I am torn between two women
I got engaged about 3 years ago.
We had moved in together two years ago and were happy, but circumstances regarding family issues and finances dictated that we move back in with our parents respectively. I got a job delivering Chinese food around my area, and I have been at it for nearly 2 years now. In this time I met a 17 year old girl who works on the counter with me one night per week. We have built up a close friendship through intimate conversations and a little harmless flirting.
Just recently we shared our feelings for each other and it turns out that they are mutually strong. This girl makes me happy when she phones and texts me and I would do anything to make her happy, but in recent weeks, I have tried to make a move on her and she didn’t want to know, saying “You have a girlfriend and I’m not into the whole affair thing”. She also told me that she would go with me if I were to end my existing relationship and I am now beginning to doubt my love for my fiancee.
I didn’t ask to have strong feelings for this new girl and I don’t want to see my relationship with my Fiancee end, or even suffer – as it is doing because of this. On the other hand, I don’t want to lose a close friend, no matter how much of a tease she seems to be.
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if your thinking of cheatting you can’t be reddy for marage. if this girl is a true frend she wont stop being your frend if you tuse to only have a plootonick relationship with her
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i think you should make up your mind and decide what you wanna do you cant have the best of both worlds your either gonna stick with your fiance and deal with situations like this knowin who you have chose and love or your gonna risk loosin her to a little flirt that is probably only out for an older man with money and if she gets u to dump your finace she already has you where she wants you.. this little girl hasnt got a clue of life yet and if you needed someone in a bad situation who`s gonna be there for you?? she would run a mile or even make the situation worse trust me if you love your fiance get the idea of flirtin and cheatin out of your mind cause you might just loose the best person in your life for stupidness and im sure you dont want to do that… i hope i helped you make up your mind x
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Your a bit of a twat really.. you have this girl that probably really loves you and wants to spend her life with you and make u happy and thinks your the most wonderful guy in the world.. and you saying well i’ve gone off her a bit met this fit chick at my work i cant be with just one woman i wont both or i’ll just have a bitta fun and lie to this fiancee that you will always be faithful.
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I think really as roxy said above, if you are thinking of cheating then you cant be ready for marriage. I do understand where your coming from as my best friend was in a simular situation as you and again, she came to me for advice. My advice was this ‘go with your heart’.
Lots of people don’t and want the best of both world’s but in the real world that cannot really happen. Whatever your decision you will be happy in the long term.
Good luck with your decision. x.
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i agree with chantelle..sometimes we really dont know what will happen tomorrow so “go with your heart”. i think your not really in-love with your fiancee..follow your heart, if your happy with that 17 year old girl you must need to break-up your fiancee as soon as possible. tell to your fiancee everything so that she can understand you. any break-up is very painful but thats life of love..so goodluck to you..
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