I still can’t stop thinking about him
I have a problem, i am nearly 23 and still have feelings for a guy who i met at the age of 17 well naturally i thought stupidly that i would probably marry him one day etc, he was the one who made a move on me and we had a few flings after never actually ever had sex and now hes in canada with his new girlfriend who hes enagaged to.
He allways gives me a look everytime i see him which does my head in cause i am trying to get over him and makes it worse that his family live just not that far from my parents house. I really would like to get over him but i can’t ive tried everything well kind of but i still can’t stop thinking about him everyday and its doing my head in cause its so painful sometimes and sometimes i don’t feel like doing anything like working etc i dont know what to do cause i can’t exactly tell him, plus he would probably be creeped out by it.
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Whatever you shared with this man at the age of 17, the reality is that he’s now engaged to be married to someone else. And you need to accept that.
Any ‘looks’ he may be giving you are meaningless because he’s not free to act on them. Besides, he’s not yet legally married. If he wanted to, he could end his engagement and come back to you. The fact he doesn’t shows you he wants to be with her- not you.
Besides, you deserve better than this ambivalent man who may not even know what he wants.
My advice is to keep your distance. If he truly regrets his engagement and cares for you, he WILL end it and come after you. If not, you’re honestly better off without him.
You need to think about what kind of man you want. Does integrity matter to you or do you truly want a man who’d be willing- if he were- to cheat on his fiancee with you? Someone who did it with you would do it TO you later.
Also, hang on to YOUR self-respect& values by refusing to help him betray the woman he’s engaged to.
You’re confused because you think he’s your first& true love. But if you keep your distance, stay well away from him& his family, and be patient, you WILL meet someone FAR BETTER for you- who won’t be engaged to another& free to devote all his time& energy just to YOU. THINK. Good luck.
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