Comments on: I am 14 and Pregnant

By: Elle

Elle — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 12:48:06 +0000

I have a friend Who’s mum was 14 when she had her, and for what I know everything is fine. You’re only 2 years under the legal age, so it isn’t that much of a problem. I dont know if you’ll be able to remember but about 2, maybe 3 years ago a 13 year old girl had a baby with a 12 year old boy, and nobody took away their baby, and her mum was very supportive. I’m sure your mum is lovely, she might be angry at first, but when she gets used to the idea she’ll be exited to be a grandmother. Don’t hesitate on telling your mum, everything will be fine.
But you’ll need to be able have allot of will power to be able to bring up a baby in your early teens. Do what ever’s best for the baby. Everything will fall into place.

And By the way, i think your story is beautiful!

By: brogan

brogan — Sun, 14 Aug 2011 14:09:06 +0000

I dont believe in abortion or adoption because i believe that was giving that child for a reason not just for you too kill it or give it away but thats only my opinion its yours and your boyfrinds baby just make sure you remind your mum of that also your family will eventually come round honestly my cousin had just turned 15 when she found out she was 3 weeks pregnant. If you feel as though your ready then do it but remeber get yourself a job xxxx

By: ally

ally — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 08:57:11 +0000

Dear ,
its a beautiful that u both love each other ,but having a baby now will make it all vanish .baby brings responsibility.u r just 14 ,u need to study and he also .for living a life its necessary that u both shud stand on ur own .try to understand the future effects and think before taking any decision .u can have baby later on by the time u will be mature enough to handle every thing including baby .and he will also get the time to be stable in his life
…all the best ..god bless…

By: raja

raja — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 20:50:10 +0000

heyy well i read your story and personally i strongly believe that if you can afford o provide for this baby financially then go for it but think wisely before you jump in with both feet your going to be throwing your life away all your education are you prepared to do so. you a re young and naive also mislead so don’t be fooled between love and lust never the less i wish you all the best babe! xx

By: stacey

stacey — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 22:14:08 +0000

Take it from someone who is pregnant at the moment I am lot older than u n still find it frightening to think Il have baby in 6 months your still very young and not sure what you may want but if number one priority is that baby u need to tell it mam don’t do what I did my.mam found out off Facebook never good they find out trust me good luck hun x

By: Liz Blackman

Liz Blackman — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 18:56:30 +0000

if it was me, i would tell her straight, consult with her and a councillor and then probably have it then put it into a childrens home :/ sounds bad i know but if abortions not an option then thats what i would do. hope this helps, Liz x

By: emma jacobs

emma jacobs — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 00:17:17 +0000

I cant believe you have been having sex at 14…
Firstly its illegal and secondly you are a child!!
Yes babies are cute but do you actually know what is involved in raising a child? And you know is costs about £25K for the first 5 years? Where are you going to get that money from? If you just expect your parents to pay for everything then that is incredibly selfish.
If you don’t want a termination, do the right thing and put it up for adoption. There are thousands of financially and emotionally stable couples out there who want children and are ready for them.
Your boyfriend will only be there for you and the baby when he feels like it, you may feel this is an unfair comment, but its the truth. Hes a teenager, he doesnt want that responsibility. Once he realises that he cant do want he wants any more he will run out the door and find another girl to have sex with.

By: Holly

Holly — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 10:09:41 +0000

Hey,

Sorry to hear about your current situation, my advice is do what YOU feel is right, of course your boyfriend and the rest of your family and friends are important but your the one who is going to be carrying this baby for 9 months, your the one who’s life will change the most. You have to think, do I really want this? Think about the positives and negatives about having the baby, if a positive outways a negative or vice versa then cross it off the list and see at the end how many positives and negatives you have at the end. Think of your life now and think to yourself, am I ready to make all these sacrifices?

Only you know what is the best thing to do, no matter how selfish it sounds you just have to kind of push other peoples feelings aside a little and think about yourself, how you will feel if you keep the baby, how you will feel if you get rid of it. Its your choice, but think very very carefully or you could end up making a very very big mistake.

Good luck and I hope you get all your problems sorted soon
xxx

By: Tiny

Tiny — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:26:49 +0000

My first point is this.
Think.
Are you able to care for a child? Physically, Mentally, Financially, Do you have a Stable Relationship?
Pysically – Your body is still changing, carrying a baby (even if it’s not full-term) will be a massive strain on your body and health. Do you think your body will stand up to carrying what is on average a 8 pound weight strapped to your stomach? All day, every day. Your skin will stretch, your back will ache, your breasts will swell and become sore, etc, etc.
Mentally – Do you think you are mature enough to bring a life into the world, and nurture it for the rest of your life? Don’t forget, babies don’t stay babies forever. Newborn, Toddler, Child, Teenager (imagine taking care of a copy of yourself), Adult. They cry, poop, pee, puke, scream, kick, bite, sulk, aren’t interested in anything you like, and will keep you up at night.
Financially – Can you afford to look after this baby? Do you have any money to spend on the clothes, cribs, chairs, feeding tables, toys, food, nappies/diapers, bottles, etc etc that you will HAVE to buy? Do you have a job? Does your boyfriend? Will you two be dependant on your family or the government for support?
Stable Relationship – I don’t just mean with your boyfriend. With your mother, family, your boyfriend’s family? Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life seeing these people most days if not all days, and getting along?

I ask you these questions, because I ask them myself when I think about having a baby. And every time, I come to the same answer. No.
I’m 19, I have a part-time job, I don’t have a place of my own, my fiancée and I aren’t together any more, I live with my parents, My doctor thinks I’ve got severe depression and anxiety, I smoke, I drink, I like my alone time. I play games, I go on the internet, I watch TV, I listen to loud music, etc. I know that in my heart, however desperately I might want a baby, that I would want to bring up my child in the best way that I can. I want to be able to provide for my own child, in my own home, in a stable and happy relationship with someone I could stand to be around all day every day, and give it the best life I could.
What do you think about my questions? It’s easy to romanticise being pregnant and having a baby all of your own, but the facts are above. Could you handle all that? Your childhood will end in 6 months. Goodbye to doing what you want, when you want.
I’m not trying to discourage you – I’m trying to get you to think very seriously about what this will mean for you and your baby’s future.

Let us know what you decide. And good luck.
Tiny.

By: maria :) x

maria :) x — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 12:31:51 +0000

no one can tell you what you want to do and if you want to keep the baby. i have a child at 16 adn i am 18 now so my child is only 2 and all of my friends are going out yo knight clubs and i am sat at home with my son. my son has made me stronger but it has put me and my boyfriend throught so mutch i have been so ill. i did not know that i was pregnant throught the whole pregnancey so my mum and dad only found out when i did but the best thing is to tell them they might be angrey for a coupple of days btu they will serport you know matter what

good luck <3