My friend is a compulsive liar

Listen bab, if she lied about suicide, then I doubt it very much any of that crap is true. I suggest u talk to her on your own n tell her that if she doesn’t tell u the truth, then u will not bee hanging around with her any more. I couldn’t hang around with someone like that, they are the ones that could get u into serious trouble. Try asking her brother again, when she’s not around.

hi, you know some girls around this age are proned to lying and I know it can be annoying, Some lie about events at home and others say things like ” Oh I have a 33 year old boyfriend” which is un true.
If she is always saying things that sound off just ask her then and there, I dont know if that sounds right, is it true” If she shruggs her shoulders and changes the subject it is most likely a lie. The only thing you can really do is ask her to be straight or your friendship will end up finishing through lies.
sorry i can not help more!! Anna

She may be communicating in ways you don’t understand to feel accepted. Maybe she is trying to fit in with your guys hardships when she has none. who knows. maybe she’s intimidated by you both a bit and seeks a way out. it is best to just confront some-one kindly as you dont know why. To judge over her behaviour so sharply, to go behind her back and ask her brother, and to stop talking to her is controlling over her. We are flexible of others harmless behaviours and watch our own. And we confront if it raises an issues. By your reactions of resolve, i imagine company would not be comfortable with you two girls, and often peoples behaviour is part and parcel of an environment. We are flexible because we find we have behaviours that are not right too so who are we to judge, its called being balanced socially. We dont dictate over how another should be and rise ourselves up but kind and generous and give others the time of day to help them as to why, otherwise we are none more than the average common day bitch

Hey Girl

your friend might be feeling lonely/not getting enough attention @ home.This must be her way of trying to get attention from you guys.You show her you love her.Tell her that she doesn’t have to lie.you like her as a friend the way she is.

A controlling, sociopathic liar is one who lies to win over an argument to get their own way. And with dispute lies to authorities. A person who lies about anything, without an issue to be fought over is just a harmless young mind. How some-one reacts to those who are not ‘right’ is still held accountable by courts, so stay right yourself.

hey,
Are you sure shes not telling the truth maybe all those bad things did happen and she just doesnt want to talk about it get her on her own and say i no you’ve been lying and if you dont tell me straight now i wont be friends with you’ i had a friend that lied alot and i said that and trust me it worked but if it doesnt then what can i say there isnt a friendship without trust. x
Jade x

I know how you feel, I have or should I say had a friend just like that who lyre to me alot, she would tell me that her dad was in hospital or she has some sort of medical problem, it was really annoying so I did somthing about it. I blanked her. It might have seemed right at the time but looking bak I know it was the wrong thing to do. It didn’t work it made things worse. So instead I talked to her and she told me why she lyes and she told me she does it for attention. She said she feels lonley and she like having people who care and talk to her. So i found out by blanking her was making not only me feel worse but her to. All way think before you do something thnx

hey i have the same problem wiv 1 of my frends she makes up stuff all tha time we are all so fed up wiv her … i seriously cant stand her cuz she is so nice 2 peoples faces but some of tha stuff she says behind their backs is unreal! It got so far tha other day that evry1 just went mental at her now no1s talkin 2 her nd shes guiltin us into being her frend again! your better off cuttin all ties wiv people lyk dat i know i ave! maybe that’ll help a little bit …

Just be honest with her, someone who lies about sick things like that needs help as its not right. You need to tell her and dont be afraid to be honest as one day she could thank you. She obviously has issues and wants people around constantly for attention.
Another option you have is telling an adult you can trust to help her. You may not feel confident with this but trust me it will help.

Good luck x

It sounds as if your friend is attention seeking to the extreme. Maybe she’s telling you all these stories becuse she likes all the attention you and your friends give her as a result. It sounds like she may have some underlying issues? Maybe she doesn’t get enough attention at home but still it’s not fair for you to bare the brunt of it. I’m guessing that you care alot for your friend other wise you would of stopped your friendship with her by now so maybe you could sit her down somewhere quiet and tell her that you know she has been making up stories and use her brother as proof. Ask her why she feels the need to do this. If somethings troubelling her maybe she should go and see the school counsellor? If she continues to tell you more lies acknowledge it but try not to give her the attention that she craves.

To be honest i think everyone probably knows a liar but the things you are telling us are quite disturbing and it is quite sick to lie about very serious things that happen in everyday life and frankly tear family’s apart. Maybe she is lying because she isnt happy with her own life. And most likley is looking for attention, because like many children now is often home alone; lest to defend for themselves or in other words isnt getting the right amount of attention at home, maybe you should speek to her about this, if she doesnt quit the lying now it might wreck the future ahead of her.

tell her you need to talk to her and say she has to stop lying because she will end up losin friends and that 1 of ur mates isnt talkin to her because of her lying all the time.

This happened to me. One of my friends is constantly lying, and nobody ever believed anything he said. But then one day, something really did happen, none of us believed him and when we found out it was true, we all felt horrible.
She’s probably lying through unhappiness and the feeling that nobody really pays attention to her.
Just stick with her, believe me. She’ll eventually stop lying and be a much better friend. Good friends are what she needs right now.

Hi
This is a really hard situation for you. But you really need to talk to her but give her a chance to explain if she was lying tell her its wrong and not to do it again but dont be too hard on her because there must be areason she told lies shes probably lacking confidence and wants attention tell her you’ll always be her friend or she wont tell you anything again and will be really upset.

Or you could talk to her mum or dad and ask them if theres anything going on – just casually drop into conversation so is you Gran ok?? etc
Goodluck
And make sure she explains everything if she doesnt tell her its jeporadizing your friendship

Hiya.
To me this sounds like shes attention seeking. Maybe she isn’t getting the attention she desires at home so by coping with this she is making up these awful lies. As her friend she shouldnt be lying to you as it’s wrong. Try asking her Brother once more when she is not in ear shot. You seem like a very Mature 14 year old and she should feel very lucky to have you as her friend. All the best of luck xx

I understand how you must feel as I don’t like it when someone is clearly lying to you. I think the best thing you can do is sit down and tell her how you feel and that you don’t want to loose her as a friend but you feel you have to if she cant tell the truth to you. Trust it the key to a strong friendship

luv sparkle xx

I think your friend probably is lying to you, or she is extremely unlucky. You should talk to her about it and try and make her understand how she makes you and your friend feel. Although it sounds harsh, you should tell her if she doesn’t stop lying you can’t be her friend. Hopefully this should make her see reality and she’ll stop lying to keep her friends. I hope this helps.

Charli x

I think that this is very likely to be severe attention seeking due to insecruity and maybe other problems she can’t discuss.
Talk to her (in private and honour her privacy) about anything that may be troubling her. Make sure you are calm and non judgemental; if you go in making accusations she will get defensive and will be less likely to open up. It may take her a while to be able to admit things to you. Are there any signs of things not being quite right at home etc ? Encourage her to talk to an adult she feels comfortable with; teacher, doctor, family member etc.
It is important to give attention to positive behaviour rather than negative i.e. lieing. She may feel insecure from not getting the attention she needs and has found that by telling these possible stories she will get this attention. If she starts to get attention when she is telling the truth and undertaking positive actions she will not feel the need to lie as much.
Try to understand and be there for her. Also, make sure you get support for you too – by talking with a trusted adult, your family etc. Don’t discuss this with other friends though as this may make her feel bullied and loose your trust.
Hope this helps a bit.

Hi
This is a really hard situation for you. But you really need to talk to her but give her a chance to explain if she was lying tell her its wrong and not to do it again but dont be too hard on her because there must be areason she told lies shes probably lacking confidence and wants attention tell her you’ll always be her friend or she wont tell you anything again and will be really upset.

Or you could talk to her mum or dad and ask them if theres anything going on – just casually drop into conversation so is you Gran ok?? etc
Goodluck
And make sure she explains everything if she doesnt tell her its jeporadizing your friendship

heyy x
that is not acceptable!!!
if she is able to lie about serious tthing like that
then what else is she capable of. if she can lie abbout
these she is not much of a ‘friend’
x

ok, maybe some of those things are true but by the looks of things most of them arent . firstly sit down and talk to her ask her wats true and wats not . if she avoids the subject gently coax her into telling you how much of the truth shes really telling . if its really as bad as you say then you dont need her in your life and in my opinion shes looking for attention .

it sounds to me like she is just like anyone else. She is lying to make her life seem more intresting, we’ve all done it once or twice, stop trying to catch her out, this will never work she will always cover her tracks, but just be aware that she is trying to impress you. confront the problem point blank, tell her that you think her lying is immature and it is annoying you, but also tell her that you understand and that you will always be ok with her just as she is and that she doesnt need to lie to make you interested in her, this will keep her feeling accepted, hope this helps.xxx

Heyo 14-years old kid =)
Well, that’s a bad problem, but easy to clear. If her cousin really won the lottory, check youtube or google for it. Lottory winners will always be on the internet or in the news and if this isn’t true, I think, there’s way more not true. Or visit her and ask her dad… maybe just try telling her, that she doesn’t have to lie to be your friend.. infact, she should tell the truth.
I hope this will help me, my course teacher and, of course, you.

Hey
I’ve got a similar problem with one of my friends, except she’s not lying to the same extremes as your friend is. However, what myself and others reckon is that she lies in order to make herself feel more accepted or more alike the people she surrounds herself with. It can be difficult to talk to her and ask her what is true and what isn’t, but just be quietly tolerant of it until it reaches a certain point and then make her aware that you recognise these lies.
Hope this helps and it all turns out okay for you all =]
x

Maybe she’s having a hard time at the moment? She might be hiding stuff and making BIG conversations so she doesn’t have to tell you?

hi maybe shes feelin a bit left out? or mabey shes tryin to get sum attention?
or maybe shes telin the truth. either way its not fun bein stuck in the
middle ive had enough experience with me mam and dad. but its not fair on u either. oneday wen its just u and her ask her about it nicely dont be git angry and way to eager to bust her but also dont stumble around the situation just be nice and maybe shell tell u
hope it works x emily age 9

If you’ve asked her enough, then say ‘ok, that’s it. I would like to know if you are lying to us/what else you’ve been lying about/ and why. I’m sorry but I have asked on more than one occasion and I haven’t got an answer. I still want to be your friend but it won’t work if you don’t tell the truth. I’ll give you a chance to explain this to me, but if you can’t or if you avoid the question again, then we can’t hang out any more.’ It sounds harsh but there’s no way this can be sorted if she’s still not telling the truth or answering you. Be firm, but kind. give her a chance then, if she is still lying, it’s your own decision whether you want to continue to be friends with her or not, although I’d be pretty wary. I hope I helped. Good luck! xxx

She might be attention seeking but sometimes people attention seek because there is something they want to tell you and they need to get your attention, ask her if there is something going on, don’t argue, just talk and make sure she feels as if she can trust you, the more she trusts you the more likely it is for her to open up to you. Good luck and I hope everything works out for all of you

xxx

She will be doing this for attenntion, she may feel abit left out with you guys. Just talk to her and let her know she doesn’t have to lie, and try to involve her in your group abit more. xxx

I’m 15 and I have a very similar situation myself. My friend lies constantly about boy’s fancying her outside of school. We try not to give her a reaction to it but one of my friends keep encouraging it and making it worse. Non of the things she tells us adds up and she is constantly changing her story. One of my mates asked one of the guys she was apparently with and he said he didn’t even know who she was, when we confronted her about this she told us he only said that because ‘he really hates’ my friend who asked him. Then a few days later another friend (who he doesn’t even know) asked him and he denied it again saying ‘she sounds really weird’. It is causing so many fall outs within our group and we don’t want to fall out with either of them (the girl who’s lying and the girl who’s encouraging it). Could someone please help? x

First of all, I know exactly how you feel!. My bestfriend can be a compulsive liar and she has been for two years now, it drove me insane at first but now I just try and ignore it. For example, she made up she went out with a 20 year old man while his wife was pregnant, she tried to hang herself and she’s not a virgin. None of these are true!.
She is probably doing this for attention and could feel ignored by you & your friends or her family. Take her to one side and say that you don’t want to offend her but people are beginning to call her a liar and could she maybe start telling the truth?. Good luck!xxx

she might just want some attention she might feel isolated and wants to be involved so she makes things up to get people talking about it and having her the centre of attention, talk to her about it and say that your not taking sides and that you just want to help her if that doesnt work maybe talk to your parents or a close friend

Tell her straight that if she wants to keep any friends and get by in life to stop lying. One day when she is telling the truth nobody will believe her.

She obviously feels she needs to lie and needs to seek out in herself why she lies compulsively.