I Have A Crush On Someone Who Doesn’t Even Know I Exist
By Agony Aunt | November 13, 2008
I’m 18, and I have a huge crush on this guy 3 years older to me.
I presume its perfectly normal for a teenager like me to have crushes, but here’s the weird thing-I don’t even know why!! Seriously, I mean, the guy doesn’t share any of my interests, doesn’t bother to even listen to my ideas, let alone respect them, isn’t aware of my very existence, and oh yeah, he has a girlfriend.
My friends have tried everything to help me, but I’m really hung up on him.I think about him every minute and fantasise that we end up together. I’m truly disgusted with myself, and my performance in class is affected because of this. I don’t know what to do. Please help me get over him!!!!!!!
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You have low self-esteem and you obviously don’t believe you could attract anyone else so, subconsciously, you hold onto your fantasy with this guy because if you lost the fantasy you’d have to actually face your fears about finding someone to love you.
Only you can convince yourself you’re lovable and worthy of love. You have to keep your distance from this guy and when you find yourself thinking of him take a deep breath & change the thought or use a rubber wrist band that you snap each time you think of him, so the thought association becomes painful rather than pleasurable.
You need to lead your own life; get out there with your friends& try to meet other people. Pursue your hobbies& passions whether reading, music, painting, walking, whatever they may be. Work on building your self-esteem by listening to free self-confidence mp3 you can get off the internet& download. Read books on self-confidence. Look after your appearance so you feel good about yourself. Repeat positive affirmations daily (I’m a bright attractive person & deserve someone just as good). If you put the focus on yourself& your life rather than this guy, you’ll forget him and the right person for you will eventually walk into your life. But you have to be open to that.
I hope the advice I gave helped you. You can find me anytime at anonymousletters.net I am an agony aunt who answers help letters for free. I like helping people and don’t like to see others in pain.
Please look up EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) on Google or on siouxhealer.co.uk under EFT section. EFT is a great method for building confidence and feeling better.
Also deep breathing helps (breathing in through the nose, hold it, then let it out slowly through the mouth. Count from 1 to 10. Listening to relaxing music can help.
EFT is the best method for building confidence. Read up on it on the net& follow it till you feel better. You’ll feel so good you’ll end up meeting someone new and this boy won’t know what he missed. Remind yourself he’s the loser. He lost you. Know your worth.