I wanted to stay a virgin

Hi,

I feel so sorry for you about this situation. I know how it feels to have horrid thoughts about your partner doing somthing sexual with their ex.The only true advice I can give is sadly not an immediate fix.
The fact is that although you have no sexual past most people do male or female. You decided she was the one who you wanted to loose your verginity too and she should be so complimented. The truth is love is not just about sex. When you have the thoughts of her and her ex together, realise she is in your arms and kissing your lips and she wanted you! You her special someone and her past should make no difference in your future or your passed.
Tell her about your fears and insacurities if you feel that it will help you.
Just be proud that you unlike most kept your verginity for someone who you truly thought was the right one. Your instincts are worth listening to.
Good luck Buddy! from Anna

It can be hard when you are put into a situation like this. If you feel disgusted with her when you think about theese things then maybe you need to retink weatehr she is really the one you want to be with. Its entirely up to you.
It seems like she doesnt understand how much effort you put into waiting so you could have sex with the perfect woman. If she is always telling you about what she used to or maybe still does with her ex then shes just really trying to make you feel bad ad there may be an underlying cause as to why she wants you to no all this information in as much detail as you do.
My main advice is to have a decent long conersation not about who has and hasnt slept with who but about your relationship in general, and then you can figure out where the relatonship is going. You should both openly express how bad you are feeling and then maybe she would understand that you are hurt by some of the things she says.
Feel free to email me at anytime.
Hope I was of some help

First of all, you’re clearly not in the right kind of relationship for you. If you value chastity and were saving yours, you’re not with the right person.

Part of being a strong, individuated person is realising when differences are irreconcilable and moving on. I suggest this is what you do now and keep an eye out for someone who shares yours values and with whom you can be fully satisfied.

ok you need to move on hun, seriously the past is the past. Ok she has ex’s, but there is a reason that they are her ex’s and not her current boyfriend. She clearly feels comfortable enough to talk to you about her sexual past you should be pleasd she wants to confide in you. As for this feelings about cheating they mean nothing, you are just confused and want to seek any possible outcome that will help you get out of the situation. Be a man, talk and confide in her but remember the past is the past dont let it ruin the future.

hi.. i have the exact same problem with my boyfriend, im 18 he’s 19.
i saved myself for someone i cared about, and that person was him.
i saved myself because didn’t want to be another number on some guys list of conquests, another story to tell.

but after i slept with my now boyfriend he told me he had slept with alot of other girls, 15 to be precise. and he had not treated them well, they were purely just sex. a one night thing and thats it. just wanted to have sex with as many girls as possible.
it really upsets me, he doesnt realise how hurt i am. how much his past disgusts me.
he says he’s never loved anyone before but he loves me to bits.
he says he wanted to tell me the truth and be open with me, he didnt want to lie. but i feel like my saving myself has been destroyed, it means nothing now.
its always playing on my mind. i love him so much but all i ever think about is him with so many other girls

can someone please help.
please

Nobody can judge your relationship and say END IT NOW or anything because nobody has experienced your relationship and your feelings with this women,
I think you should try the things she tells you about her ex and see if you can reach that (hint) she is putting across maybe you will even enjoy it too!
If that doesnt help then have a chat with her, Speak deeply about your feelings and if she doesnt understand or approve then maybe she just isnt over her ex and it may be the end of the road for this relationship. You seem like a nice guy so maybe if she does understand you are going to leave her then she realises how great you are and how much you mean to her but then if she doesnt care then she is just the stupid one isnt she!
Good luck!

Keep in your mind she experienced all these before she met you. Why do you want to dig into what she’s been doing in her past? If she loves you now, and if what she did with her ex, or her ex is nothing to her now, then her love for you is pure. Don’t recall her past with her ex, don’t ever listen to that, or tell her not to mention him when talking with you. You will eventually forget her past.
Have wonderful relationship.!

heyy,
your girlfriends sex life is a thing of the past she proberley feels the same way as you shes proberley also to scared to approch you just sit her down and tell her straight if she cant except that then sorry babes but shes not the right girl for you good luck. xx
Jadeeeee x

Tell her you are not comftobale comparing you with her ex

It dont matter thats shes been doing it since the age of 18, because thats the legal age.
But I know it might disgust you, but be open with her, if your really truthful and honest with each other. youll discuss this problem and tell her it sometimes puts you off.
you two can work it out together and talk over about it.
and she loves you, everything will work out trust me.
but do what you think is best, you dont have t listen to me, jus tryna help :/ x