Comments on: I ended up going home with this guy

By: rain

rain — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 13:19:23 +0000

he is using your guilt and taking advantage. open your eyes and look clearly

By: roxy

roxy — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 16:31:00 +0000

if he really loves you he will never stop but what u did was rong and would of hurt him so much. it’s posibel that he will never be abel to trust u agane or atleast not like before. why not talk next time he comes over, tell him you want to start from scratch and just see how it gose.

By: Hurpen

Hurpen — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 00:58:30 +0000

It sounds as if he’s trying to hurt you so you’ll feel the same pain he felt when he learned you slept with someone else.

Unfortunately that’s a very misguided and immature attitude, as you were within your rights to sleep with another person since the relationship has terminated.

Make sure you realise this in whatever decision you make.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 13:14:45 +0000

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By: Lisa

Lisa — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 16:58:26 +0000

You were wrong to be so foolish as to go home with somebody you didn’t know- especially as you say you still love your ex-boyfriend. I hope you took precautions when you had sex as there lots of STDs going round- some of which can be deadly like AIDS. You also don’t want to get pregnant from a one night stand. You have to develop stronger values and self-confidence so you don’t take some misguided advice from some random stranger that could mess up your life. You also saw how wrong the advice was, so hopefully you won’t fall into that trap again.

As to your ex-boyfriend, his behaviour is also questionable to be frank. He’d broken up with you against your desire it seems, now he says he doesn’t trust you, yet he comes round to kiss, cuddle, and ‘almost’ have sex with you?! He’s not being on the up and up here.

You need to be strong and tell him that – unless he wants to get back together again & forgive you and recommit to the relationship- things are over between you. If you can’t find the strength to do that, then I’m afraid he’s going to use your mistake against you, and will take advantage of your feelings for him by eventually having sex with you while refusing to commit.

Regardless of what you did, you deserve better and that isn’t on. It is what he’s doing I’m afraid. Either he forgives you and you become a couple again. Or you both move on. Using you for sex while he refuses to recommit will only bring you more heartbreak. Be strong and don’t allow yourself to be used like that. Even if things end, it’s not the end of the world.

Whatever you do, – if you didn’t use precautions, be sure to get tested for HIV, STD’s and pregnancy. Good luck.