the
middle ive had enough experience with me mam and dad. but its not fair on u either. oneday wen its just u and her ask her about it nicely dont be git angry and way to eager to bust her but also dont stumble around the situation just be nice and maybe shell tell u
hope it works x emily age 9

]]> By: Your Luva http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1208 Your Luva Mon, 17 May 2010 18:12:37 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1208 Maybe she's having a hard time at the moment? She might be hiding stuff and making BIG conversations so she doesn't have to tell you? Maybe she’s having a hard time at the moment? She might be hiding stuff and making BIG conversations so she doesn’t have to tell you?

]]> By: Chloee http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1194 Chloee Fri, 07 May 2010 22:40:12 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1194 Hey I've got a similar problem with one of my friends, except she's not lying to the same extremes as your friend is. However, what myself and others reckon is that she lies in order to make herself feel more accepted or more alike the people she surrounds herself with. It can be difficult to talk to her and ask her what is true and what isn't, but just be quietly tolerant of it until it reaches a certain point and then make her aware that you recognise these lies. Hope this helps and it all turns out okay for you all =] x Hey
I’ve got a similar problem with one of my friends, except she’s not lying to the same extremes as your friend is. However, what myself and others reckon is that she lies in order to make herself feel more accepted or more alike the people she surrounds herself with. It can be difficult to talk to her and ask her what is true and what isn’t, but just be quietly tolerant of it until it reaches a certain point and then make her aware that you recognise these lies.
Hope this helps and it all turns out okay for you all =]
x

]]> By: Gott.exe http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1176 Gott.exe Tue, 04 May 2010 18:58:37 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1176 Heyo 14-years old kid =) Well, that's a bad problem, but easy to clear. If her cousin really won the lottory, check youtube or google for it. Lottory winners will always be on the internet or in the news and if this isn't true, I think, there's way more not true. Or visit her and ask her dad... maybe just try telling her, that she doesn't have to lie to be your friend.. infact, she should tell the truth. I hope this will help me, my course teacher and, of course, you. Heyo 14-years old kid =)
Well, that’s a bad problem, but easy to clear. If her cousin really won the lottory, check youtube or google for it. Lottory winners will always be on the internet or in the news and if this isn’t true, I think, there’s way more not true. Or visit her and ask her dad… maybe just try telling her, that she doesn’t have to lie to be your friend.. infact, she should tell the truth.
I hope this will help me, my course teacher and, of course, you.

]]> By: Esther http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1156 Esther Sun, 02 May 2010 18:54:06 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1156 it sounds to me like she is just like anyone else. She is lying to make her life seem more intresting, we've all done it once or twice, stop trying to catch her out, this will never work she will always cover her tracks, but just be aware that she is trying to impress you. confront the problem point blank, tell her that you think her lying is immature and it is annoying you, but also tell her that you understand and that you will always be ok with her just as she is and that she doesnt need to lie to make you interested in her, this will keep her feeling accepted, hope this helps.xxx it sounds to me like she is just like anyone else. She is lying to make her life seem more intresting, we’ve all done it once or twice, stop trying to catch her out, this will never work she will always cover her tracks, but just be aware that she is trying to impress you. confront the problem point blank, tell her that you think her lying is immature and it is annoying you, but also tell her that you understand and that you will always be ok with her just as she is and that she doesnt need to lie to make you interested in her, this will keep her feeling accepted, hope this helps.xxx

]]> By: jennjenn http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1154 jennjenn Sat, 01 May 2010 21:11:56 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1154 ok, maybe some of those things are true but by the looks of things most of them arent . firstly sit down and talk to her ask her wats true and wats not . if she avoids the subject gently coax her into telling you how much of the truth shes really telling . if its really as bad as you say then you dont need her in your life and in my opinion shes looking for attention . ok, maybe some of those things are true but by the looks of things most of them arent . firstly sit down and talk to her ask her wats true and wats not . if she avoids the subject gently coax her into telling you how much of the truth shes really telling . if its really as bad as you say then you dont need her in your life and in my opinion shes looking for attention .

]]> By: abbie, olivia & elisha http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1149 abbie, olivia & elisha Thu, 29 Apr 2010 10:10:01 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1149 heyy x that is not acceptable!!! if she is able to lie about serious tthing like that then what else is she capable of. if she can lie abbout these she is not much of a 'friend' x heyy x
that is not acceptable!!!
if she is able to lie about serious tthing like that
then what else is she capable of. if she can lie abbout
these she is not much of a ‘friend’
x

]]> By: jordan http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1147 jordan Thu, 29 Apr 2010 10:09:12 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1147 Hi This is a really hard situation for you. But you really need to talk to her but give her a chance to explain if she was lying tell her its wrong and not to do it again but dont be too hard on her because there must be areason she told lies shes probably lacking confidence and wants attention tell her you’ll always be her friend or she wont tell you anything again and will be really upset. Or you could talk to her mum or dad and ask them if theres anything going on – just casually drop into conversation so is you Gran ok?? etc Goodluck And make sure she explains everything if she doesnt tell her its jeporadizing your friendship Hi
This is a really hard situation for you. But you really need to talk to her but give her a chance to explain if she was lying tell her its wrong and not to do it again but dont be too hard on her because there must be areason she told lies shes probably lacking confidence and wants attention tell her you’ll always be her friend or she wont tell you anything again and will be really upset.

Or you could talk to her mum or dad and ask them if theres anything going on – just casually drop into conversation so is you Gran ok?? etc
Goodluck
And make sure she explains everything if she doesnt tell her its jeporadizing your friendship

]]> By: Uhhuhher http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/comment-page-1/#comment-1120 Uhhuhher Wed, 21 Apr 2010 01:16:31 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1120 I think that this is very likely to be severe attention seeking due to insecruity and maybe other problems she can't discuss. Talk to her (in private and honour her privacy) about anything that may be troubling her. Make sure you are calm and non judgemental; if you go in making accusations she will get defensive and will be less likely to open up. It may take her a while to be able to admit things to you. Are there any signs of things not being quite right at home etc ? Encourage her to talk to an adult she feels comfortable with; teacher, doctor, family member etc. It is important to give attention to positive behaviour rather than negative i.e. lieing. She may feel insecure from not getting the attention she needs and has found that by telling these possible stories she will get this attention. If she starts to get attention when she is telling the truth and undertaking positive actions she will not feel the need to lie as much. Try to understand and be there for her. Also, make sure you get support for you too - by talking with a trusted adult, your family etc. Don't discuss this with other friends though as this may make her feel bullied and loose your trust. Hope this helps a bit. I think that this is very likely to be severe attention seeking due to insecruity and maybe other problems she can’t discuss.
Talk to her (in private and honour her privacy) about anything that may be troubling her. Make sure you are calm and non judgemental; if you go in making accusations she will get defensive and will be less likely to open up. It may take her a while to be able to admit things to you. Are there any signs of things not being quite right at home etc ? Encourage her to talk to an adult she feels comfortable with; teacher, doctor, family member etc.
It is important to give attention to positive behaviour rather than negative i.e. lieing. She may feel insecure from not getting the attention she needs and has found that by telling these possible stories she will get this attention. If she starts to get attention when she is telling the truth and undertaking positive actions she will not feel the need to lie as much.
Try to understand and be there for her. Also, make sure you get support for you too – by talking with a trusted adult, your family etc. Don’t discuss this with other friends though as this may make her feel bullied and loose your trust.
Hope this helps a bit.

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