Im 15 and im 19 weeks pregnant
By Agony Aunt | October 23, 2008
im 15 and im 19 weeks pregnant.
My parents know but they are extremley mad at me and they said once the baby is born they are going to kick me out. my boyfriend got ran over a few years ago so the baby has no father. i am so scared and i don’t know what to do when the baby is born.
i really want the baby. what should i do?
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I’m sorry you’re going through this tough situation with no support- but pls try to be realistic here. Since the baby’s father is gone& yr parents are going to kick you out, there’s NO way you can have this baby& keep it. Not unless you want yourself AND the poor baby to suffer. How will you feed your baby? How will you- an inexperienced 15 yr old look after it? You’re still a child yourself. How will you find a job at your age with no qualifications? Will you leave school? If you find work, who will look after your baby? Your parents want nothing more to do with you& though their stance is harsh, you have to be realistic. You won’t be able to afford a baby-sitter& at your age, you’re unlikely to have any friends willing to baby-sit on a daily basis. How will you and your baby eat& survive?!
Pls THINK. If your parents absolutely won’t keep you with a baby then you MUST have an abortion immediately before it’s too late. The only other option is to have the baby and give it up for adoption IF your parents agree.
If you truly love this baby, you WON’T condemn him or her to living life on the streets without help with a 15 yr old. Pls don’t wait any longer. You’re too young, inexperienced, and completely without resources to raise a child. There’ll be plenty of time for kids when you’re much older& married in the future.
Pls don’t wait any longer. Talk to your parents or anyone sympathetic (a friend’s parent or teacher) for help for going about a safe abortion and go for it ASAP. Don’t wait till it’s too late and you’re on the streets, afraid, hungry, alone, with a child, and nowhere to go. You can go to women’s groups for assistance or to shelters- but if you really love this child that’s not the way you’ll want to raise him or her. So, pls don’t be selfish and think of this innocent baby before you think of yourself. Would you really want him or her to be subjected to a hard lonely life with you?
Think & take my advice before it’s too late. If I thought your parents would respond, I would suggest you have a sympathetic adult (like a teacher or friend’s parent) talk to them but - from what you say in your letter- it’s highly unlikely they’ll change their minds. So pls get help and have an abortion ASAP. It’s the only realistic option in your case.
I hope my advice helped you. For further advice, pls visit my website:
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