I want the new boy back
By Agony Aunt | November 6, 2008
im 14 years old,i really need some advice on what to do.Last year a boy moved into my school and because he was new nobody really new or liked him much,but he really liked me and i begin to like him too we started dating wed be inseperable and he made me feel so loved.
But everyone was teasing me for goin out with “the new boy” i tried to ignore them but it got so bad i didnt want to go to school anymore, so in the end i felt i had no choice but to end it all with him even though i dindt want too,he was really upset and ended up crying infornt or everyone in school,he tried to get back toghether with me but id say no.
Now its months later and my feelings for him are stronger than ever i think i may be in love with him , if i know what love is…But the thing is hes all mr popular now nad hes always with all the girls and hugging them and everything ,hes forgotten all about me , i dont know what to do anymore hes all i ever think about , i just want him back
,is it too late? xx
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It may or may not be too late. He may be paying attention to other girls as you really hurt him - and this may be his way of making you jealous.
What’s important here is that you examine your own character. You sound bright from your letter& I understand how hard it is to stand up to bullies and/ or popular opinion.
I know you’re young but I hope you will understand this: When you go against your own desires to please others, you will compromise your character& bring pain in your life. You will lose who you really are.
You know now you were wrong to end things to please others. Others will always have an opinion on what we do. We need to do what is right for ourselves in life or we will always lose.
You can write this boy a letter or call him and apologize. You can ask him to give you a second chance. If he does, I hope you’ll have the strength to ignore or stand up to people who don’t approve of your relationship with him. If he doesn’t take you back, I hope you don’t lose the main lesson in life I’m pointing out here: Don’t lose who you are to please others. Do what you know in your heart is right for you even in the face of disapproval. Don’t compromise your character and beliefs, your happiness. If you do, it’s the beginning of the path of self-destruction. You will then always live in fear of pleasing others and judge yourself by their standards rather than by your own. You will lose even if you win.
I hope the advice I gave helped you. You can find me anytime at anonymousletters.net
I am an agony aunt who answers help letters for free. I like helping people and don’t like to see others in pain.
Look up EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) on Google. It’s a great way to build confidence.