I dont feel the same

If you don’t love her enough to want to move in with her and your feelings have changed, you need to be honest with her and yourself. Repressing how you feel won’t change the truth.

You’ve been with her a long time& obviously don’t want to hurt her as you care about her; that’s understandable. But you have to realize the longer you wait to tell the truth the harder it gets. And the more painful for her. If you move in with her and she has no idea how you really feel, she probably will expect marriage at some stage. Even if you’re using precautions, she could still get pregnant. Then you’d be truly trapped.

If you really care for this woman, the least you owe her is the truth. You might think you’re sparing her by waiting but the reality is the longer you wait the MORE hurt she will be when you decide to end things. The more time goes by the more she will feel attached to you& have invested in this relationship, then it will be FAR more painful for her when things end. You will also have robbed of more time she could have used to heal from this breakup and find someone better suited to her.

Be brave and tell her the truth. Tell her that it’s not a commitment issue; it’s about your inability to commit to HER and that you can’t go further in this relationship as you find so many things wrong in it; the fault is not with her or with you; it’s not about blame. It’s about incompatibility.

Also, put yourself in HER shoes so you see the situation in its proper perspective: If YOU were deeply in love with someone and SHE wanted to end it, would you rather she told you the truth BEFORE you moved in together? Or would you prefer she waited until AFTER you live together and after you’ve invested all your time, effort, and emotion into this relationship?

If you really care for this woman, the least you owe her is the truth. It WILL be hard on her and it WILL take time for her to get over it. But she will. It’s far kinder to do the right thing now than to wait longer; waiting longer only increases her feelings for you and the pain she will feel when it ends. It’s only a matter of time before it ends as you can’t deny your true feelings forever. Remember you CAN care about someone deeply but know in your heart it’s not meant to be. The longer you wait on a dead-end relationship hoping things will change, the more heartbreaking it will be for BOTH of you when you tell her it’s over.

I hope the advice I gave helped you. You can find me anytime at anonymousletters.net I am an agony aunt who answers help letters for free. I like helping people and don’t like to see others in pain.

I know its a clishe, but honesty is the best policy, if you really cant see a future with this woman then theres really nowhere to go, especally if youve been in this relationship for that long, if you stay with her and resent her for it and by annoyed all the time that will just hurt her more, be stright up and honest, after all, its much better to do that and not dance around it.

Just say to the girl that you want some space for a bit because you want to be alone and hopefully she would be the same way and then go on holiday with your mates and tell her to do the same and enjoy your life your only young once and you only live one life but don’t waste it
If you really care for this woman, the least you owe her is the truth. It WILL be hard on her and it WILL take time for her to get over it. But she will. It’s far kinder to do the right thing now than to wait longer; waiting longer only increases her feelings for you and the pain she will feel when it ends. It’s only a matter of time before it ends as you can’t deny your true feelings forever. Remember you CAN care about someone deeply but know in your heart it’s not meant to be. The longer you wait on a dead-end relationship hoping things will change, the more heartbreaking it will be for BOTH of you when you tell her it’s over.

i liked lisa’s advice, tell her the truth. but you know what if you have a typical girl in hand then she probably would never understand it.

i define love as the complete acceptance of a person irrespective of the fearures that best define them from within and without. make a list of things of what you like and dont like about her and see which side weighs more.

this will help you in realising if you really want to go for it or save her and yourself the trouble of an agonising break up

i feel exactly the same as u,i dont feel much 4my bf no more an think that we shudnt b 2gefa bt as swn as we argue i get upset! I jst dont knw wat i feel or what i want! Am i jst in a routine or do i love him? Help

i would say there is no point living with somebody that you dont love anymore. if you feel like this mooving in isent the best idea x hope this helps x take care x

Bottom line right here: You don’t love her anymore.

That’s your answer ^^ right there my friend.

You’ve admitted how you really feel, so now all you have to do really is tell her. It’s sad but you should never force yourself to be with someone you just don’t care deeply about. It’s not fair on the both of you, so I urge you to end it now before things get ugly.

All the best.

hey babe, if your not happy with her you need to be straight or you will hurt her more in the long run…tell her how you feel and that its nothing todo with commitment calmly explain that you wuld prefer to be mates im sure she’ll understand! Good Luck x

I think that your girlfriend has to know the truth. Just imagine that you were at her place : what would you prefer ? To know that your girlfriend doesn’t really love you anymore or think that she loves you whereas she is lying ?
You should tell her what do you really feel, you should wonder what do you really want, if you want to stay with her or no, and wonder why don’t you feel the same things about her than before. It’s true that maybe she will be hurting but if you don’t make something it will be worse, because she will make wrong hopes and she needs to know the truth. Besides, moving with someone is an important decision, you have to think seriously about it.
We just have one life so we have to make sure to not have any regrets even if some decisions are difficult to take.
I hope that what I said could help you ! Good luck !

i feel the same about my boyfriend but we already live together and we have a one year old son but i dont feel the same about him anymore, am guna take the advice given coz its good advice. i no its hard but the harder you leave it the harder it gets for both of you, iv felt like this for some time now and havnt said anything and now its even harder to tell him how i feel, it will only get harder for you too. i almost hate him now coz iv had to live wiv someone i dont want to, dont let the same happen to you its not healthy.

hey there< i may be late to comment< im in the same situation, diffrence is, my ex is back in the story and she is my first love, i really do love both so i decided im gonna stay with my girlfriend and live in a wondering life, its not easy but its the right thing to do.

besides if youre not married yet arnt you supposed to live life. gjust dont get commited to soon if you dont feel like moving in then dont, but dont leave her jusy because youre at a rough spot, try to figure yourself out and the sooner the better!!!!!!!!!!

good luck my friend