I ended up going home with this guy
Okay basically my boyfriend of five months split up with me because we were going through a rough patch and he didnt see the point in us continuing anymore as it was so complicated. I was absolutely devastated as I loved and still love him with my entire self. On the Friday night I got wasted and started crying to this random woman I’d just met about him ending it with me and she said to get over him you need to get under someone else. I don’t know why the hell I thought it was good advice but I did. I ended up going home with this guy… I regret it more than anything in my entire life.
I HATE myself for what I’ve done. I’d do anything to take it back! My Ex found out and went mental. He was in so much pain… his eyes… God, I wanted to rip my heart out. He hated me. A few days after it happened, we went for a walk together and I explained myself as best as I could and he told me how he was feeling. The day after he came round and was hugging me and cuddling me. He told me about
how he’d forgiven me, he didnt want me to hate myself anymore and that he still loved me and he wants us to be friends. For the following days, he kept coming round and cuddling me and hugging me. We’ve even kissed and told each other we love each other and everything! I asked him if we were going to get back together and he said No, he could never trust me again after what I did. But he’s still coming round to see me and we’re still hugging and kissing! He even came round this morning and we held each other for ages… we even got a bit sexual but he didnt want to actually have sex… we just did other things.
So after all this… and he still doesnt want to get back with me. He says he’s never felt about anyone else this way and that I mean the world to him. I love him, I need him back, I feel empty without him. Please can someone tell me what to do?! I need to know how to get a guys trust back? How can I get him back!?
Thank you…x
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You were wrong to be so foolish as to go home with somebody you didn’t know- especially as you say you still love your ex-boyfriend. I hope you took precautions when you had sex as there lots of STDs going round- some of which can be deadly like AIDS. You also don’t want to get pregnant from a one night stand. You have to develop stronger values and self-confidence so you don’t take some misguided advice from some random stranger that could mess up your life. You also saw how wrong the advice was, so hopefully you won’t fall into that trap again.
As to your ex-boyfriend, his behaviour is also questionable to be frank. He’d broken up with you against your desire it seems, now he says he doesn’t trust you, yet he comes round to kiss, cuddle, and ‘almost’ have sex with you?! He’s not being on the up and up here.
You need to be strong and tell him that – unless he wants to get back together again & forgive you and recommit to the relationship- things are over between you. If you can’t find the strength to do that, then I’m afraid he’s going to use your mistake against you, and will take advantage of your feelings for him by eventually having sex with you while refusing to commit.
Regardless of what you did, you deserve better and that isn’t on. It is what he’s doing I’m afraid. Either he forgives you and you become a couple again. Or you both move on. Using you for sex while he refuses to recommit will only bring you more heartbreak. Be strong and don’t allow yourself to be used like that. Even if things end, it’s not the end of the world.
Whatever you do, – if you didn’t use precautions, be sure to get tested for HIV, STD’s and pregnancy. Good luck.
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It sounds as if he’s trying to hurt you so you’ll feel the same pain he felt when he learned you slept with someone else.
Unfortunately that’s a very misguided and immature attitude, as you were within your rights to sleep with another person since the relationship has terminated.
Make sure you realise this in whatever decision you make.
if he really loves you he will never stop but what u did was rong and would of hurt him so much. it’s posibel that he will never be abel to trust u agane or atleast not like before. why not talk next time he comes over, tell him you want to start from scratch and just see how it gose.
he is using your guilt and taking advantage. open your eyes and look clearly