Comments on: I hate people touching me

By: leigh

leigh — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 01:11:46 +0000

Who is touching you? According to psychology, the study of human behaviour, no-one likes people coming too close, and it does depend on the environment, people in cities are used to it, countries, not. People are also not liking sharing or receiving information that is real personal until theyve known them for a while.

By: roxy

roxy — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 16:22:08 +0000

i surgest trieing to over come your disconfort. maby see a counseler. let your dauter see you let people tuch you, like shake hands, tap you, hug. this should show her it’s ok to have peopel make physical contact to a point

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 09:32:58 +0000

You can also read about EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) by reading about it on the net or on siouxhealer.co.uk This method is effective; it depends on tapping certain areas or points of the body while repeating positive statements like (Although I have a fear of strangers I completely and profoundly accept myself). It really works and will help you overcome your fears, so look up EFT on the google search engine. Then read up on it and get started.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 13:13:21 +0000

I hope the advice I gave helped you. You can find me anytime at my website: anonymousletters.net
I am an agony aunt who answers help letters for free. I like helping people and don’t like to see others in pain.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 11:01:33 +0000

Check out selfesteem4women on the net. It has good self confidence building techniques.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 11:00:26 +0000

You haven’t intentionally done your daughter- or anyone- any harm so don’t feel bad& don’t beat yourself up about this. It’s perfectly normal to feel insecure after a break-up. Being a single parent is FAR from easy, so it’s natural to develop fears, suffer from loneliness, and feel uneasy when approached/ touched casually by strangers.

The way to get through this is to build your self-esteem. First you should go out of your way to practice casual friendly touching with your good friends in front of your daughter, so she gets the hang. Get into the habit of kissing your good female or male friends on the cheek or hugging them in full view of your daughter. Touch your friends on the arm when you want to ask them something. Pat your friend’s hand when making a point. Get into the habit of casual every day social touching with good friends whom you trust. Do this when your daughter is present. THAT is the first step to overcoming your fear of being touched. Also, practice hugging family members (mom, dad, siblings, aunts) in front of your child.

Second, always walk with your head high and shoulders staight. Read books on self confidence and listen to free subliminal tapes you can get off the internet by going to such sites. Check out http://www.selfesteem4women.com You can get some great tips there for building self-confidence. The more confident you are, the less shaky you will feel when people touch you. Repeat mentally to yourself every day affirmations at least ten times (I am a strong confident woman).

Take deep breaths when you feel someone ( a stranger) approaching you and mentally prepare yourself that they might touch you on the hand or arm when making a point. Tell yourself that you’re going to feel relaxed when they do.

Taking up meditation or yoga can also have a calming effect as can writing a journal. Practice visualizing how confident& relaxed you want to feel around others.

Of course, all the above doesn’t mean you mustn’t be careful of strangers. Avoid being alone with a man you don’t know or whom you’re not comfy with is always wise to do. And if someone crosses a boundary when touching you or is inappropriate, then you move away& put them in their place.

Do deep breathing exercises (breathe in , inhale through the nose & exhale slowly through the mouth) and visualize nice thoughts, listen to subliminal confidence building tapes on your PC or relaxing music each night before going to bed.

If these methods don’t help you, you will need to consult a therapist for further help. Things WILL get better. It’s just a matter of time and practice. When your daughter’s older, you can always sit her down& discuss all these things with her to reassure her. I hope that things get better for you soon.