I have a boyfriend and I have been with him for 7months now, at the start of the relationship he seemed really keen about it, but now it seems as though he doesn’t want to know me, and I feel like his love for me is slipping.
I have tried to let him know on how I feel but every time I do it just leads to us arguing. I really do love him and I really don’t know what I would do without him. He used to make more of an effort but now its been 3weeks and I haven’t seen him once, we have talked over facebook but it seems as though he would prefer talk to other girls.
When I ring him up he always has an excuse to either having to go or a reason that he has to talk to one of my friends instead of me. Sometimes he makes me feel really awful and hurts my feelings a lot, but then he is all sweet and every time I can’t help falling for him once again, and before I realise what mistake I made he turns on me again. He has made me cry a lot recently and I have found out he can give but not take. He has often pretended to like other girls and has pretended to dump me leaving me in tears.
I feel like I forgive him to easy but I find it impossible to be angry with him…please help me out!
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I really need your help!! I was seeing this boy for about 5months, and i genually loved him. But sometimes when i feel as if im getting too close to someone, i have to call it off. So we broke-up.
I then found out that while we were going out, he cheated on me multiple times and was texting other girls, asking them for ..things. We got back together, finished,got back together, finished, got back together and finished atleast 6 times. But i still loved him.
I then met this other boy, he is nothing like my ex! he is really sweet, and kind, and does care about my feelings, he’s said he wants to have a kid, and get married (one day!) nothing like my ex! And the more i got to know him and he told me he liked me, the more i liked him. But obviously, i still loved my ex.
Over a few weeks or so, i began to really like this boy that i had gotten to know, but my feelings were still strong for my ex. And now, me and this boy are going out, but there is still this feeling that i have for my ex. And im not sure wether it will ever go away. I’ve tried my hardest to get over him, I’ve even went as far as to burn a picture of him, and although that did help alittle bit, nothing has made this feeling go away. And im not sure if anything will, what should i do!?
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I don’t even know if I want answers or not, but I’ve got to tell someone the idiotic mistakes that I have made before I go mad. I am a teenager. I hate to say it, cause I don’t fit into the mould, but I’m still 17 and I’m still an idiot. I don’t like parties; I go to church; I like school; I don’t swear all that often. I’m not an outcast and no-one as far as I know hates me or thinks I’m weird or whatever and bullies me. But I am still a teenager.
I’m not sure how well I can cut a long story short…but here goes.
I’m in the choir at my church, along with my mum and my little sister. We’re a very strong family; none of us have ever been any trouble- mum always jokes about that; the fact that she never had to do anything, we just never bothered with the ‘teenage’ years. There aren’t just the three of us, mind. My parents are married, and I’ve got two elder sisters as well as my little sister. There’s an age gap between the pairs of sisters, so although we’re all close, our elder sisters share a bond, and my little sister and I share a bond. Of the elder two, one is married and just become a mum and the other happily partnered; and both on the first attempt. Neither of them had met anyone before the one they’re sticking with, both at about 18. So obviously I got fake jealousy thrown at me when I started going out with a boy at 13- the likes we’d never seen before! This wasn’t a problem- eventually about a year later we grew apart and broke up. The problem started last year, when a man at choir offered to give me some driving tutoring cause I was so keen to drive. From there, we hit it off- the lessons dwindled out cause with so little time on my hands, I barely got time with the family as it was, so we just chatted, and became really good friends. This didn’t surprise me; mum got on with him really well, so I knew he’d be a funny guy. Bad news is, he’s not quite 3 times my age.
So the closer we got, the more that people worried; and we did too. Neither of us had done anything of the like before, and ignored it for a while, but eventually he came out with it, and we started trying to be together. And the twits we were, we kept quiet about it because we still didn’t know what we were doing. We very, very rarely got time alone and when we did it would be at church, so didn’t, obviously, get that close physically.
I can’t say that I wholly trusted him- I’d be even more of a fool to say that I did. Anywhere along the line he could have raped me or buried me under his patio, to be blunt. So occasionally, when he’d find ways to meet up in places that I felt uncomfortable with (e.g. when no-one knew where I was) I would make an excuse. One day, very recently, he caught me lying to him, and we stopped and talked. I told him that I couldn’t hide this much longer, so he agreed that we should reveal things a little more and stop worrying my family and friends. So we did- we’ve told my mum first, as she was visibly the most worried. We caught her one evening and said we’d like a chat when we had time. She managed to take him aside and talk to him the next day when I wasn’t there, and he fed a little back to me- not much, cause he said she’d want to talk to me without knowing what she’d said to him. But she wanted to tell the Vicar, cause he’d know much more about what to do, and our Choir-master, cause we’d screwed up in his choir and he was our friend.
So I waited for when she and I would have time to talk alone, and we eventually did. Well, when I say talk, she talked at me. She didn’t need to hear my opinion, and in my family, that has never happened. She had also already talked to the Vicar and Choir-master, and I had assumed that she would ask me first before she did that. So basically, I started to get confused. Still, she asked for him to go and talk to the Vicar, and he did so promptly. The Vicar said that we hadn’t strictly done anything wrong, among other things like suggesting we all sit down and talk, and said he’d pass the information along to my mother and father.
About 2 weeks later, and I found out that the Vicar had, in fact, done no such thing. I was assuming that he was looking for a time to be alone with mum to talk it over, but was still irritated.
In all this, all the way through, there is one person I did not tell, and that was my younger sister. I was waiting for a chance to tell her gently, because I knew that I would deeply hurt her. If I had told her, and only her, from the start, what sort of burden would that have been on a 14-year-old girl? That she was the only witness to a relationship between the only two people who really shouldn’t be together…
Tonight, she has told me the blunt truth, and I just don’t know what to do. She was so worried about me that she went behind my back to read my text messages. She knew right from the point of us going out that we were. She’s lost all faith in me because we’ve never kept secrets from each other before, and I’ve scarred her so much deeper than anything else I could have done. She told me about all the comings and goings between my parents and the church, and my friends, and everything that has gone on behind my back that, worryingly, no-one else would dare tell me.
The thing that hurts me is that all of this seems to be being arranged without a word from me- I don’t actually seem to have any say in the matter.
The thing that breaks my heart is that I have failed in the one thing that I tried to do the whole way through- protect my own sister, and my family, and be a role-model to the young woman my sister’s turning into. I don’t know how long it will be until any of them can trust me again, or if I can trust them. This is the sort of thing I read in books and joke about how simply stupid you would have to be to make such a horrible mistake. But I don’t even know if I have made a mistake- I don’t even know for sure if I love him, or whether I’m just in love with love.
I’ve always burned to be a mother, and a teacher. But if I can’t even sort my own relationships without destroying everything, how can I ever be fit to help children? I can see two choices, and both of them are yelling at me. One, I could watch this through to the end and show that I really mean it, knowing that my family hates it. Two, I could drop him and apologise to everyone, start again and know that I gave in.
Please, help me- anything you can think of to help me- I’ve done everything so wrong and I don’t know where to turn.
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im 14 years old. my boyfriend never comes out really, but when he does i love
being with him. but it gets me down because when im with one of my best friends he completely changes, everyone tells him he does. he sucks up to her alot, and has previously told her ‘i wish i was going out with you.’
i dumped him for this, but we got back together a while back. i dont understand why when shes there he changes so much. i would tell him, but i know hed tell her that i said it and she would have a go at me and i cant be bothered with that. i dont know what to do and i dont know why, when shes there he basically just blanks me and acts as though im not going out with him, but when shes not there, he holds me and kisses me and stuff like that, i prefer it so much when shes not around, but i cant tell her this as shes my best friend. what should i do?
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i’m 14 and have 3 bet freinds and wen i’m talking with them ,1 of my freinds
says really randon things. eg. my cousin got stabbed,my sister fell down the
stairs, my granny had a stroke, my other cousin won the lottory, i was stuck in
a lift with a woman in labour,my brother tried to kill himself with his school
tie and my dad had a tumour died in the operation, came back 2 life, and went
home the next day.
its really weird and always out of context. Me and my othr freinds think she’s lying, so we asked her brother. He had never herd about the lottory thing, bt she came then and told him to shut up and told us he was lying. today, 2 months after she sed it, she told us it was a joke.
So wot else has she been lying about? We keep on asking her and she just avoids the question but hangs around with us like normal. 1 of my freinds isnt talking 2
her and its really awkward. Im cought in the middle. I dont want 2 leave her
inacse she’s not lying and all these bad things did happen 2 her but i dont want
2 hang around with a lyer, shes really sad and i’m confused. nothings the same
anymore. I’m in all her classes and she still hangs around with us. she’s not
getting it and wont give us a clear answer.
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Im 14 years old. And im pregnant. Allow me to explain what happened.
It was mine and my boyfriend 6 month anniversary. He had decided to take
me out for dinner and a movie then a stroll through the park. I had told my mum i was seeing him but i had said that i was sleeping round at a friends house
when i was really staying at his …
I had a wonderful time and whilst strolling around the park wearing his jacket,
snuggled up in his arms, looking up at the beautiful starry night – i realised i
loved him. He beat me to saying it – he took my hands and told me he had never
felt this way about anyone ever before etc. then he said “i love you”. I was so
happy. I immediatley told him i loved him too and we kissed under the stars. We
stumbled, kissing madly as we went, back to his (his parents were out). We fell
on to his bed. We tore our clothes off each other leaving bras and underwear
lying all over his floor. We kissed and touched and then he stopped.
We got a condom from his sisters drawer and before you knew it … bye bye
virginity!
Three months later and i have missed three periods. He was there when i took a
pregnancy test and knows we’re having a baby but hes not worried. im terrified.
I think i want to have it but i dont know what to do. I dont know how to tell my
mum. Abortion is out of the question, adoption is also a no no! I think i want
to have it but i just dont know how to tell my mum.
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Our school is organising a prom for our year, and there is a girl who I would
particularly like to take as a date. She recently broke up with her old
boyfriend, but there seems to be someone else who has his eye on her 0 should I
rush in to ask her before he does, or should I wait and see how it plays out,
because the Prom is not for a while.
I don’t want to be turned down, because that would shatter my confidence, but I don’t want to leave it too late and miss an opportunity and have her thinking i’m not interested. Some advice would be great
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Hello I’m Joe, I’m 15 (though I consider myself quite mature) and am having a rollercoaster relationship with an ex-boyfriend that I don’t know what to do
about (I am openly gay). When we first got together we were really happy with each other and everything was going great until we eventually broke up, to both our upset. In regret, he asked me back out, and when I couldn’t answer, ended up kissing someone else within my sight.
We have a love/hate relationship and are constantly flirting yet trying to
make each other jealous. We have both been trying to make it work with other
people but don’t feel the same. He irritates me some times and has some form of
bi-polar so he has mood swings that can be testing. Despite the things that
irritate me about him, there is something about him that I don’t see in anyone
else. He can be upsetting and unpredictable, but other people I have tried it
with just seem.. boring.. in comparison. He lies to me sometimes but I suppose I
can do it too. He has treated me terribly in the past (I shan’t go into full
detail) but theres something about him I can’t let go. Sometimes, after all the
stuff he has put me through, it makes me happy to see him sad, but I suppose I
have a spiteful attitude and I’m not completely innocent myself.
Do people ever change? Maybe he is the missing piece to my puzzle… Someone
to love, hate, and be able to show all my true colours to. I am very confused
about what to do and it seems to power of whether we get back together or not is
in my hands. And, if you reply, please don’t patronize me because of my age,
because if I was just a raging-hormones teenager, I’d be getting intimate with
the next attractice lad that came along right now.
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the other day i snogged this boy loads of times, but he has a girlfriend, i
really like this boy and i thought he liked me cos of what happened but i’m not
to sure anymore.
he told his mate that i’m a really good kisser though, but i don’t know what to do?
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Okay. So my very best friend was dating one of my other really good friends for
about four months. But the relationship went downhill after month two, and they never kissed or anything. She broke up with him two weeks ago. So during the last three weeks of their relationship, he started spending alot more time with me, and being really sweet and nice.
We’re pretty much best friends now. And I started to like him. But another one of my really good friends told me that she liked him, and that she was going to ask him out.
My other friends are helping her out and telling him her good qualities and stuff. She asked him out, and he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship. So she’s going to ask again in two weeks. And my best friend was really happy that someone liked him, despite him being her ex. She’s even helping her. My problem is that i also like him. What do i do?
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