I’m 19 years old, and recently found myself having bad trust issues, it’s
mostly towards men.
I had men walk all over me over the last few years, the thing that hurt me most was something that happened nearly a year ago, i was on a night out with my friends when i was told that they’d caught my boyfriend of 6 months cheating on me, i was devastated and went to find someone to confide in, at the time that was a guy that to me was like a brother, my best friend.
I cryed and told him what happened, he hugged me and told me it’d be alright, but next thing i know his trying to touch me. I said no, but he said nothing, the more he tried the more i pushed away but he still wouldn’t stop, i looked him directly in the eyes and said no but he didnt look like my friend anymore, he held my arm down still saying nothing, i couldn’t understand why he was doing this to me.
After about what seemed like forever I passed out, not sure why, whether it was my nerves, or the amount i had to drink, i don’t think he raped me but in the morning my jeans were undone and halfway down my thigh.
That morning i wanted to die, but he acted as if nothing had happened, taking to me like he normally would. Him acting this way threw me and i said nothing. I didn’t know how to act, he still talks to me now and i still havn’t told him how much he hurt me, it makes me feel guilty and horrid.
I kept it bottled up, pretending i didn’t care, and not talking to anyone about
what i was feeling, i eventully pushed it so far to the back of my mind it
seemed unreal, but now it’s exploded and i’m pushing away everyone close to me.
Relationships with guys seems impossible, i can’t stand them touching me and as soon as a male friend crosses the line slightly i start throwing barriers up.
I also have started to find myself been attracted to girls, i’m not sure if
this is because the way i was treated or genuinly how i am feeling.
i’m so confused please help?
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heya, im 13, 14 this year, im confused in waht to do. there’s this boy im quite
close to, and he wants me to do some stuff with him.
But he said to me that he isnt sure that there’ll be any feelings involved and now im not sure what to do.
I want to do it, but i just dont want to be used. Loads of boys keep messign em
around and im really confused and angry.
i just want someone to lvoe me fore who i am. The only boy i really like ahs moved away and i still like him. What do i
do? please help me 
x
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I’m basically having a serious crisis & I’m getting really close to doing
something stupid. I’m 17 & I suffer from an eating disorder, & have been
overweight for almost my entire life. I recently entered a relationship, but
with a friends ex boyfriend which caused me & her to fall out for good, leading to a really uncomfortable environment at work for me, as she’s turned everyone against me.
My Dad had a brain hemorrhage in March this year, and as the main
provider in our household, has caused conflict at home concerning, bills, chores & emotional problems. I don’t get on with my Dad, never have & only visit the hospital when I feel I have to.
I feel extremely guilty for not really caring,
but I just don’t feel a connection. I’m coming very closely to the end of
Sixth Form, and I’m struggling with revision & turning up to lessons is not
happening often at all. I’m constantly arguing with my mum about things, and because we’re both so stressed it doesn’t end well. I recently stopped
learning to drive as I wasn’t comfortable with my driving instructor, but
really want to carry on maybe with someone else, but money’s tight, & I’m a
panicky driver.
My partner lives 20 minutes drive away, and works full time & so
we don’t see each other as much as I’d like, but when he doesn’t come
over, I feel depressed & get angry at him, which is not fair. I’m always angry
& when he doesn’t text back straight away I say things to hurt him, but also
get so low that I cut myself, or binge eat. I can’t cope with all of these
things, I really can’t.
Since I have virtually no contact with any of my friends anymore & don’t speak to my family, sometimes I have no verbal contact
with people for days & it’s driving me insane. I have self esteem problems as
I hate my body as I’m overweight, and have sun damage to my facial skin. I
don’t know what to do, there’s a million & one other problems I feel I’m
facing, and I feel like I’m completely alone. Please help me, I’m too scared
to visit my Doctor again, as she doesn’t take me seriously & I’m too shy to
speak to a therapist. Please.
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theres this boy i like but if i ask him out and he says not i`ll be so so so
embarrised how will i ask him out
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I this boy 2 month ago & he said he really likes me so i started to text him &
meet him & i got to no him now i really like him.
He use to text me everyday but he ant text me for 3 days now. My best friend goes out with one of his mates and we went to there presentation & he kissed me and cuddled me but now hes a#ignoring me. I av tried to forget about him but i cant what do i do??
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I’m 18, and I have a huge crush on this guy 3 years older to me.
I presume its perfectly normal for a teenager like me to have crushes, but here’s the weird thing-I don’t even know why!! Seriously, I mean, the guy doesn’t share any of my interests, doesn’t bother to even listen to my ideas, let alone respect them, isn’t aware of my very existence, and oh yeah, he has a girlfriend.
My friends have tried everything to help me, but I’m really hung up on him.I think about him every minute and fantasise that we end up together. I’m truly disgusted with myself, and my performance in class is affected because of this. I don’t know what to do. Please help me get over him!!!!!!!
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me and my boyfriend have been together 5 months he split up with me yesterday because he thinks i cheated on him and i never what do i do? x
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im 14 years old,i really need some advice on what to do.Last year a boy moved into my school and because he was new nobody really new or liked him much,but he really liked me and i begin to like him too we started dating wed be inseperable and he made me feel so loved.
But everyone was teasing me for goin out with “the new boy” i tried to ignore them but it got so bad i didnt want to go to school anymore, so in the end i felt i had no choice but to end it all with him even though i dindt want too,he was really upset and ended up crying infornt or everyone in school,he tried to get back toghether with me but id say no.
Now its months later and my feelings for him are stronger than ever i think i may be in love with him , if i know what love is…But the thing is hes all mr popular now nad hes always with all the girls and hugging them and everything ,hes forgotten all about me , i dont know what to do anymore hes all i ever think about , i just want him back
,is it too late? xx
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I am 14 at secondary school and a girl in my class has been off school recently.
My friends and i have found out that she smokes daily. we also thought she had an eating disorder as she never used ot eat, especially when she was more unpopular. Now, she eats little, and when she does eat, she eats high fat, high sugar, high salt foods. such as crisps, chocolate etc.
I think she has an unstable relationship with her parents as many people have commented that when being with her parents, they were rude and often insulted each other causing this girl to get embaressed.
We’ve done smoking in Biology and she follows signs of an addict smoker, she is always crushing or destroyign something and gets very restless.
She attention seeks because I don;t think she gets enough attention at home. she brings her cigarettes to school in her bag, i think she secretly wants people to find them so that she will get some form of attention, of which she is so deprived.
She also will never tie back her long hair, whether it be in PE or an experiment at school using eg a bunsen burner. causing her to get in trouble with teachers. Personally, i tihnk she likes to hide behind her hair.
She gets emabressed easily and is always in trouble with the teachers at school, again, i tihnk she wants soem form of attention. She has an older sister, who we think is providing her with the cigarettes, who also smokes. In biology, we also did heart rate and hers was so fast, she would not tell anyone, but my friend was the one measuring her heart rate and she said it was way above average.
she is quite clever, especially in maths.
This girl, she is skinny, drinks at least 500ml of coke a day and im worried that all of these factors combined will result in her early death.
She finds it hard to open up and i only wish i could help her more, what should i do ?
Her being absent lately has really made me think.
Please, tell me something i can do?
Maybe get her to see a school counciller ?
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im 15 and im 19 weeks pregnant.
My parents know but they are extremley mad at me and they said once the baby is born they are going to kick me out. my boyfriend got ran over a few years ago so the baby has no father. i am so scared and i don’t know what to do when the baby is born.
i really want the baby. what should i do?
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