Marry Within The Religion

rubbish you should get married to the person you love

im in on same boat with you onthis one. i would say ignore your parents but i know if they are lyke mine it wont be that easy. religions can be a bit stupid sometimes(no offence). i say tell him whats happening or wait till you get your freedom… if they “disgrace” you then you can fallout with them coz u gonna loose wat u want either way. hope that helps BTW tellign the person u lyke worked 4 me and they know what we have to avoid …

i do agree with sam, you ought to marry the one you love but i know its not always possible. im italian-catholic whereas my (now ex-)bf is iraqui-muslim. we couldnt be together and it kills me even now, today is the 3month since we split and it kills me to see him everyday knowing that due to differences, it’ll never happen. and is harder still because he is also moving on with it and i’m stuck because i love him so much. too much haha.
i know its hard and yes, as dan says – it can be a help to tell that person straight. so do it!! :p xxx

Hey!
I’m Indian too, and i fully understand what u mean. But, i have many friends who have had inter religious marriages. In all cases, the parents were opposed to the alliance at first, but when they saw how determined the couple were, they had to give in. Hope you can convince your family that this is the best for you. Introduce your partner to your parents and he might be able to win them over.

you and your generation are setting the standard for the children of the future….would you want your daughter to marry the one she loved? the world is changing and the parents of certain cultures need to realise that their children need to make their own decisions in life and their own mistakes, especially when they are growing up in a free society. my childhood friend was from a muslim background and had to turn her back on her parents for a while until they accepted her british husband – she is still happily married 15 years later. there are groups in the uk and usa who can help you with this. you need support…and your parents may be controlling and oldfashioned but they probably will love you whatever. good luck and be strong.

tell the guy tat u really love him…..just be honest with him and let him know u did all this on purpose.Its better than carryin a regret whole ur life

if this guy means more to you than your religion, i say dont let him go x

I understand what you must be feeling, as i am also raised within a Indian Family, and they must have high standards for you. I also know that you must be really scared to tell your parents as they may shout or go against your choices, but would you rather tell them than to be upset for the rest of your life?
If i was you then i would tell this guy why you did the things that you did to him, tell him why, and if he really did care for you as much as he did then he would forgive you and get together with you. Explain why its hard for you to be together, also tell him that you love him so much.
As long as he is by your side then everything will be okay, but is he the life type partner? what if he leaves you then what? Most Indian families will disown their children for marrying outside the religion as its bringing shame upon them and your family will look bad in the “Indian society”
But is he worth going through all that trouble?
Think carefully as to what you do, if he says he loves you and wants to stay with your forever then go for it
But, remember theres no turning back,
Like i say, do what you want, not what others want you to do.
guys are really bad at getting hints so you will have to say it to him, how you feel. And if he feels the same then talk to each other about it and when you think you have reached the commitment level then tell your parents.
Best of Luck, x

Great one. Another example of how religion can come between humanity. Having said that though, a lot of people dont obey religious ethics and their disobedience causes each other falling apart too. I was told by a religious institution once that the word barbarian meant behaving barbarically, badly. The dictionary confirmed this. Then I studied classical studies, the roots of our European culture from the Greeks to the Romans, to us. A barbarian back then meant one of a different language to the main Greeks. Bar, bar, bar is how they sounded. It just meant some-one who was different. The Greeks themselves back then were all different and by no means necessarity good people. Well any-way it said, this is where the word ‘barbarian’ came from. Those different from the Greek. Who were the Greeks? States ruled by selfish unfair kings, to tyrants and later to democracy. Therefore those who called others barbaric were barbaric themselves anyway. So I need to ask. Exactly how educated is your mother? Because education gives you knowledge to give you an independent mind to know where ‘labels’ come from when they are thrown around. Education gives you freedom. Freedom of choice to know things when other authorities stand up and dictate for you.