I am embarressed to ask him out

I’m Only 12 Myself And I Asked A Boy Out And I Had The Same Worries As You. Just Ask Him Not To Tell Anyone You Asked Him, Then If He Respects You Then He’ll Keep It Quiet. Hope I Helped, x

Heyya,

I know exactly how you arew feeling, because I am in the same situation, I reallly love this boy, Lewis, so much and really want to ask him out, but im scared of what he will reply, like if he says ‘no’, people would think that im ugly and stupid because he said ‘no’. My best advise to you would be to get a friend or a friend of the person you like, to say to your crush “(Sorry I dont know your name!) really likes you and has done for ( 1 year, ages etc) she really wants to know what you think of her, and if you like her will you go out with her?”

That is my best advise to you! Hope this helps you and good luck trying to find the Mr Right!

Take care,
Lizzii
xx

Hi,
I’m in exactly the same position as you unfortunatly.Don’t ask a friend to askhim out because he will probably think its a prank and say no out of embarrasment.Watch how he acts around you before you just go for it and ask him not to tell anyone,

Good luck xxx

if he is a good friend then confide in him in a non direct manner ask him to fix you up with someone. its a catch 22 situation. its a trick, should definately work.

i am 12 to and have had the same problem. what i do is ask them but say “if i asked you out what would you say?” and it workes for me.
take care hope it works out
paige

hey,
im 16 and even though there is a big age difference i still have the same fears and feelings and understand what you are going through. Although when you get older you realise that it dosn’t matter and boys will come and go so really dont worry about it. The best thing to do is either drop suttle hints to the boy and see how he reacts or just come out and tell him how you feel. just be straight up and honest and that way you will find someone who you really like and who respects you for who you are.
thanks! x

I don’t like the idea of sending your friends to do it. If you really love someone, tell them. If it doesn’t work out and they say no, just ask them to please not tell anyone. They should be decent enough to grant you that request

Hey,

I think you should just go for it and ask him out. If he says no then it’s his loss. Why don’t you try to be his friend first if you don’t feel truly comfortable asking him out straight away. Hope this helps. Good Luck xxx

There is this boy I know that goes to my school he has only been at our school 6 weeks and he has never had a day where he hasn’t been out with anybody He asks out anybody so don’t be afraid to ask this person out!

alexandra x

i know what u mean,i was with this boy 2 years & we’ve gone thro so much and we were kinda getting closer and texting and meetin anolah and now hes ignoring me & got with one of my “bestfriends?” oh well i hope things go well for you xxxx

I’m 14 & I’ve liked this guy for about 4 months, I didn’t know he knew I existed. A couple of weeks ago, I asked him out because I figured if he said yes then YAY, if he said no, move on. He said YES & now we are manically happy. POINT: Just see if he does, you don’t have to be pretty or funny ect.

How much do you like this guy?
Ok, I’ll admit, if he does say no there will be embarrassment! But if he says yes would it have been worth risking potential embarassment?
It’s your call, but if you want to ask this guy then you need to decide, because he will never know your interested unless you tell him (guys can be pretty stupid like that)!
Good luck

sorry but i dont agree with chuck. asking other people to keep a secret is not a good idea. it always gets let out

ask him out

says yes – great

says no – you can laugh about and say you asked for a dare

x (L)

are you guys closes? if you guys are really close then there is a possibility that he would say no just to not jepordize your relationship, however he might also secretly like you so i say go for it because trust me you will regret it if you dont, you’ll always wonder what could have been. If he does say no then you just have to move on, everyone gets rejected in their live but you just have to pick youself on and try move on. There are a lot more fish in the sea.

i think if you liked that lad so much ya would ask im out x because you need to no wether he likes you or not x you have got to be willing to take that chance x if you dont ask you will never no how he feels x take care x

The best way to ask someone out, is to flirt with there best friend and make them jealous. trust me it works! or you could blackmail him, to go out with you
try it
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tell him that u wil kill urself if he says no
i did dat and ive bin with my guy for 2 years! and now he luvs me

Yeah I’m 13 keep going through the exact same thing. It sucks.

If you feel you’re really too embarrased to ask him out, why don’t you try and get him to ask you out? Pretend you have this really bad problem (eg. You like this guy out of school – so he dosn’t know him and tell him – but you’re not sure he likes you back.) Confide in him and tell him all about it. Then come to him a few weeks later and tell him you asked this guy out and he said no and that you don’t think you could ever ask a boy out again. Then that will make him think he will have to wait forever for you to ask him out and this will prompt him to ask YOU out.

Sound complicated? Technincally its really simple and believe it or not, it works! I’ve done it with two guys and both of them fell for it.

However, if you’re 100% sure he actually does have a crush on you, then why go to all this trouble? Ask him out! Take the plunge, there is bareley anything that boys despise more than really shy girls.

Hope this helped with everyone who has this problem. Oh and by the way, I’m quite shy myself, although i may not appear it, but just act confident!!

xx =]

I know this seems hard but give it a try. You never know, he might like you back. If not say, can we be friends instead. I know it may be embarrsing if he says no but atleast you will know how he feels about you. Talk to him-give it a go.
Good luck.
From Aunt Agony

Just go for it, don’t miss your chance ! You’ll regret it if you do.

Be BRAVE! If you like him then what the hell go for it! Take your chance whilist you still have it! xx

Find out about his person. Don’t ask him out if you don’t speak.

My advice is find out how compatible your star signs are then if it’s good go for it.

Find a place in private then if he rejects you no one shall know.

I’m 14 and in a very similar situation i really like this guy and sometimes we get really close to the point that we very nearly kiss etc… and then its awkward for a while then we get close again etc… I think if I had made the decision to ask him out earlier it wouldn’t have been this awkward between us. I really would go for it before you get to deep into the crush. my friend has liked the same guy for so many years she now doesn’t feel she can ask him out in case he says no and all the years were pointless. I’d ask him out sooner, then if he says no it’s over and you can more on to some even better guys (i know it seems hard but trust me they do exist!) I’d go for it and make the big leap, you’ll be supprised how good it feels
good luck in this and everything life throws at you
xxx

seriously, just go for it. whats the worst that can happen? He’ll say no. I can understand where you’re coming from by saying you’ll be embarrased but chances are even if he does say no he’ll be flattered that you like him.

GO for it! If he says no, politely ask him to keep it to himself. If he is not decent enough to do that, is he really decent enough to be your boyfriend? What’s the worst that could happen? If he says no, remind yourself of all the great things about you.

Im in the same position.
Im only 12 and my crush is 16, which sounds a bit odd. Im crazy about him but I think he likes my friend.
See how things go, flirt a little and see if he flirts back. You dont want to wreck your friendship by going to fast.

hiya, i think you should just take him to one side and ask him out face to face is always better and if he says no then just ask him to keep it quiet if he starts to tell people just deny it. If he says no he isn’t worth it. Plenty more fish in the sea and all that. Good luck xxx

Hey i had the same problem as u i’m 12 and i love this boy in ma practical set and i love him so much and 2day i was gonna ask him out during P.E. but my nerves got the better opf me i walked up to him and then i froze then walked away we’re good friends. last week every1 found out dunno how though and they all keep thellin him and he replies a no and so wat. cum to think of it i think he luvs me 2! so y dont u go with sum1 and ask him? lyk ur best friend or sumthin my 2 best friends kept tellin me to go and ask him but my nerves kept gettin the better of me but have now decided 2morrow at high skool am going ova 2 him and askin him out and dont get embarrassed if he says no just say ok tht’s ine!

hiya i really like this boy called bob hes in the year above but he is so nice i got drunk once and neaarly had sex with him but we didnt because he didnt want to take advantage which i think is reaally sweet and we still talk in school i want to ask him out but im scared he will say no he used to like me wen i was drunk that one time as he told me the next day but i dont if he still does hes not the kida boy to tell his frieds im just scared he will say no what do i do ?

well the boy is kinda popular and if he says no then ill be embrassed because he will tell his friends and im so lonley it sucks most of my friends have a bf except for 1 butt my friends that have a bf they are going out with the same guy so it sucksssssssssssss

hiyaa, i am in the same situation but me and this boy have history together and i don’t think after that he will go back out with me and i also no that he fancies someone else. I am scared of asking him out…1-because he might say no and that wud be emmbarasing and…2- because we are really close friends and i don’t want to ruin are friendship….what do i do? xxx

if I were you try to join my friends …. and go have fun, but not intoxicate but know someone who does not know and try to forget so on …. I’m from chile and my name is felipe

heyya ive been in a similar situiation and the best thing that you can do is just ask him out as you never know unless you try

best of luck xx

Just ask him its the only way too get the answer or ask a friend to do it don’t feel scared theres plenty more fish in the sea hun you never know he might like you 2 and if u want to know if he does you should take a chance good luck xx

Alexis (: xxxxx

hey babe! I know how you feel! just ask him out! do it fearlessly and you will know the answer! Guys say the sexyyyyyest thing bout a girl is confidence! be that confident girl!and if its a no who cares!theres plenty more fish in the sea hun!! xxxx!Aoife!xxxx

just ask ,, you never know until you try !!!

Hey, Im 13 years old myself and I have this problem. The best thing to do is ask him and hope for the best. Why not ask one of your friends to talk to him and see if he likes you back. If not don’t be afraid of rejection its part of growing up and if he doesn’t like you back then there is someone else out there waiting for you. You just have to look and find them

Heyyah,
Im 13 and i have had quite a few lovers, non of them were worth it!! Make sure you no this lad as well as you can. If you ask him out and then he says yes and expects more than you can give, youre in trouble. Get too no them if you like him and he likes you ask. Tell a friend, trust me you feel much better once you have told some one! Do what your heart tells you <3 xxxxx
Hope I helped

Hey,
dont be affraid to ask! if you dont ask you never know! I asked my current boyfriend out 3 years ago, and i was like omg wha if he says no. But he didnt. He said that he had always liked me but just never had the balls to ask me out! Go for it girl. What do you have to loose?

Most dont because most are thinking of sex. Unless hes thinking of some other sheila. Since you feel this way, youve received no signal from him suggesting he likes you. Have you tried to flirt a bit tactfully, or hinted at him that you like him. And see how he reacts.

hi ,
i think if u like a boy (or a girl) u should take a chance. you could suggest little thing like do u want to go 2 the pictures and if he doesnt seem 2 keen then say oh it wont just be us there will be and make a list of friends u no will come, and if he is totally keen well then go 4 it!!!
hope my advise helps.

p.s how do u write a message 2 agony aunt?) xo

Well if you like him, what you waiting for ASK HIM OUT. lol x
But I understand your nervous. Some helpful tips are here for you:
1. This was old school but still works the charm Get your mate to run over and ask him for you, he says no. You say good it was only a dare (this makes the boy be like, aw so she dont even wanna go out with me?) and then he’ll maybe flirt,, and if he says yeah. well problem solved.
2. ask him face to face, if hes nice he cant turn you down in person can he, but if he does im sorry hes a jerk, well he is a jerk if he dont put it nicley. If he does turn you down, use the dare trick or something.
3. Over Internet, Texting, etc etc. and just ask him.
4. This is more like a little guide now: 1. talk to your bestfriends about him. let them get the 411 for you
2. ask everyone to tell you details about him, (prefferably someone who knows him really well).
4.find out what he likes then you can, play his fave songs out when you ‘just so happen’ to walk past him. or put on your msn name sumat he really likes, start the conversation off by srtarting with the fave band of his or anything.
then start toflirt, maybe even play hard to get. if he asks you out, dont seem desperate. just go mm ill think about it and smile and walk away. text him that night though or internet whatever, and say yeah ive made my mind up its a yes x.
HOPE THIS HELPS LOOL xx

you dont even know him yet. He’s probably yuck anyway. Most are or come with problems.

It happens to everyone, I am a bit older but I have been through the same situation, and it does hurt when they say no.
The best thing to do is not ask him out immediately, just get to know him a bit more, that way he’ll know you’re there and if you are yourself he’ll notice you. Hang out with him in a mutual crowd and after a while casually suggest that you two hang out alone and if he says yes, it’ll mean he enjoys your company. Just be yourself and get to know him a bit more and then you’ll know with a bit more certainty whether you want a date with this guy.

Heyy
I’m 14 years old i am in year 9 at school and i am in love with a boy who is in the year above me, i have given him 2 valantines cards now and on the second one i put a note in saying that i do like him and i have done for ages and i am fed up of keeping it inside. His grandma lives only 2 doors away from me and when his mum drops him off in the morning before school he always looks to my house and i really want to know if he likes me and i am to scared to ask. I am stressing myself out big time. What should i do?

Hey
I have just turned fourteen, and i am a giant, fugly and a tomboy! i really like this boy who is in my year, same form, SITS NEXT TO ME in form time, is in practically all the same lessons as me and is taking almost the same GCSE’s as me next year! in one way i am overjoyed i get to be with him all the time, and in another way, terrified, because he knows i like him, three different people have asked him out for me, and when i told my best mate, somebody heard and it went round THE WHOLE SCHOOL! yeah, embarrasment central. but anyway, when im with him, i feel really shy and weird, because ive known him for ages, and we are quite good mates. so now he’s kinda scared of me, but he’s starting to forget ‘yesterdays drama’ and is moving on to some new drama. (btw, the new drama is actually a plot, i told all my mates im over ollie and i like this new guy, even though hes fugly, so ollie gets jealous) and hes not so scared, and im actually getting more confident around him, but ive nevr had a BF so im too scared to ask him out, and im not trying the friend approach again, so everyone says i should leave him a note telling him how i feel. but if i do that he may get scared of me again. (why is he scared of me you may ask? im lanky. thats why. im 5ft9 and hes 5ft4. BIG difference) so, what should i do? im rlly confuzzled! im actually at a point that i cut myself out of anger at being fugly and lanky and a tomboy! please help! (thsi has happened before, about a boy who’s like my boy
BFF and i asked him out but he said he didnt want to ruin our friendshiip, then he started dating my girl BFF.) :S

Hi,I am in the same situation and it is very difficult,I know.
If I were you I wouldn’t exactly ask him out but just tell him that you care and want him.That’s the best because it is not very common for a girl to ask a boy out.Just be confident and always be yourself!:)
Actually,I am thinking about doing the same thing.I’ll just tell him the truth.
It’s tough for me for the fact that I am a very shy person.He is too!
He is very,very shy so though he might like me back it’s difficult for him to tell me.
That’s why I am taking a chance!That’s what you should do too!Go for it sweetheart!!!I’m with you!

omg, I have like the same situation now!!! this guy thinks of me as a friend but really like him and i cant stop thinking about him!