I want the new boy back

It may or may not be too late. He may be paying attention to other girls as you really hurt him – and this may be his way of making you jealous.

What’s important here is that you examine your own character. You sound bright from your letter& I understand how hard it is to stand up to bullies and/ or popular opinion.

I know you’re young but I hope you will understand this: When you go against your own desires to please others, you will compromise your character& bring pain in your life. You will lose who you really are.

You know now you were wrong to end things to please others. Others will always have an opinion on what we do. We need to do what is right for ourselves in life or we will always lose.

You can write this boy a letter or call him and apologize. You can ask him to give you a second chance. If he does, I hope you’ll have the strength to ignore or stand up to people who don’t approve of your relationship with him. If he doesn’t take you back, I hope you don’t lose the main lesson in life I’m pointing out here: Don’t lose who you are to please others. Do what you know in your heart is right for you even in the face of disapproval. Don’t compromise your character and beliefs, your happiness. If you do, it’s the beginning of the path of self-destruction. You will then always live in fear of pleasing others and judge yourself by their standards rather than by your own. You will lose even if you win.

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Look up EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) on Google. It’s a great way to build confidence.

Personaly i think go for it. you won’t know where u stand untill you do. just talk to him tell him how you feel, even if he puts you down you will be relieved that you’ve tryed.

i was in your situation once only we never actualy dated but we were best friends, and i stopped hanging round with him because of other people, but i still had strong feelings for him that i never told him about becasue i dint want to ruin our friendship. but after pushing him away i had nothing to loose, i told him how i felt and now were together and i we love eachother.

im not saying it will turn out like that for you, but don’t you think its worth a shot maybe just tell him how you feel and if he dosnt feel the same you can at least be friends. trust me you will feel alot better once you’ve done it. hope it helps. if u need extra help my bebo is Angelg02

Just ask him out again ! I’m sure he will say yes if he did cry. but if it dosent work then make him jealous by going out with another guy

it sounds like you have learn’t your lesson that you shouldn’t let peoples oppinions run your life and you shouldnt let people make decisions for you. i went out with a guy once and all my friends would stay stuff about him. but honestly, this guy is apart of your life, and he is apart of you and your friends need to except that. nobody can help the way they feel… and if people cant except that you like this guy and that you wanna be with him then they arn’t worth your stress. maybe him being with all these girls is something for him to show you he has moved on when really he may feel the same. don’t assume just because he is a flirt that he doesnt like you still, because every guy appreciates a girls attention now and again.

go for it cause it will become too late and you will regret you kept quiet.

Caving into pressure isn’t a crime. You know that it was wrong to dump him because of everyone else, and you’re sorry for that. It sounds like you two had a fantastic relationship and lets not forget that you took him in originally, when nobody else would. I bet if you took him aside and tried to talk to him alone, you could remind him that you’ve made mistakes, but you’re willing to give it another go – not because he’s now popular, but because you miss what you had with him. Tell him how you feel; the best thing here is to be honest. Don’t be afraid though, you’ve already been strong enough to conquer everyone else and make your own decision.

Explain to him how you felt really pressurized and you are sorry and you really want to get back with him. He’ll understand.

Going out with another guy just to make the first one jealous, isn’t honest. The second guy has feelings too and doesn’t deserve to be used. You wouldn’t like it if the tables were turned.
Just tell the first guy how you feel, and how bad you felt when you did that too him. Be sorry and take what is coming because of it. You have no right to expect anything. But, humbling yourself in this way, may pay off and it will help you to realise how to avoid getting into this situation again in the future. After all, we need to learn from our mistakes. We all make them. The sad thing is if we don’t learn, we don’t progress. And you don’t want that, do you!

just talk to him when he’s on his own, if you get rejected no one is there to see it xx

I dont think its 2 l8. If u really feel good with him, dont let the another to deal u both. Go to him and tell him how u feel. If he feel the same, ull get back again. Good luck

I think you should try to say him that you still love him and you want to try second time. Trying won’t kill you.

it’s never too late. it just depends on the approach that you are intending to take. if your relationship was as good as he says then he couldnt have forgotten you. ask him if you can speak to him privately and tell him. do it before someone else snaps him up…

write bak to mee

make him some gifts… that will make him happpy….
then he will come back to you…
xD