I slept with another girl when I was drunk

You need to find a counselor or someone objective to talk to face to face. You made a big mistake and your girlfriend has the right to know. Apart from anything else, I hope you took precautions as you could unknowingly pass on a sexual disease to your girlfriend. Sleeping with strangers is unsafe- and the price of infidelity can be very high nowadays.

You need to calm down, acknowledge what you did, then you need to tell your girlfriend. She deserves to know the truth even it means she will end the relationship. Even if she did, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. It would be hard but you would eventually have the chance to start over with someone else- now that you’ve learned your lesson. Lying is never the answer. If you REALLY love this girl, at least have the decency to come clean and tell her the truth. Two wrongs (cheating AND lying) don’t make a right.

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i would tell her as she has a right to know. If your relationship means that much to you then you shouldn’t have done it in the first place.
If the relationship is so good then you should tell her and maybe she won’t terminate it?

tell her the truth she will be angry but glad you told her the truth!!!

She deserves to know, relationships need honesty like that to survive, imagine her finding out sometime in the near future, how much would that hurt her? not only having you cheat on her but you were being dishonest about it. And thats a dealbreaker. but your mistake doesnt have to be, if you calm down and tell her, but tell her in a calm way, and showher you her and only her, if shes “the one” you think she is, you will get past this.

hey …i think what u have done is something so terrible..but the best thing that u have done is admit to yourself that you are in the wrong. well done for that!..
i think that your girlfriend has the right to know. yes,she is going to be hurt,wouldnt u be?…
be a man and stand up for ur actions ..i hope it all turns out ok for you x

I know it may be hard, but the best thing is to tell you girlfriend. Explain everything that you have said in your letter and make sure she knows how sorry you are and how much you love her. If you honestly love her, then keeping this kind of secret should not even be a question. Please take my advise and tell her. Hope this helps x

yes your girl frend might well end it. but if you love her you have to take that risk, she diserves to know.

you have got to tell her, if you dont tell her she’ll find out from someone else and that will hurt her even more than you telling her. she will be angry but only for a while, she will be glad in the end up that you were honest. good luck !

Hello there~ I have experienced this before, just that I am the girl in the relationship. My boyfriend went clubbing and ended up sleeping with another girl. The next day, he told me he was extremely guilty of what he did last night and I knew instantly what it was. I was shocked, dumbfounded, give me another word. I couldn’t believe it at first but I did in the end. I really didn’t know what to think or do then but look, we’re still together now and he’s never done it again ever since.

The difference with my experience was he didn’t have to say what exactly he had done. But him coming clean about it and admitting his mistake was something I appreciated. Up till now, I still think given a choice, I would rather know what happened rather than be kept in the dark. My faith in him has not faltered and if the relationship really means a lot, no one will just give it up like that. It really is up to your girlfriend what happens next but right now, you have to admit your actions.

Being drunk is not an excuse, so don’t try to use it to defend yourself! People often say, you can do it once, you can do it twice but I also believe, everyone makes mistakes, everyone deserves a second chance. I wish all goes well between you and your girlfriend

do NOT tell your misses that you have shagged someone else cos that will end your relationship. its your own fault for whacking out another girl but you dont tell her. you should take responsibility for your actions, but trust me i hope she was worth the ride.

if you dont tell her your not tachnicaly liein to her but tell the truth if she finds out later on then thats to rongs. liein/cheating

Rach is right! Tell her although she i will so upset but she will be greatful that she has a honest girlfriend.! xx

I’ve been cheated on before and buddy lemme tell ya, it isn’t nice. But what I’ll also tell ya is that I took him back.

Your best bet at making things work with your girlfriend and easing your guilt would be to tell her the truth. If you really love her then you know she deserves to know. I would also advise you to be at the ready with flowers, endless apologies and iloveyous, but hopefully if you really do love her, then you can prove it to her and she’ll take you back.

Best of luck.

hello friend, i had the exact same problem as you no to long ago but i think you have to tell her i have done the same thing as you twice and my ex accepted it ( she is no myt ex because i cheated on her btw ) but you have to tell her yourself and not one of your friends ,talk to someone you trust like your family but dont talk to your friends about it just incase someone is tryin to split you up.

P.s i hope you get through this wit no problem atall

~ andy

ur a 2timing little get. if u really loved ur gf u wouldn’t of had sex with someone else. u should tell ur gf the truth and finish with her cause u dont love ere

my boyfriend of over a year slept with my best friend who was also my flat mate at the time and we are workign through it, ti has been 2 months now, and although i have moments where i have to stop and think i still belive i made the right decision. If she loves you as much as you love her you could be ok.love can conquere all…tell her the truth and see other wise the guilt will eat u up … good luck xx

you are so in the wrong but i do feel really sorry for you.. sex and love are not tied together so just because you had sex with another girl does not meen that you have and emotional connection or feelings for her at all!! it also doesnt meen that you love your girlfriend any less, it does however meen that your an idiot for risking what you have with your girlfriend! she would want to know about this and she would want it to come from you, what you have done is going to make her question if she can trust you or not, but by you telling her about it shows her to some extent that she still can! you need to meet up with her somewere private were you have plenty time to talk and shout and cry because believe me that is what will happen and you have to accept everything that comes your way, if she really loves you then you will pull through but you cant expect her to get over it quickly, it may be months, it may be years before she truly gets over it and im sorry but your going to have to put up with her being fine one minute and then randomly upset about it the next and this will go on for a long time! if you love her though then you will just hve to accept this! sit her down and explane that you were drunk, you never spoke to this girl before and you never spoke to her after, tell her all the things she wants to hear but only if you meen them, she is going to need alot of reasurrance that you love her, that you think she is stunning and that she can trust you!! GROVEL GROVEL GROVEL and things should eventually be ok, but in the meen time you need to tell her and comfort her, pussy foot around her, spoil her, show her how sorry you are, treat her like a princess, spend every waking minute telling her how much she meens to you, spend every last penny you have on her, be spontaniouse, surprise her with gifts and treats, actions speek louder than words!!!

I truely believe that everyone makes mistakes. We are all only human and sometimes things can happen, that we choose to do in the heat of the moment but we later regret. I have been wit my bf for a year and a half; but i kissed another man back when he came onto me. I felt so so guilty believe me and i still do but i know in my heart it was a terrible mistake to kiss back but i also know it will never ever happen again. I never told my bf what happened because i knew it would end the relationship and that he would never trust me again. It wasnt worth it when i new what i did was a once-off. I love my bf to bits and just because sum1 has made a mistake of cheating once in their lives does not mean they are a two-timing git who doesnt love their gf/bf (jay). It is up2 you to make the choice and decide what to do. Good luck hun

I feel for you! i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i got really drunk the other night at university and slept with one of my close boy mates! i have never felt so guilty in my whole life! i cant look at my boyfriend without thinking about what i have done! i love him so so much! although this may sound terrible but im not going to tell him because i dont want to risk what we have because i never want to loose him! i know for sure that i will NEVER do that EVER again because it is possibly the worst thing i have ever done! Also it meant absolutly nothing for me! so i know exactly what you are going through. But im not going to tell my boyfriend because i love him too much and dont want to loose him! and you can all shout and have a go saying i was wrong he deserves to know but you know what ….. i dont care what you think! so seriosuly do what you think is right!

im not sure if you should tell your girl or not but the fact that you admit that what you did was a terrible thing makes the situation a little better. and you were drunk so its not entirely your fault. maybe you should come clean but make sure your girlfriend knows that she means the world to you x
hope that helped

If u REALLY love ur girlfriend an not jus sayin that to make you feel better then i dont think u should tell her as it will hurt her more than u no and she WILL no doubt break-up with you and she will hurt for a very long time and so will u, i think if u went through with telling her then ur guilt will be magnified so much too. If u really do want to talk to get it off ur chest then i suggest that u go to councelling and then the guilt will get better to handle.
as seeing that u really do feel extremely BAD for it then i think its the best thing to do.
hope it helps xXx