He left his partner of 14 years with 2 young kids
By Agony Aunt | October 20, 2008
i have been seeing a guy now for 3 and a half years, he is in a relationship, with 2 young children. When we first got together i knew about this, and accepted that fact, that was 3 years ago, we are very close, before he had financial problems i would see him all the time 3 or 4 times a week, but he lives 40 miles from me, so the petrol prices and financial matters at home took hold, and he couldnt get over to see me as much, sometimes would be 6 weeks or so before i see him.
We chatted online every night, or emailed each other at work or he would ring me…….. so very close, and i love him a lot. 2 weeks ago, he called me on a sunday night, and said that he had left her (things had been on the verge of this for a few months) he had nowhere to go, so like a good friend i invited him to stay with me for the night and although he ummd and arrrd, he did eventually come over and stay with me the night, he left for home the next day, looking for somewhere to live as he had left his family home….
i txt him later that day, but i got no reply, in fact i got no reply all week to any of my txts, i was heartbroken, i couldnt understand why he was not answering me… i sent him 4 texts on sunday, a week after he had left her, and got no answer….. then monday i got a txt back, saying he had turned his phone off for some isolation, to sort his head out… he had not gone back to her, he was at his brothers…. i txt him back saying i would take a back seat for now, let him get sorted, and told him he knows where i am if he needs me….. that was a week ago… he has not contacted me again… as u can imagine, i have never gone this long without speaking to him for 3 years.. its killing me… i keep wanting to txt him again to see how he is… but if he doesnt answer me i will be even more depressed…
my question is really, is this normal for a man to just not talk to the person he has been speaking to for 3 years….. i guess its a huge thing to walk out of a 14 year relationship and leave your 2 young kids too…. but should he at least let me know whats going on? should i txt him? should i just wait till he contacts me? will he contact me?
Your advice would be much appreciated…. do you think i should try and forget him…. its soooo hard.
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If he was involved with another woman AND had 2 kids with her when he met you, and he never bothered ending the first relationship before he started one with you, then yes you were BOTH in the wrong- YOU AND HE. Even if you knew about the other woman, you helped him cheat on her. How would YOU have felt being in her shoes?! The fact you’ve been with him 3 yrs only makes it worse rather than better.
He’s obviously not been truthful with you and is playing you both if he’s just ignoring you. No, it’s not normal to ignore someone after
3 yrs together.
You may feel my words are harsh but, honestly, I think you need to sit and think about why your self confidence is so low that you would bother to get involved with someone else’s partner? Don’t you think you deserve better? Like someone who’s available and who hasn’t walked out on two kids without telling them?
If you want the truth- hard as it is- and it’s better than living a lie, it’s time for you to forget him and move on.
I hope my advice helped you. I’m an agony aunt and my website is
anonymousletters.net
Go to my site and contact me through the contact me page if you need me.
Look up EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) on Google or under EFT section on siouxhealer.co.uk This is a great method for building confidence to open you to meeting new people if this doesn’t work. Try it as it’s really effective& will help you make good decisions.