Comments on: My friend is a compulsive liar http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/ Relationship Advice Mon, 05 Sep 2011 20:39:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Miss Controversial http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-2097 Miss Controversial Fri, 26 Aug 2011 13:30:05 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-2097 Tell her straight that if she wants to keep any friends and get by in life to stop lying. One day when she is telling the truth nobody will believe her. She obviously feels she needs to lie and needs to seek out in herself why she lies compulsively. Tell her straight that if she wants to keep any friends and get by in life to stop lying. One day when she is telling the truth nobody will believe her.

She obviously feels she needs to lie and needs to seek out in herself why she lies compulsively.

]]> By: jenna http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-2071 jenna Wed, 10 Aug 2011 21:14:46 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-2071 she might just want some attention she might feel isolated and wants to be involved so she makes things up to get people talking about it and having her the centre of attention, talk to her about it and say that your not taking sides and that you just want to help her if that doesnt work maybe talk to your parents or a close friend :D she might just want some attention she might feel isolated and wants to be involved so she makes things up to get people talking about it and having her the centre of attention, talk to her about it and say that your not taking sides and that you just want to help her if that doesnt work maybe talk to your parents or a close friend :D

]]> By: Leah http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-1954 Leah Sun, 05 Jun 2011 04:56:16 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1954 First of all, I know exactly how you feel!. My bestfriend can be a compulsive liar and she has been for two years now, it drove me insane at first but now I just try and ignore it. For example, she made up she went out with a 20 year old man while his wife was pregnant, she tried to hang herself and she's not a virgin. None of these are true!. She is probably doing this for attention and could feel ignored by you & your friends or her family. Take her to one side and say that you don't want to offend her but people are beginning to call her a liar and could she maybe start telling the truth?. Good luck!xxx First of all, I know exactly how you feel!. My bestfriend can be a compulsive liar and she has been for two years now, it drove me insane at first but now I just try and ignore it. For example, she made up she went out with a 20 year old man while his wife was pregnant, she tried to hang herself and she’s not a virgin. None of these are true!.
She is probably doing this for attention and could feel ignored by you & your friends or her family. Take her to one side and say that you don’t want to offend her but people are beginning to call her a liar and could she maybe start telling the truth?. Good luck!xxx

]]> By: Anna http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-1947 Anna Sun, 29 May 2011 17:07:59 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1947 I'm 15 and I have a very similar situation myself. My friend lies constantly about boy's fancying her outside of school. We try not to give her a reaction to it but one of my friends keep encouraging it and making it worse. Non of the things she tells us adds up and she is constantly changing her story. One of my mates asked one of the guys she was apparently with and he said he didn't even know who she was, when we confronted her about this she told us he only said that because 'he really hates' my friend who asked him. Then a few days later another friend (who he doesn't even know) asked him and he denied it again saying 'she sounds really weird'. It is causing so many fall outs within our group and we don't want to fall out with either of them (the girl who's lying and the girl who's encouraging it). Could someone please help? x I’m 15 and I have a very similar situation myself. My friend lies constantly about boy’s fancying her outside of school. We try not to give her a reaction to it but one of my friends keep encouraging it and making it worse. Non of the things she tells us adds up and she is constantly changing her story. One of my mates asked one of the guys she was apparently with and he said he didn’t even know who she was, when we confronted her about this she told us he only said that because ‘he really hates’ my friend who asked him. Then a few days later another friend (who he doesn’t even know) asked him and he denied it again saying ‘she sounds really weird’. It is causing so many fall outs within our group and we don’t want to fall out with either of them (the girl who’s lying and the girl who’s encouraging it). Could someone please help? x

]]> By: Eilish :) http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-1703 Eilish :) Thu, 17 Feb 2011 13:33:21 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1703 She will be doing this for attenntion, she may feel abit left out with you guys. Just talk to her and let her know she doesn't have to lie, and try to involve her in your group abit more. xxx She will be doing this for attenntion, she may feel abit left out with you guys. Just talk to her and let her know she doesn’t have to lie, and try to involve her in your group abit more. xxx

]]> By: Holly http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-1381 Holly Wed, 04 Aug 2010 11:51:52 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1381 She might be attention seeking but sometimes people attention seek because there is something they want to tell you and they need to get your attention, ask her if there is something going on, don't argue, just talk and make sure she feels as if she can trust you, the more she trusts you the more likely it is for her to open up to you. Good luck and I hope everything works out for all of you :) xxx She might be attention seeking but sometimes people attention seek because there is something they want to tell you and they need to get your attention, ask her if there is something going on, don’t argue, just talk and make sure she feels as if she can trust you, the more she trusts you the more likely it is for her to open up to you. Good luck and I hope everything works out for all of you :)

xxx

]]> By: Demi http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-1299 Demi Sat, 19 Jun 2010 21:21:40 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1299 If you've asked her enough, then say 'ok, that's it. I would like to know if you are lying to us/what else you've been lying about/ and why. I'm sorry but I have asked on more than one occasion and I haven't got an answer. I still want to be your friend but it won't work if you don't tell the truth. I'll give you a chance to explain this to me, but if you can't or if you avoid the question again, then we can't hang out any more.' It sounds harsh but there's no way this can be sorted if she's still not telling the truth or answering you. Be firm, but kind. give her a chance then, if she is still lying, it's your own decision whether you want to continue to be friends with her or not, although I'd be pretty wary. I hope I helped. Good luck! :) xxx If you’ve asked her enough, then say ‘ok, that’s it. I would like to know if you are lying to us/what else you’ve been lying about/ and why. I’m sorry but I have asked on more than one occasion and I haven’t got an answer. I still want to be your friend but it won’t work if you don’t tell the truth. I’ll give you a chance to explain this to me, but if you can’t or if you avoid the question again, then we can’t hang out any more.’ It sounds harsh but there’s no way this can be sorted if she’s still not telling the truth or answering you. Be firm, but kind. give her a chance then, if she is still lying, it’s your own decision whether you want to continue to be friends with her or not, although I’d be pretty wary. I hope I helped. Good luck! :) xxx

]]> By: emily http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-1261 emily Sat, 05 Jun 2010 23:48:45 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1261 hi maybe shes feelin a bit left out? or mabey shes tryin to get sum attention? or maybe shes telin the truth. either way its not fun bein stuck in the middle ive had enough experience with me mam and dad. but its not fair on u either. oneday wen its just u and her ask her about it nicely dont be git angry and way to eager to bust her but also dont stumble around the situation just be nice and maybe shell tell u hope it works x emily age 9 hi maybe shes feelin a bit left out? or mabey shes tryin to get sum attention?
or maybe shes telin the truth. either way its not fun bein stuck in the
middle ive had enough experience with me mam and dad. but its not fair on u either. oneday wen its just u and her ask her about it nicely dont be git angry and way to eager to bust her but also dont stumble around the situation just be nice and maybe shell tell u
hope it works x emily age 9

]]> By: Your Luva http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-1208 Your Luva Mon, 17 May 2010 18:12:37 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1208 Maybe she's having a hard time at the moment? She might be hiding stuff and making BIG conversations so she doesn't have to tell you? Maybe she’s having a hard time at the moment? She might be hiding stuff and making BIG conversations so she doesn’t have to tell you?

]]> By: Chloee http://myagonyaunt.com/my-friend-is-a-compulsive-liar/#comment-1194 Chloee Fri, 07 May 2010 22:40:12 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=168#comment-1194 Hey I've got a similar problem with one of my friends, except she's not lying to the same extremes as your friend is. However, what myself and others reckon is that she lies in order to make herself feel more accepted or more alike the people she surrounds herself with. It can be difficult to talk to her and ask her what is true and what isn't, but just be quietly tolerant of it until it reaches a certain point and then make her aware that you recognise these lies. Hope this helps and it all turns out okay for you all =] x Hey
I’ve got a similar problem with one of my friends, except she’s not lying to the same extremes as your friend is. However, what myself and others reckon is that she lies in order to make herself feel more accepted or more alike the people she surrounds herself with. It can be difficult to talk to her and ask her what is true and what isn’t, but just be quietly tolerant of it until it reaches a certain point and then make her aware that you recognise these lies.
Hope this helps and it all turns out okay for you all =]
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