He has a girlfriend but I really Like him

I think you should keep meeting him. you can help who you like. i was in this situation before and i felt how you felt. i think that if he really likes you then if u tell him to dump his girlfriend as you wont wait about. if he is serious about you then he will do this because he wil be afraid to lose you. and dont feel bad you only live once. she will get over it

i went out with this lad for about 2 months but then broke up becuase we never saw each other and then i went a consent with me mates and saw him agen and all the fellign that i had from him came back to me. then me mate tell me tells me that he has just broke up with my coson but me coson told mee that she dont like him anymore. that night i went home and went on msn and we started to talk then me coson that she went out with came online and he kept asking me to ask her if she would go out with him and if she still liked him and she said no but when i asked him if he still likes her he said yh. i have asked all my mates whant i should do and they have to me to tell him how i fell but i dont what this to come between me and my coson what should i do

Hiyaa,
I think that you and this boy obviously have a good friendship but until he finishes with his girlfriend it would be wrong for you to date in secret or whatever. I think that the best thing to do is spend some time apart from him, only a couple of weeks and wait until him and his girlfriend are no longer an item. If you really like him and completely trust him when he says he also likes you then go for it once they are finished. I think your friends are only looking out for you but you should take in to account what they say. Anyway, tell him to dump her if he truly likes you and then go from there. Hope this helps x

you should confrunt him head on. you’ll not solve anything if you don’t talk it over

i’m in exactly the same situation n its horrible…. thing is the girl is one of my friends too hes not sure wot to do and says hes over her :/ but somehow it just doesnt ring true. I dont no wot to do and i do not no whether to trust him things have happened between us in the past n now i feel soo guilty because of her. Good luck with ures and hope u find happiness whether with him or not!

I think you should Give him a few weeks so then you can get to know each other and If you then get with each other in that few weeks so people wont think you’re his replacement and if he does any think horrible you can still be mate but just give it time and for the boy about his girl friend all as you have to say to her look it aint been working out lately so maybe we could be friends sorry i am sure she will find other people
From agony aunt x

isn’t it like the 21st century and people are still worried about how to make him leave his old girlfriend. listen, keep to your self and give your self some space. it will help you think better and if he really likes you then he will leave the world for you. never live your life like a weighing scale that goes both ways. be the man and take control. have a heart to heart about what you want and ignore him. if he has to come around he will or else remember one thing, there are many men in this world so why to get disheartened over a boy.

I think you should take your friends advice, its best to stay clear of him. you say hes been honest from the start and there is the possibility that he does really like you, but like they say the grass always looks greener on the other side. even if he does break up with his girl friend whos to say he wont regret it later and how long till he finds some one else to leave you for. if its meant to be then it will happen naturally but i think you should cut all ties with him

this boy seems to me that he is geniune, its good that you have talked about this and that you have told eachother what the siutation is but you have to think of the boys girlfirend as she is the one who has done nothing wrong and could/will get hurt. You on the other hand need to take a step back and realise if this boy is what you want, if it is then go for it you have done nothing truely wrong and it is all part of life so just enojoy it!
thanks! x

I think that you shoudl tell him that you are really not comfortable ith him having a girlfriend an that if he likes you as much as he says he will end it with his girlfriend. Yes she might be upset but wouldn’t she rather end things with him rather than him going behind her back. I’m sure she will move on soon enough. Good luck xxx

we think you shouldtellhis girlfriend about the kiss.He sounds like an idiot no matter which way you look at it. Even if he did dump his girlfriend and go out with you, what are the chances he won’t cheat on you? He’s a born liar and you deserve better.

there is a chance that every guy is going to cheat on you -

he has been honest from the start

if you two end up going out

and it doesnt go well all the more for the experience you know not to do the same again .x

Hi
I think that in this case you seriously need to consider the consequences of the possible actions you could take. It’s understandable that you have a lot of affection towards this boy, but if you were to end up with him…how would you feel? You could end up together, that’s right, but you would be worrying all the time. He kissed you behind his girlfriend’s back…you would start to get paranoid that he would do the same thing behind your back. Also, you would feel very guilty for breaking him and his girlfriend up because, hun, the chances are he is breaking up with her for you…you will regret being with him.

However, if you think that you could be free of these haunting thoughts and if you think that he is an honest, genuine guy…then go for it. If you truly believe that he is right for you, and that he will treat you right and respect you, then there is nothing stopping you. Just ensure that you have considered the consequences before you do anything that you may regret.

Hope this helped – good luck.

i’ve been in the same situation i can say i still ..but i really think that u shoud carry on what u do cuse u like him so try again u have nothing to lose and about his gf never minde may be she do this too ( goes out with another guy) so be honest with him and tell him about ur feelings and that ur not happy like that , about the way don’t worry he woudn’t cheat on u so …go and good luck.
big kiss

I am in the same situation as you, i really like this guy 2 he also has a girl friend, and we did the same as you. but i think you should just follow your heart..
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Honestly Dearest,
Know what… if you enjoy his company, continue sending time with him. If he wants you just for sex, he will leave you if he doesnt get it. If you also want to have just fun, go ahead else he will leave you anyways. I mean he will meet you less no of times, or may be avoid you. Just be selfish and dont blame anyone if things go sour. Wishing everything goes fine!

You could either do the honorable thing – steering clear and encouraging him to work on things with his girlfriend, or you could follow your heart and wait it out until he’s a free man so that you can be together.

But think of it this way: No matter what happens atleast you have his friendship.

Best of luck.

You should stay friends. How would you feel if you were in his girlfriends shoes? It just shows that hes not trust worthy in a relationship to kiss you behind his girlfriends back.

I understand that this situation mustn’t be easy for you but I think you shouldn’t tell him how you feel for many reasons. First of all, if you do, he’s gonna take advantage of you two without taking a real decision. That is to say, he’s gonna cheat on his girlfriend but he’s never gonna leave her and you gonna be in a waiting position, hoping a real relationship with him whereas it’s never gonna happen! Then, imagine how you would feel if you were in his girlfriend situation? This is not cool for her ! Moreover, flirting with you clearly shows that he doesn’t have any respect for his girlfriend and if he ’s doing that now, nothing will prevent him to do the same thing with you in your possible future relationship!
I hope that my advices will help you, and you will do the right thing!

Tell him you want more than a friendship and you understand he does too but things are way too complicated right now with him having, and isnt he lucky, two women. Stop seeing him and wait for him to leave her and come back to you. Because you believe he is genuine and he say he is and fair enough the other isnt working for him.

tell him you will cut off all contact untill he is broken up with his girlfriend if he realy likes you he will but if you keep flirting and kissing it is just cheating

If its ment to happen its ment to happen, you have to think before you act but; you cant “steal” this guy away think how his girlfriend would feel. However make friends with this guy and then if its ment to happen he might see that your the one for him. Please just please do not through yourself at him or do anything to jeprodise the relationship between him and his girlfriend. The Question in your head after reading this might be “what if his girlfriend doesnt like him that much?” well then she should end it, its upto her to do that not you sorry babe ! xx