Is something going on between my mum and my godfather?

Your mom’s behaviour& your godfather’s does sound strange. Unfortunately, there’s nothing you can really do about it- given that she’s an adult& your mother. Unless you have a really good relationship – and even then- she’s unlikely to want advice or interference about her affair (if she’s having one).

You don’t mention whether or not your parents are married& still together. If they are & yr father lives with you, it won’t be long before your father notices their odd behaviour and then it’s up to him – not you- how to handle it. If your parents are separated, then it’s up to your mother who she wants to be romantically involved with- though I would have hoped she’d have had the dignity to behave in a more discreet& appropriate manner around her daughter.

I’m sorry to say it but there isn’t much you can- or should- do. You can politely tell your mom that you don’t feel comfy around her when your godfather flirts with her& asks her about their relationship. You have to be prepared that she might tell you to mind your own business or refuse to discuss it. In which case your only option is to wait until you can find a job and move out.

If it helps you can talk to a third neutral party you trust; a friend or aunt who might shed more insight on the situation. But honestly my best advice is to just leave things alone till you’re able to live on your own.

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I’m afraid I have to agree with Lisa. The best you can do is just explain to your mom how this situation is making you feel awkward and uncomfortable. She should understand this and try to resolve the matter however if not, then all you can do is wait till your father realises their behaviour.
Also just keep living your life. Don’t let it get you down and find a place of your own therefore making easier for living arrangements.
If this still is affecting you, it helps to consult a close relative or adult about this.
x

your mum and godfathers situation sounds very weird bur maybe thats not the case aybe there just getting along together.
maybe you should ask them if anything is going on.
i hope my advice helps you

i think you should sit down n have a chat with your mum it dose sownd a bit weard but the best thing to do is ask anoo that sounds weard she isent exactly gna say yh there is someething going on but she mite say abit about it x good luck x

my mother was having a simular situation, and I kept to my self about it. not wanting to butt in on something that was not my business, it ate me up inside I had night meares I could not decide on anything I wanted to do, I was turring against my caring and loving mother, that in fact really needed me. I found that it was harder to tell my mother the longer I waited and it ate me up not telling her. the first time I told her it came out screaming and crying because it hurt me to see my mother so sad. I had to tell her twice more before I could calm myself down enough for her to understand what I was saying.
so go tell her how you feel, it will be a whole lot healther for you.

i think that you need to talk to and if you like your god father it should be okaiii if you dont want to talk to your mum maby your dad x

i think your dad could manybe help x

It sounds like you are close to your mum, so the best thing is for you to do is talk to her… At the end of the day she is your mum. They is noway to know if you just keep guessing, the best thing for you to do is to find out the truth by talking to your mum or godfather. X Good Luck.

To be honest with you, from what you’ve explained.. there looks like there could pretty well be something going on there but before you tell anyone or start getting paranoid and worked up about it all I think you should just ask your mum and godfather outright about it and then go from there.

All the best.

Hi, erm i think that first of you should get a hold of yourself. Your mum is obviously lonley and feels that your godfather that your god father can fill up that empty space in her life. I think you are more worried that your mum would choose your godfather over you and that she’s forgetting you but i think you need to remember that a mother’s love for her kin is always the same for every mother though sometimes it may not appear so it is true, it may not appear so because that mother does not know how to express it.
I think you should first bond with your uncle so that atleast then you show your mum that even if she is partnered with him you are going to be there for her whatever her decision. Then maybe organise a day of bonding with you and your mum maybe hanging out shopping and them goin out to eat and during the meal maybe talk about things how you feel and that you want the truth. If she doesn’t want to open up give her sometime. When she’s ready just tell her what you saw and let her know that your concerned and that you dont know whats going on but that you’d like to know, then explain to her what your thoughts and opinions are and what you think is going on.
I hope this helps
xxx

no offence lisa, but dont you think you are a bull shitter!!!it sounds like your mum is lonely ane needs some surport. you have got to remeber everybody needs some form of love, and if your godfather is the pnly one there then hay ho let them be happy!
i understand how you feel as my mum is having an affair (for 18 years) it is difficult to take this in. just talk to your mum at the end of the day ur feelings should come first inj your mothers eyes.

sorry for soundin rude and all but omg its ur mother’s life she can do wat she wants.. if she not with ur dad (which u never said) she isnt hurtin anyone, maybe u should be concratin on ur own life instead of ur moms sexlife!!!!

I understand you are affraid with this situation. You have suspicion about your mum and your godfather’s feelings. Maybe you think it is not a healthy relationship. It’s depend if your mum lives with your father and the same for your godfather with his wife. I advise you to wait to be really sure. After, you can speak with your mum about it. You can explain her your uneasy and your embarrassment but you must be stay peaceful. It may be they are in love. The most important is to be happy!

hey,
im having some family problems of my own at the moment , and i no its hard . but i think you should just ask your mum or try and suggest the subject. im sure your mum wont mind u asking her. and i totally disagree with sarah. its natual for some1 to get supicous about there parents relationships. and im pretty sure you would like to no if your mum was dating some1.

hope my advise helps xoxo.

Hi,
Depending how close or open u and ur mom are to each other, the best solution wud be to sit down with her and discuss this. It will go a long way in solving your problem.
Good luck

hey is your mum actually with your dad? if so, then i think you should talk to her but id she isnt then maybe you should just be happy for them

I have to disagree althought confronting them would be a good option… its probably the worst thing you can do, because more often then not, they are likely to deny anything that has gone on between… especially if they are acting secretive about it. The best thing you can do is to not over annalyse it… I’m sure if anything was going on.. they would eventually tell you – but in their own time. If not then that is their business… leave it a while and if things are still weird – then confront them!