I Have A Crush On Someone Who Doesn’t Even Know I Exist

You have low self-esteem and you obviously don’t believe you could attract anyone else so, subconsciously, you hold onto your fantasy with this guy because if you lost the fantasy you’d have to actually face your fears about finding someone to love you.

Only you can convince yourself you’re lovable and worthy of love. You have to keep your distance from this guy and when you find yourself thinking of him take a deep breath & change the thought or use a rubber wrist band that you snap each time you think of him, so the thought association becomes painful rather than pleasurable.

You need to lead your own life; get out there with your friends& try to meet other people. Pursue your hobbies& passions whether reading, music, painting, walking, whatever they may be. Work on building your self-esteem by listening to free self-confidence mp3 you can get off the internet& download. Read books on self-confidence. Look after your appearance so you feel good about yourself. Repeat positive affirmations daily (I’m a bright attractive person & deserve someone just as good). If you put the focus on yourself& your life rather than this guy, you’ll forget him and the right person for you will eventually walk into your life. But you have to be open to that.

I hope the advice I gave helped you. You can find me anytime at anonymousletters.net I am an agony aunt who answers help letters for free. I like helping people and don’t like to see others in pain.

Please look up EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) on Google or on siouxhealer.co.uk under EFT section. EFT is a great method for building confidence and feeling better.

Also deep breathing helps (breathing in through the nose, hold it, then let it out slowly through the mouth. Count from 1 to 10. Listening to relaxing music can help.

EFT is the best method for building confidence. Read up on it on the net& follow it till you feel better. You’ll feel so good you’ll end up meeting someone new and this boy won’t know what he missed. Remind yourself he’s the loser. He lost you. Know your worth.

look find another guy
or u can tell him u like him and see what he says
try talking to your parents or even his girlfriend
i hope my advice will help you
good luck
xxx

ok,
you have two choices,
either tell him how you feel and hope for the best cause you have nothing to loose.. if he feels the same then everyones a winner & if not then you know where you stand.
or try thinking of other ways that make you happy that will get your mind away from this guy. it’s not that simple to move on. but nobody said that life would be easy so live it to the full and take risks, cause you only live once.

good luck, and remember keep smiling

You’re very right about one thing. It’s totally, utterly normal to have crushes on the most random people ever. You aren’t alone in not quite knowing why you have a thing for someone, either. The thing is, in your head you know that in reality you two don’t really have much in common; you’re actually further towards being over him than you think. There’s no rule that says you have to forget it and move on just because hes unobtainable. Never hurts to look, or fantasize. The harm only comes when you forget that it isn’t going to happen. At this stage, sounds like he’s better as a fantasy. But who knows what the future holds…

I know the feeling of being in love with someone that will never return the compliment. It hurts, it’s stupid and we are worth better, trouble is, you can’t help who you fall in love with. I am a grown woman, well over 30 and still suffer with the ‘crush’ element of love. Insecure, yes, low self esteem, yes but I know I can love, have been there and proved it. The thing with fantasy men, or the object being far away, is we can spend hours longing and never be crushed by it. We can dream endlessly and never wake up. These people never hurt us or dismiss us…..but they will never be ours. Accepting that is when it begins to hurt and no amount of wrist band pinging will change that. It’s like an addiction, admit there’s an issue and try to think of solutions. Telling his girlfriend like the last person suggested is a crock of rubbish, driving a wedge into a relationship will not win the man of your dreams, it will push him away.

You can see yours every day, probably what hurts the most, look can’t touch. I have to pick up a remote control to see mine. (Now who’s worse off! ) Your feelings are normal, painful, sweet….the delicious yet troubled emotion of love. Mine are worse because it’s a stupid school fantasy, but consider this, at least we aren’t stalkers, at the least we have common sense and you will find the love you deserve. I promise xx

u have a crush on dat kind of guy?
there’s thousands of guys out there thats much more better than him
you should find sum1 that really appreciate you
not the one dat dont know that u exist
go and find sum1 else
u can get lots of guy thats much better than him
trust me!~n please trust urself..
throw that stupid guy to the dustbin

You have to try and get over him ASAP. Or you will nevr get any qualifications and you won’t get a job. You do not wan’t all this for some guy that you have a crush on. Think about this. Is he really what you think he is, do you know things about him? For all you know he could be a mass murderer. So be careful.

Tricia x

Relax. It happens to everyone. Even me! And I’m anarchy this and badass that, so it really sucks to fall for someone, doesn’t it? Especially fall hard. Can’t stop looking at him, can’t stop thinking about him, that sort of crap? And he has a girlfriend. Major ow. You can’t just get her out of his life without either being creepy or stalker-like. So what do you do?

Well, trust me, crushes usually pass. You can wait, concentrating more on your friends than anything else. Get into fights if you’re that sort of girl. Maybe study more (though I know I’m more of a procrastinator)? Pinch yourself when you think about him, I guess.

However, a better idea would be to approach him and tell him how you feel. Just don’t do it the wimpy way. You should have confidence – men find that sexy – and you should show your feelings yet get to keep your pride if he rejects you. Remember, he has a girlfriend. He really might say no. Whatever you do, don’t cry. If he says no, he doesn’t know what he’s missing.

Focus on other guys. Remember, there are other fish in the sea. And who knows? Maybe your crush is a jerk. Focus on his flaws if you want to get over him. He kicked a puppy. He didn’t finish his project. He has ugly hair. Whatever works for you. Compare him to someone else. He doesn’t have green eyes, but Cody has.

The best thing is to ask him out though. Dealing with rejection isn’t as hard as dealing with a crush. Oh, and beware of “unrequited love” syndrome. That’s when you still aren’t over the crush.

And if he goes out with you, yay you!

Sincerely, good luck.

I can’t believe I’m doing this.

Listen … i have been through a similar thing. I was in love with my best friend though and she was seeing someone else (she was actually engaged to them!) i started having feelings for her and realised i loved her! Some how we got into a certain situation and we got off – a few hundred times! This went on for about 2 months before we realised it was wrong and she couldnt do it to her fiancee any more! After that we stayed best friends but i never got over her – personally i hope she never got over me. I still love her. I think about her all the time. I just want her to be with me again … but i hads to move on because i knew it could never happen again.
You just need to get your mind clear. It will take a while and its gunna be hard but you just need to try. Everytime you think of him try to think of something else. These thoughts about him are only gunna distract you from more important things.
You have to decide are you going to go and talk to him or get over him. You should just go up and say hi – or tell him how you feel straight out. you never know he might start to like you back. However if you decide not to confront him then you really need to start focusing. Work hard and dont give your mind any free time. Think constantly about friends work etc. dont give your mind a free moment to think about him.
I find that when going to bed i always thought about that girl i told you about earlier and i wouldnt be able to get to sleep. dont suffer from the same thing i did. When going to sleep read a book, watch a movie, revise for important things etc.

good luck i hope i helped xxx

My advice is if you want to be with him then tell him you don’t cheat and that if he really loves you then he will believe you after all every relationship is built on trust without trust you won’t get very far

Good luck hope you do well x

yeah i know that feelin of a chrush except the guy i had a chrush on did not have a girl friend….

if you want to try to get to know him wait until he does not have a girl friend until then find something quter to look at.

I know the feeling exactly,
I used to have a crush on someone i didnt even know,
I used to see him on my way home from school
When i started work i had a crush on someone i worked with who was a few years older than me
But i think that when you have a crush on an older person its becuase they act how you want people your own way to act. like, their real caring and would do eveything to make sure your ok and e.g. get home safe, so they gie you a lift.
Im sure it will just pass though.

OMG!! get a grip!!! three years and he doesnt know you get over it. find someone else xox

you should talk to and tell him you were never unfaithful … if you do not think a thing of the … in the end your stay clean of sin …. and if you really love return with you … good luck. I’m from chile =

basically.. start talking to him so he knows you exsit LOL .. and alsoooo.. its abit like justin bieber.. everyone fancies him and he dont know basically all of them exsit.. AND also nuff love!;)