Comments on: His ex says she is pregnant

By: tilly

tilly — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 21:51:17 +0000

i know how u feel my bf has got a kid with his ex that was concieved while i was with him my bf swears black is blue the babys not his but his ex says diffrent i car bring myself to look at the baby without bein reminded of thm 2getha so i dont think ud be able 2 treat the baby as ur own u will just be reminded of them both sleepin 2getha ur best bet is end relationship b4 u get 2 hurt x

By: Arun

Arun — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:20:50 +0000

1. Try to relax and feel secure.
2. Trust in God.
3. Ask your self what do you actually want.
4. Be watchful of the situation as it is unfolding.
5. I wont suggest you to be excessively proactive in this situation

By: Alfonzo

Alfonzo — Fri, 15 May 2009 19:41:28 +0000

Look … this bitch is either messing around with both of you. She either isnt ready to let go off her man and see him with someone else or she is actually pregnant. If she is pregnant and she knew then why didnt she tell him before … if hes ready to give you and him another go then go for it. Dont let her get in the way. You love him he obviously still has feelings for you. If the baby is real then you can be there for it too.
Dont give up on love because someone else wants you to. Do what you want and keep your man. Treat the baby like you would if it was yours. Dont let her get in the way remember if he does go back to her hes not going to go back to her because he wants to be with her – but for his child.
Be with him and be happy xxx

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 09:49:11 +0000

I think you’ve answered your own questions really. Your relationship with this man – though it may be loving in many ways- is just not stable enough, unfortunately, to withstand this storm. Keep in mind that when you first broke up after 7 long years together, you must have broken up for a reason. The reasons which made you leave each other haven’t changed. Seven years is a long time; long enough to know if it’s meant to be or time to say goodbye.

It IS hard to let each other go when you were together for so long, and obviously you have a strong friendship; hold onto that friendship- but let go of the relationship part. If it was meant to be you would NEVER have let each other go to begin with. But you DID part& you both met other people and started new lives. The fact you tried to get back together DOESN’T mean you’re right for each other; it only means you haven’t found someone who is right you. Holding onto each other for mutual support means clinging to the past instead of embracing the future.

You’re not officially together; after 7 yrs you still didn’t feel ready for marriage nor are you now. His ex is pregnant& at the very least he will need to stand by her emotionally& financially (even if he doesn’t wish to marry her) which will be incredibly draining on him (and on you if you stay with him) plus his lack of parental support – though is not the main reason- doesn’t help matters.

I just don’t think the relationship has the strength necessary for this and even though you love this man, if you stay in this relationship your love will be tested to such a point where it will slowly die. Even now you have trust issues which don’t bode well.

I advise you to heed the warning signs; your gut is telling you this relationship isn’t meant to be. You love this man but you deserve better. It’s time to let go. Let go of the past& end the relationship. By all means keep his friendship but give yourself permission to seek a better more healthy relationship- one that’s good & has trust. One that’s meant to last. Give yourself a new beginning.

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