Comments on: I wanted to stay a virgin

By: Gem

Gem — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 11:48:46 +0000

hi there, now look, you’ve lost your virginity to this girl, and you cant change that, so dont dwell on it. the fact that your girlfriend is experienced is what’s upsetting you right? but if your relationship were to run its couse and you were to get into another relationship with a girl that was a virgin, it’d be a role reversal.. your title – ‘i wanted to stay a virgin’ suggests that you werent ready to lose your virginity to this girl? so is this the problem? also, the fact that she talks about what her and her ex got up to, nobody wants to hear that, so let her know it bothers you, if she’s decent, she’ll understand. you need to realise that whatever she’s done in the past, she’s wih you now, but if you cant realise this then you’ll never enjoy the sexual side of your relationship much. if you cant talk to her, and if its bothering you this much, then perhaps shes not the right girl for you. ut then, as i stated earlier, getting with anyone else will put you in the position that your girlfriends in now.. just give her a chance, i wish you both the best. good luck!!

By: sophie

sophie — Thu, 26 May 2011 18:02:34 +0000

i am on the complete opposite end of this my boyfriend lost his virginity
to me . where as i have slept with a number of partners before hime
i do completly regret this and it proberly hurts more knowing
you cant take it back . my worst fear is that i repulse my partner
with my past and that because of it he will cheat becaue
i get scared that he will be curiouse. think how your partner feels.
i know it took me a lot of courage to talk about my past
and i only done it because i felt my partner wouldent judge me.
and trust me having sex and making love to someone you
love is completly diffrent . it will have still be special
to her . talk to her . wish you all the best x

By: Gov

Gov — Sat, 08 Jan 2011 19:38:37 +0000

Hey man. If you wanted to stay a virgin, you should have. no one forced you to have sex.

By: Scott Nixon

Scott Nixon — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 14:22:31 +0000

im sorry to say it but im afraid that feeling will never go. she has already given you the details and that isnt something you can easily forget. my advice is to ask her to stop comparing you with her ex’s and see if that helps. otherwise im afraid there is nothing you can do.

By: annoymous

annoymous — Wed, 12 May 2010 20:13:09 +0000

i know its hard, and its horrible thinking about it, i was in the same situation. and i told my partner blenty of times, obviously under the influence of alcohol. but he reasured me to say, im with you, i want to be with you, if i still liked and enjoyed the relationship with my ex, i would still be with her.
so dont think that your bad etc. she wants to be with you obviously otherwise she would still be with her ex wouldnt she?

cheer up, goodluck x

By: Michaela

Michaela — Tue, 04 May 2010 10:55:33 +0000

i think you should do what is best for you, and go with what your heart says to be honest or if you dont feel right then tell her and talk to her
tell me how is goes babe bye bye xx

By: jim

jim — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 10:05:28 +0000

if you are happy and feel happy then stay together and enjoy your sex life but if there are frequent arguements then i would have time a part and see whats better.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 21:24:32 +0000

I know how u feel, its hard knowing something like that but u have to think of it this way. Would u rather not know and then having to find out from someone else, believe me, thats not the way to go about it! ive been in a sort of similar situation and i have found it hard, until beleive it or not tonight i sorted it out! as you said, you and your girlfriend are in a healthy relationship, keep it healthy by telling her how your feeling! Hey, maybe she’ll be angry to start with, but she’ll get over it. But you, would have to stop living in her past, she cant change it and neither can you,.. I find the best thing is not to talk about your boy/girlfriends past sexual relationships! hope ive helped a bit.. and hope everything works out for the best

By: jungle jim

jungle jim — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 03:12:23 +0000

You are not the first guy who is feeling this way. Way down under every guy feels the same. Some may feel disgusted as you do and some are cool enough to let it be. On the bright side your girl is more experienced than you so she can show you some good moves. And i’m sure she can keep you happy atleast sexually.

By: A normal guy

A normal guy — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 16:37:54 +0000

You think you have a normal relationship? REALLY? You have disdain for her, as she’s got a healthy sexual appetite and while in a relationship shared herself sexually. There are two mistakes made here… first she thought she could trust you and foolishly shared too much of her past. Lesson learned ladies, share as little as possible about your experience. No details, no blow-by-blow, no numbers… guys QUIT asking if you can’t handle it.

Second, you entered into a time wasting relationship with a woman who CLEARLY didn’t share your outlook on virginity. You need to break up with her and let her find someone mature enough for her. You, need to go find someone who shares your outlook, which may be a bit difficult the older you get – so GET ON WITH IT.