I haven’t had much luck in relationships
By Agony Aunt | October 22, 2008
im 22 and and currently a single parent, i haven’t had much luck in my past relationships as they have usually turned out abusive.
I split from my ex in march but i have strong feelings for him still and keep getting him back involved in my life after we go a couple of months without speaking, he tells me he wont treat me like before and i really believe him. I am confused, i love this person but i don’t know if i really do want to do get back with him, but i cant bare the fact he might move on.
Not only that i was texting one if his best friends and we almost did something we may have regretted, this person has also declared their love for me and now i feel trapped between them both and scared that if i did get back with my ex his friend might tell him or may have told someone else and this will surely take him back to his old ways and destroy his trust he thinks he has in me, although this was a serious issue within our relationship the first time around, even though there was no reason.
The whole relationship with my ex has been complicated from the start, as he has his own children from a previous relationship, this was an issue for me because i found out they had been texting each other and heard rumors that they had slept together whilst he was with me, also his family dislike for other reasons, how can i decide what to do?
ive been hurt and i dont want to get hurt again but i yet i still think about my ex and seriously considering to agree to be in a relationship with my ex, the only thing stopping me is the fling i had with his friend, and i dont want to hurt him either…please help.
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It’s not a matter of luck, honestly. You have such low self-esteem that you’re willing to settle for ANY relationship- even one that’s obviously wrong for you. Your ex was selfish, he tries to control you, he doesn’t appreciate you as you are, you were so unfulfilled that you were tempted to leave him for another, he probably cheated on you with his ex, he has kids& complications from another relationship. Why would you even WANT to be with him?! Where is the attraction honestly?
As for the second man, he may or may not be suitable. You can only find out by doing two things:
1- Break it off permanently with your ex; he’s bad for your self-esteem& don’t go running back when he begs you.
2- Believe in yourself & develop your self-esteem. Please don’t enter another relationship till you know what YOU want in a relationship AND you believe that you’re entitled to get it!
It’s your self-respect - NOT luck- and what you will& WON’T put up with in relationships that gets you the best deal in life. I wish you all the best.
Look up EFT on the net on Google (Emotional Freedom Technique) or read about it on the EFT section on siouxhealer.co.uk EFT is a great new effective method for building confidence, so you feel better& make the right decisions.
I hope my advice helped you. I’m an agony aunt and my website is
anonymousletters.net
Go to my site and contact me through the contact me page if you need me.