Comments on: I love two men http://myagonyaunt.com/i-love-two-men/ Relationship Advice Sat, 28 Aug 2010 21:40:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: dave http://myagonyaunt.com/i-love-two-men/comment-page-1/#comment-816 dave Thu, 21 Jan 2010 13:05:10 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=35#comment-816 This sounds just like what is happening with me and my girlfriend and its tearing me appart. Im trying to do whatever i can to make it work and it feels like im not getting anywhere. I think what you are doing is terrible and I think you should put him out of his missery and tell him straight..its cruel. This sounds just like what is happening with me and my girlfriend and its tearing me appart. Im trying to do whatever i can to make it work and it feels like im not getting anywhere. I think what you are doing is terrible and I think you should put him out of his missery and tell him straight..its cruel.

]]> By: Letty http://myagonyaunt.com/i-love-two-men/comment-page-1/#comment-193 Letty Fri, 01 May 2009 22:29:20 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=35#comment-193 I understand that this was posted quite a long time ago so I'm sorry if its not relevant anymore. I don't have any advice but I am at the beginning of a very similar situation myself. I haven't actually done anything with the other guy yet, but I feel like its inevitable that it will happen. At the same time though, I don't want to break up with my boyfriend. I'm just posting this really because I was wondering how you handled your situation in the end? I understand that this was posted quite a long time ago so I’m sorry if its not relevant anymore. I don’t have any advice but I am at the beginning of a very similar situation myself. I haven’t actually done anything with the other guy yet, but I feel like its inevitable that it will happen. At the same time though, I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend. I’m just posting this really because I was wondering how you handled your situation in the end?

]]> By: Lisa http://myagonyaunt.com/i-love-two-men/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Lisa Sat, 04 Oct 2008 16:49:32 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=35#comment-4 It's obvious you're not happy with your long term boyfriend but the right thing to do was to break up with him BEFORE you started another relationship with the new guy. That way you would have kept your integrity and your boyfriend's respect. Perhaps the two of you could have remained friends. As things stand, it's unlikely things will work out with your boyfriend. Things seem to have gone far too wrong to be put right; if he was the right one& you were truly committed to him, you wouldn't have been seeking solace in another man's arms. It's better to break up now rather than marry, have kids with your boyfriend& then end up breaking a family. That would be FAR more traumatic, I assure you. My advice would be to be honest and tell your boyfriend that- while you'll always value him& the times you had together- he's obviously not the one for you. You're only hurting him more by being dishonest. After that, you're free to start a relationship with the other guy- but only if you're sure you're meant to be together. It's better to take time and be sure this new man is right for you- before you dive headlong into a new relationship. Whatever you do, never start a new thing before breaking off the old. That way you hang onto your self-respect. Good luck. It’s obvious you’re not happy with your long term boyfriend but the right thing to do was to break up with him BEFORE you started another relationship with the new guy. That way you would have kept your integrity and your boyfriend’s respect. Perhaps the two of you could have remained friends.

As things stand, it’s unlikely things will work out with your boyfriend. Things seem to have gone far too wrong to be put right; if he was the right one& you were truly committed to him, you wouldn’t have been seeking solace in another man’s arms.

It’s better to break up now rather than marry, have kids with your boyfriend& then end up breaking a family. That would be FAR more traumatic, I assure you.

My advice would be to be honest and tell your boyfriend that- while you’ll always value him& the times you had together- he’s obviously not the one for you. You’re only hurting him more by being dishonest.

After that, you’re free to start a relationship with the other guy- but only if you’re sure you’re meant to be together. It’s better to take time and be sure this new man is right for you- before you dive headlong into a new relationship.

Whatever you do, never start a new thing before breaking off the old. That way you hang onto your self-respect. Good luck.

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