Comments on: My Ex announced she still loves me http://myagonyaunt.com/my-ex-announced-she-still-loves-me/ Relationship Advice Mon, 05 Sep 2011 20:39:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Cherry http://myagonyaunt.com/my-ex-announced-she-still-loves-me/#comment-2055 Cherry Thu, 28 Jul 2011 12:27:22 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=39#comment-2055 My personal opinion, you can love someone very much but still dont want to be with them. And its happened to me. Im 100% sure your wife is feeling jealousy and is upset. Believe me, when you've always thought that although apart you will always be together, to then find out your shagging some other bird its just as much heart ache as finding out your partner is cheating. But although i do believe she cares. People also are right. It doesnt mean you have to get with her because of your kid. You have to still love her. You said for years you wanted to be with you and that things are great between you and your wife so why the sudden change? She is finally giving you that chance. If you choose an ex girlfriend, move away from your family, to a be the step dad to someone elses kids. That is also wrong. Are you 100% sure this ex girlfriend thing isnt a fling. Cause maybe its the right thing to be with neither. xxx My personal opinion, you can love someone very much but still dont want to be with them. And its happened to me. Im 100% sure your wife is feeling jealousy and is upset. Believe me, when you’ve always thought that although apart you will always be together, to then find out your shagging some other bird its just as much heart ache as finding out your partner is cheating.
But although i do believe she cares. People also are right. It doesnt mean you have to get with her because of your kid. You have to still love her.
You said for years you wanted to be with you and that things are great between you and your wife so why the sudden change? She is finally giving you that chance.

If you choose an ex girlfriend, move away from your family, to a be the step dad to someone elses kids. That is also wrong.

Are you 100% sure this ex girlfriend thing isnt a fling. Cause maybe its the right thing to be with neither. xxx

]]> By: Emily http://myagonyaunt.com/my-ex-announced-she-still-loves-me/#comment-952 Emily Thu, 18 Feb 2010 21:52:22 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=39#comment-952 she doesnt love you she just wants you to be alone just say you have suffered for years and now have finaly moved on she doesnt love you she just wants you to be alone just say you have suffered for years and now have finaly moved on

]]> By: Anna Thornton http://myagonyaunt.com/my-ex-announced-she-still-loves-me/#comment-827 Anna Thornton Fri, 22 Jan 2010 18:56:54 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=39#comment-827 Hi, All the advice above is exactly right in one way or another. Your wife seems to be attempting to control when and who you can be happy with. She may feel that if she is not seeing anyone you should not either. If you believe you have tried everything to save your relationship with your wife then you know going back together is going to end in heart ache and as much as it may upset you the main person who will be hurt the most is your son. He needs to understand the situation. If you did decide to stay with your ex girlfriend then maybe applying for a divorce will help to define the situation to your wife but explain you still want to be close for the sake of your son but not in a relationship. If your wife is understanding and cares for her son and you she will want you to be happy. Just be careful she does not menipulate you. Good Luck Hi, All the advice above is exactly right in one way or another. Your wife seems to be attempting to control when and who you can be happy with. She may feel that if she is not seeing anyone you should not either.
If you believe you have tried everything to save your relationship with your wife then you know going back together is going to end in heart ache and as much as it may upset you the main person who will be hurt the most is your son. He needs to understand the situation. If you did decide to stay with your ex girlfriend then maybe applying for a divorce will help to define the situation to your wife but explain you still want to be close for the sake of your son but not in a relationship. If your wife is understanding and cares for her son and you she will want you to be happy. Just be careful she does not menipulate you. Good Luck

]]> By: AngelaRose__ http://myagonyaunt.com/my-ex-announced-she-still-loves-me/#comment-513 AngelaRose__ Thu, 06 Aug 2009 20:09:33 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=39#comment-513 You know that lifes too short right? You never know whats gonna happen and it is very rare that we can actually control the events in our lives which is why these moments when we can are so precious. You have a decision to make and it's obviously a really hard one for you. So ask yourself this, who do you love? ... But I mean who do you TRULY love? Because to me that is your answer right there. Like I've said above: Lifes too short. You dont have time to be wasting time not knowing what to do, you need to be with the woman you love. So forget what's practical, the easy option, or more appealing. Just be with the woman that you know in your heart you wanna be with. Good Luck. You know that lifes too short right?

You never know whats gonna happen and it is very rare that we can actually control the events in our lives which is why these moments when we can are so precious.

You have a decision to make and it’s obviously a really hard one for you. So ask yourself this, who do you love? … But I mean who do you TRULY love? Because to me that is your answer right there.

Like I’ve said above: Lifes too short.

You dont have time to be wasting time not knowing what to do, you need to be with the woman you love. So forget what’s practical, the easy option, or more appealing. Just be with the woman that you know in your heart you wanna be with.

Good Luck.

]]> By: Ellie http://myagonyaunt.com/my-ex-announced-she-still-loves-me/#comment-360 Ellie Fri, 12 Jun 2009 14:48:10 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=39#comment-360 Hello there (: It's rather obvious from what you tell me that she doesn't really love you but doesn't want you to be with anyone else. Sorry for putting it so bluntly but if you aren't strong now then she will carry on controlling you by wanting you and rejecting you again. Your son is 18, I'm sure he's independent by now and doesn't need you that much. You say that your relationship was always rocky, now you are in contact with a past girlfriend,and that relationship seems perfect to me. Without meaning to put a downer on this, wasn't there a reason you broke up to begin with though? I think you need to end your marriage for final, even though it could be painful! As for the ex girlfriend/present girlfriend I reckon you should continue in the relationship for as long as you are happy and if it ends, it ends. Have fun and play the field! xxx Hello there (:
It’s rather obvious from what you tell me that she doesn’t really love you but doesn’t want you to be with anyone else. Sorry for putting it so bluntly but if you aren’t strong now then she will carry on controlling you by wanting you and rejecting you again. Your son is 18, I’m sure he’s independent by now and doesn’t need you that much. You say that your relationship was always rocky, now you are in contact with a past girlfriend,and that relationship seems perfect to me. Without meaning to put a downer on this, wasn’t there a reason you broke up to begin with though?
I think you need to end your marriage for final, even though it could be painful! As for the ex girlfriend/present girlfriend I reckon you should continue in the relationship for as long as you are happy and if it ends, it ends. Have fun and play the field!
xxx

]]> By: Lisa http://myagonyaunt.com/my-ex-announced-she-still-loves-me/#comment-91 Lisa Thu, 25 Dec 2008 13:14:07 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=39#comment-91 I hope the advice I gave helped you. You can find me anytime at my website: anonymousletters.net I am an agony aunt who answers help letters for free. I like helping people and don't like to see others in pain. I hope the advice I gave helped you. You can find me anytime at my website: anonymousletters.net
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]]> By: Lisa http://myagonyaunt.com/my-ex-announced-she-still-loves-me/#comment-12 Lisa Wed, 22 Oct 2008 09:54:24 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=39#comment-12 It's obvious that it's not meant to be with your wife. You've tried counseling many times& it simply hasn't worked. Now, you've found out she's been dishonest with you. I advise you to end the marriage. I appreciate it's hard as you have a son together but a child is not a good enough reason to stay together I'm afraid. The marriage is between the two of you, and since you can't put your heart into it, ending it is the only option. You can still be a good dad to your son even if you don't live with him. As things stand, your marriage is over even if you continue to live with your wife. Don't stay in this 'emotional divorce' as it can be shattering. As for your ex girlfriend she may or may not be the answer. You need to end the marriage first so you're not being unfaithful to your wife (regardless of her past actions two wrongs don't make a right, then you need time alone to think about your life before starting another relationship. I wish you all the best. It’s obvious that it’s not meant to be with your wife. You’ve tried counseling many times& it simply hasn’t worked. Now, you’ve found out she’s been dishonest with you. I advise you to end the marriage. I appreciate it’s hard as you have a son together but a child is not a good enough reason to stay together I’m afraid. The marriage is between the two of you, and since you can’t put your heart into it, ending it is the only option. You can still be a good dad to your son even if you don’t live with him. As things stand, your marriage is over even if you continue to live with your wife. Don’t stay in this ‘emotional divorce’ as it can be shattering.

As for your ex girlfriend she may or may not be the answer. You need to end the marriage first so you’re not being unfaithful to your wife (regardless of her past actions two wrongs don’t make a right, then you need time alone to think about your life before starting another relationship. I wish you all the best.

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