Comments on: Her grandad is dying, how can I help her? http://myagonyaunt.com/her-grandad-is-dying/ Relationship Advice Sat, 19 Jun 2010 21:21:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Hannah http://myagonyaunt.com/her-grandad-is-dying/comment-page-1/#comment-681 Hannah Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:42:40 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=45#comment-681 I Just Lost My Mum In January It Was Soo Hard For Me But I Needed To Be Out With MY Boyfriend To Take My Mind Off IT All! He Was Awsome! He Comforted Me Alot With Hgs And Reassurance That he was always going to be there for me...,its extremely hard to lose someone take care of her good luck x I Just Lost My Mum In January It Was Soo Hard For Me But I Needed To Be Out With MY Boyfriend To Take My Mind Off IT All! He Was Awsome! He Comforted Me Alot With Hgs And Reassurance That he was always going to be there for me…,its extremely hard to lose someone take care of her good luck x

]]> By: lorraine http://myagonyaunt.com/her-grandad-is-dying/comment-page-1/#comment-519 lorraine Fri, 07 Aug 2009 01:07:02 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=45#comment-519 hey there the best advice i can offer u ,and i have been through it many a time is get her a lil card somehing that makes her feel special like those cards with nothing inside and just write in it that u know that u have never been through this kind off thing but no matter if she needs u day or night just to chat that ur there 4 her,then all u can do is go with the flow and support her as much as u can,hope all goes as well as it can go i know how hard it is xx hey there the best advice i can offer u ,and i have been through it many a time is get her a lil card somehing that makes her feel special like those cards with nothing inside and just write in it that u know that u have never been through this kind off thing but no matter if she needs u day or night just to chat that ur there 4 her,then all u can do is go with the flow and support her as much as u can,hope all goes as well as it can go i know how hard it is xx

]]> By: carley http://myagonyaunt.com/her-grandad-is-dying/comment-page-1/#comment-423 carley Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:16:59 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=45#comment-423 i think you should sit down with a film and have a realli good chat about it ask her about the good times they had she will be a bit u[set bt she will feel alot better after the talk and she will most propable be realli pleased that you sat down together and lisend to her x dont try to hard bt try to cheer her up not like happ all the time just let her no that your there for her and always will x the bet of luck x i think you should sit down with a film and have a realli good chat about it ask her about the good times they had she will be a bit u[set bt she will feel alot better after the talk and she will most propable be realli pleased that you sat down together and lisend to her x dont try to hard bt try to cheer her up not like happ all the time just let her no that your there for her and always will x the bet of luck x

]]> By: Anna and Adam http://myagonyaunt.com/her-grandad-is-dying/comment-page-1/#comment-375 Anna and Adam Mon, 22 Jun 2009 10:07:01 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=45#comment-375 during times of grief, people tend to act in two main ways: Reaching out to people that are close to them, and becoming needy. Needing space and spending most of their time englufed in their own thoughts. Don't ask her directly what she wants, and don't pressure her into doing things she seemsuneasy about, this is not the time. Reassure her that you are there for her whenever she needs you, this way she will either understand that you are there for her if she wants to be dependant, or she will accept your statement but by not taking up your offer, she will show you that she needs some time alone. Make sure you give her space and don't forget she's going through a hard time. Encourage her to spend time with her family who are sharing this hard experience. If she needs someone to lean on, make sure you're there. during times of grief, people tend to act in two main ways:
Reaching out to people that are close to them, and becoming needy.
Needing space and spending most of their time englufed in their own thoughts.

Don’t ask her directly what she wants, and don’t pressure her into doing things she seemsuneasy about, this is not the time.

Reassure her that you are there for her whenever she needs you, this way she will either understand that you are there for her if she wants to be dependant, or she will accept your statement but by not taking up your offer, she will show you that she needs some time alone.

Make sure you give her space and don’t forget she’s going through a hard time. Encourage her to spend time with her family who are sharing this hard experience.

If she needs someone to lean on, make sure you’re there.

]]> By: Jordan http://myagonyaunt.com/her-grandad-is-dying/comment-page-1/#comment-129 Jordan Mon, 09 Feb 2009 14:39:49 +0000 http://myagonyaunt.com/?p=45#comment-129 Ive just lost my grandad to cancer, so I know its hard, one of the things that upset me when it happend was the fact people kept saying 'sorry', and not wanting to actually have a normal discussion with me about my grandad, it took a while for me to fully understand he was gone, but when I did.. I realised I just wanted to talk about it. so just be there for her, and be there to listen to her, thats all you can do (: Ive just lost my grandad to cancer, so I know its hard, one of the things that upset me when it happend was the fact people kept saying ’sorry’, and not wanting to actually have a normal discussion with me about my grandad, it took a while for me to fully understand he was gone, but when I did.. I realised I just wanted to talk about it.
so just be there for her, and be there to listen to her, thats all you can do (:

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