Agony Aunt • Relationship Advice
July 7, 2011

Living Apart Made Me Realize I Love Him

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This is the situtation:
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. I am 20 and he is 23. We were engaged to be married however I recently looked at his mobile phone and saw explicit picture messages that he was sending to a girl in his work. (Who by the way was our wedding co-ordinator.)

I always had my doubts about this girl and by finding these messages I definitely know why. Things weren’t the best with myself and my boyfriend. We both worked very hard and I was very unhappy with my job. At that point in time, I wasn’t showing him much affection. Apparently this girl “Louise” was going through similar problems with her boyfriend.

So they both got talking in work and flirting with each other. One thing led to another and he asked for her number and they had been messaging each other for 2 weeks. When I found the messages, I was heart broken, I was shaking with so much anger. How could he do this to me? Especially with our wedding co-ordinator.

I made him tell the owners of his work (the wedding venue also) that we were cancelling the wedding and the real reason why we broke up. I gave him my ring back, and was very calm about the whole situation, even though I was hurting so bad inside. He assures we nothing else went on with this girl Louise, that it was only text messages.

I am now living back with my Mum and he is living in another flat at the moment. Living without him has made me realise how much I love him… and how much he loves me. I cannot live my life being apart from him. It hurts too much. I have decided to give him one last chance as he has assured me I know the truth now and there is no more secrets to hide. He said he will never do it again and I believe him.

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So we are now back together although we are living apart, and things are great. The passion is back there and we have booked a holiday together in July. So that gives us something to look forward to.

This is the question I want to ask… I have always been ready for a baby… Imnot the kind of girl that goes out and parties… I just can’t wait til the time when I settle down and have a lovely house and children…(guess I’m quite old
fashioned that way) He has now said that he is ready.. He wants me to be his fiancee again, he wants a flat together again and he wants a baby. I want all that too.

We have worked it out that by October this year, he will have all his debt cleared and we can start a fresh which means we will have a bit more cash. What advice can you give me? I want this so bad, but scared what people might
think and I’m not sure how money will work out?

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August 5, 2011
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Kate @ 6:49 pm #

I can see how this effects you in money way, I think you should just be honest with him, if he really loves you that much he wouldnt mind, just until you can get the a better job maybe and earn more cash. If he does mind then you will have to let go and find someone more caring, you have to do whats best for you and then think about relationships and stuff like that…

September 5, 2011
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Levi James @ 9:22 am #

Give it 12 months. A year is nothing and you can be planning the nursery and all that you want for your child.
Discuss parenting and how you would deal with all the issues, discipline, bedtimes, feeding etc… It sounds strange but you would be amazed how many people don’t have these conversations until it’s too late and then find they have completely different ideas on parenting! This can be a huge problem once the child comes along.

Spend a year together. Have lots of fun doing all the things you can’t do with a child, long walks, clubbing, eating out, theatre trips, cinema, that sort of thing. Then in a years time if you’re still happy and the trust is stronger you can get pregnant with no doubts in your mind. A year is a very short space of time when you have atleast 18 years bringing up a child…

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