I want to break but he crys

I think the best is to sit down with him and make a list of things you both do and discuss/agree what’s ok and not ok. If he sees on paper that actually he does a lot of things and that you can’t, it may dawn on him how imbalanced your relationship is.

Say to him that in a good relationship you should be each others best friends, and the way he gets to do things and you don’t, it doesn’t feel like there’s a friendship at all.

If that doesn’t work, do leave him. Because if he doesn’t get something as simple as that, then he is a child that needs to grow up.

Its realy quite easy,make it clear to him that you dont want to lose him,but also make it clear that you also need time to yourself.If he cant cope with that then you might have to face the possibility of life without him.

you need to just tell im and don’t let his tears change ur mind… also u av to understand that if u go off with other men on the break then he will see other lasses. maybe you feel like ur needin a break but deep down u dnt and ur usin his tears as the excuse for not breakin up

hope ev thing works out for u x

my boyfriend is the same i feel so trapped. i need help ive been with him for 14months. i sat in the house for the hole time and i still am. i just don’t no how im going to break it off with him i have already tryed to 5 r times. HELP

Your problem is just your boyfriend.
I think, he’s verry egoistic and doesn’t really care of you and your problems.
The best is, that you leave him.
Do not think about his feelings, he also does not worry about yours.

You need to be strong.
Sit down with him in a quiet place and say exactly how you feel, firmly, but gentley. Say you can’t do it anymore and try not to cry. If it the situation does get sticky, just leave.
If you can’t manage that, get a good friend or a group to dump him for you. It may cause him to get embaressed but what else could you do?
This guy obviously needs to grow up.

well. if i was you i would talk to him about it. fair enough you dont wanna leave him cuz u dont wanna see him with any1 ellse. just tell him 2 back off a bit becuse if ur unhappy theres no point in the relationship.
xx

i think that you should leave him as he is saying that he can do things but you cant and thats not a real relationship. sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. he could find someone who loves him and does know what to do in this relationship.dont cheat on him just tell him that you want to go out and see your mates and go shopping and do things on your own and not with him all the time im sure hell understand but if he doesnt then i think you should leave him

ria and gemma

I no its not easy at all. Obviously you care about your boyfriend because you don’t want him to cry. You seem to still have feelings for him to as you do not want him to be with someone else. I feel i can relate to this. I was with my boyfriend for 25 months, it was great but towards the end it was going wrong. I did end it with him, and he cried and pleaded but it happened. I felt so bad, but i needed my own space and to move on. However after this break i realised how much i still love him, and we are talking of getting back on track. Believe me, put everything into persspective. Is this relationship worth putting up a fight for? If not ignore his tears its the only way

all you can do is tell yourslef you can do what you want to and tell him your tired of having his way all the time and that you already are a woman so why do you want another one ? if he cries and begs you ignore him and tel him thats that and he isnt getting another chance and you have already moved on .

If you dont want to be with him that is your choice, u shouldnt feel liek you have to stay with him becoz he needs you. But at the same time you need to sit down and tell him how you feel and that u still want to be friends just not in a relationship.

jacie=
hii if your boyfriend keeps crying when you brake up with him but you dont i suggest you sit down with him and make sure he listens if he doesnt stop arfter that and der is no love foor him then i suggest that you tell him you cant putt up with his little snivvels no more and head for the door for a better life…

Best of luck

Kira is ill she can not write get well soon kirax x

it seems like this lad cant stand the thought of been apart from you but is maybe afraid if treating you fairly. sit down with him and tell him how you feel and listen to how he feels. if he truly liked you then he would make a change for your sake if he doesnt then its up to you whether to keep or chuck. also most lads dont know what they have til they have lost it so if he loses you then come crawling back its up to you whether you would have him back you you have given him 2 chances and if you keep letting him back in then he is gonna think he has got under his control and he can do whatever he wants to and get away with it.

good luck.

The first thing to know, it’s that in an love affair or even, in friendship, it’s necessary that the individuals are equals towards. Your relation must be at least balanced, and it’s not your case. Indeed he allows him to make tricks without you and you, you can’t do nothing without him. If it makes you as badly as that, make something, take you in hand and explains him clearly that you can’t continue like that, that if he loves you really he must respect you and respect the principle of the equality, which is a base in a couple. We have all need to have time for oneself, to be posed, reflect or other, the life of couple isn’t forcing easy in the contrary case, so hang out with friends, the family or being alone, it’s good sometimes, without being with him. Fact him understand that and if he really does’nt make any efforts… it’s that he doesn’t deserve you. Because the love can change the people. In the contrary case, if it doesn’t change, it’s that he doesn’t love you enough to change. So next…
PS: Scuse me but i’m french, so my english isn’t exact.

Hey,
I understand you situation! It’s difficult for he and you. He,does’nt want to break up with you,proof/evidence which he holds “at” you and your relation!
It doesn’t much matter,you don’t have to be allowed impress or to soften by him.
I think that you have to make what you want even if that”ll be hard!You must to be happy,it’s the main part not?
After that, you can speak with him by explaining to him clearly why you want to break up, and he has to understand it,with difficulty or not!
To speak is has my opinion a first step! Your boyfriend must know that you don’t belong to him!
To sum up,make that you heart tells you to make :the good choice.
Good luck and be strong! Alex.

That’s the problem I had. In the end, I did something that he found really annoying and then argued with him. The night before, I had packed my bags n stashed them in another wardrobe. When I made sure it was a proper heated arguement, I screamed ‘IT’S OVER’. I grabbed my bags n walked out. I went to my mums n she bought me a new sim card n some credit. Every time he went to the door, I got my mum to answer it. Seconds later, he left. After a few weeks, when I knew I didn’t need him, I arranged to meet him at the park. I spoke to him n then we became friends (after about 6 times meeting him). But it worked n I feel proud that I did it. I was with him for 3 n a half years n now I’m free!!! Here’s ur plan:
1. Pack ur bags the night before.
2. Make sure u have somewhere to stay.
3. Buy a new sim card (u can get them £1 in the pound shop).
4. Don’t meet him until u r 100% sure u don’t need him.
5. Either make friends with him or ignore him all together.
Good luck! x x x

ive been in this situation before and it isnt easy! i broke up with my ex and then ended up getting back with him out of pitty, i found that this just made it harder to leave him the second time.

You cant stay with him anymore, and every day that you do its just going to get harder to leave him! your ready for the relationship to end, this meens there is no going back and your feelings arnt going to change back to the way they were, no matter how much easier that would be!

you have to be firm but kind, if he wants to ring you everyday for the next 6 months after you leave him then you have to understand that it is his way of feeling close to you, slowly break contact and speek less every day until things arnt so raw and he understands you are completly over. dont lead him on it isnt fair and it makes them even more clingy! good luck, i know it isnt easy! steph x

If he’s going out without you, you do it too, and tell him this. But you decide to be with him or you are not. So you tell him you’ve had some thoughts of staying and going, and it’s only fair on you to tell you straight, this is what you are doing….Then he needs to trust you to go out and you need to understand his reaction, and reassure him.

if you are realy trully sure you want to break up with him then sit him down and say you don’t want to be with him if he cries just say im sorry its not working okay just stand strong and do it of course it’ll hurt him after 15 months but he’ll get over it but only do it if you are absolutly sure cos the wost thing to do is break up with himand then two dys later realise you still love him and want him back

the simple answer is to talk about it with him, not about breaking up but about your relationship and if he can’t do that then tell it to him straight and either dump him or don’t because he needs to get over you and give u some space