Her grandad is dying, how can I help her?
My girlfriend is having is having a very emotionally hard time, because her grandad is dying of cancer. She loves him very much, and I think it’s horrible for her because he only has about 6 months to live, and how does she spend that time with him?
I care about her more than anyone else right now, and I wish i could do something.
I wish i could stop her gandad from dying, but i know this is impossible.
I want her to know I am here for her, but I think she is a little wary of talking to me about the situation as I have never had to deal with it.
However, i would like to know if there is any way I could support her in her time of need. I know this will be difficult as I cannot fully relate experiences, as I am inexperienced in loss of loved ones, particulary grandparents, as all of mine died before I was even born.
I would really apreciate it if there was any advice for how I could help her, however small or large.
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Ive just lost my grandad to cancer, so I know its hard, one of the things that upset me when it happend was the fact people kept saying ‘sorry’, and not wanting to actually have a normal discussion with me about my grandad, it took a while for me to fully understand he was gone, but when I did.. I realised I just wanted to talk about it.
so just be there for her, and be there to listen to her, thats all you can do (:
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during times of grief, people tend to act in two main ways:
Reaching out to people that are close to them, and becoming needy.
Needing space and spending most of their time englufed in their own thoughts.
Don’t ask her directly what she wants, and don’t pressure her into doing things she seemsuneasy about, this is not the time.
Reassure her that you are there for her whenever she needs you, this way she will either understand that you are there for her if she wants to be dependant, or she will accept your statement but by not taking up your offer, she will show you that she needs some time alone.
Make sure you give her space and don’t forget she’s going through a hard time. Encourage her to spend time with her family who are sharing this hard experience.
If she needs someone to lean on, make sure you’re there.
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i think you should sit down with a film and have a realli good chat about it ask her about the good times they had she will be a bit u[set bt she will feel alot better after the talk and she will most propable be realli pleased that you sat down together and lisend to her x dont try to hard bt try to cheer her up not like happ all the time just let her no that your there for her and always will x the bet of luck x
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hey there the best advice i can offer u ,and i have been through it many a time is get her a lil card somehing that makes her feel special like those cards with nothing inside and just write in it that u know that u have never been through this kind off thing but no matter if she needs u day or night just to chat that ur there 4 her,then all u can do is go with the flow and support her as much as u can,hope all goes as well as it can go i know how hard it is xx
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I Just Lost My Mum In January It Was Soo Hard For Me But I Needed To Be Out With MY Boyfriend To Take My Mind Off IT All! He Was Awsome! He Comforted Me Alot With Hgs And Reassurance That he was always going to be there for me…,its extremely hard to lose someone take care of her good luck x
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