I’ve been friends with this guy for about two months, I’ve liked him a lot since
I met him but I refused to say anything as he has a girlfriend. We’ve been
flirting a lot and the other day he told me that he also likes me, I also told
him that I liked him but he has a girlfriend so nothing can happen.
He ask me to kiss him which I’m almost ashamed to say that I did, then left. After he sent me a text saying that he was sorry if he made everything weird between us but he couldn’t hide how he felt and he didn’t want to jepordise our friendship but had to tell me. I replied that it hadn’t made anything weird and that we could still be friends. Since then we’ve spent a lot of time together revising for exams and talking getting to know each other better. I’ve made it clear where I stand with the fact he has a girlfriend.
He’s told me that things haven’t been going well with his girlfriend and that
he’s just trying to find a way to break up with her without hurting her too
badly and that he doesn’t want to mess me about.
I’ve asked my friends what I should do and they say to stay clear of him as
he’s either using me as a replacement for his girlfriend who’s at a different
university, or that I can’t trust him as he’s cheating on her and could do that
to me in the future. I understand what they’re getting at but he has been
nothing but honest with me since I met him and I trust him.
I feel really wrong and guilty about him having a girlfriend, but I don’t know
what to do as I don’t want to push him away. How should I handle this????
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Ive been in a relationship for over 2 years now but I dont feel the same as i did towards her anymore. Little things are annoying me and Im just not happy. We are looking to move in together which I really dont want to do because I know it will be a nightmare. Im not sure whether to ride it out or end it. I dont want to hurt her.
I used to have commitment issues and we have split over these before. We got back together because I really did love her but its less than a year since that and now Im doubting whether I want a future with her. She will think its a commitment ‘thing’ again but it isnt.
Any advice would be great.
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Me and my fiance have been driving for a baby for a couple of months hes had 2 kids previously, ive never had kids as im quite young.
My fiance used to do drugs but stopped taking them about 3 months ago. I don’t know wether its me or him who can’t have kids? Please help what should I do? I just want a baby to make mine and my fiance’s life complete.
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Please help – i don’t know what to do.
I was with my boyfriend for 7 years and we split up abput 2 years ago. In that time we both met other people. However, we have always kept in touch and he has always been my rock and for the last few months we have become close again and decided to take things slow and give it another go. About 2 weeks ago he decided to meet with his ex to tell her and to ask her not to contact him anymore. 4 days later she calls and tells him she is 2 1/2 mths pregnant. She wants to keep the baby, and he has told her he will support her as much as he can.
What do i do? i love him so much, but when i imagine him being a father its to my child – not someone elses. He also seems so worried of saying anything to stress her out in case she turns on him and refuses to let him see the child when he/she is born.
i don’t want to be selfish in this and know he has a lot on his plate – but i don’t know where i fit in all this. we haven’t even really made ‘us’ official again and i know his family will probably rather he made a go of it with his ex. But i am worried the jealousy and insecurity will kill me – what/where am i to be when she gives birth? what if she uses the baby to constantly be in touch? and my biggest fear, what if i prepare to turn my life upside down and support him and he goes back to her?
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I was 15 when I met my ex, 16 when we split up.
I’m now 23 and I still think about him daily. I dont know what is going on with his life, I havent seen him
for about a year or more. I would like to contact him but have no address other than his mother’s, and I know he doesnt live at home anymore.
Should I contact him and tell him I still think about him and maybe still love him or should I leave him be? Maybe he still thinks about me? I was stupid to let him go and I broke his heart, I was young and didnt understand love and relationships. Now I know he was the one for me, but do I contact him and risk upsetting him or myself?
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im 22 and and currently a single parent, i haven’t had much luck in my past relationships as they have usually turned out abusive.
I split from my ex in march but i have strong feelings for him still and keep getting him back involved in my life after we go a couple of months without speaking, he tells me he wont treat me like before and i really believe him. I am confused, i love this person but i don’t know if i really do want to do get back with him, but i cant bare the fact he might move on.
Not only that i was texting one if his best friends and we almost did something we may have regretted, this person has also declared their love for me and now i feel trapped between them both and scared that if i did get back with my ex his friend might tell him or may have told someone else and this will surely take him back to his old ways and destroy his trust he thinks he has in me, although this was a serious issue within our relationship the first time around, even though there was no reason.
The whole relationship with my ex has been complicated from the start, as he has his own children from a previous relationship, this was an issue for me because i found out they had been texting each other and heard rumors that they had slept together whilst he was with me, also his family dislike for other reasons, how can i decide what to do?
ive been hurt and i dont want to get hurt again but i yet i still think about my ex and seriously considering to agree to be in a relationship with my ex, the only thing stopping me is the fling i had with his friend, and i dont want to hurt him either…please help.
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I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years and have cheated on him several times. I recently met someone else who I was seeing for just over a month but decided that I wanted to make things work with my boyfriend so finished it but now I can’t stop thinking about the other guy and want to get back in touch with him.
I feel that maybe my boyfriend isn’t the one as I’ve cheated on him so much but feel he would give me security for the future. I’m so confused and don’t know what to do, please help.
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Hi I’m a single mum with 3 children and have been seeing this guy for about 2mths and everything has been going well until the beginning of this week. He has children of his own and they stay quite away from him,but the problem is his children didnt want to see him and that has been over a year now and there was nothing he could do about it but wait.
The wait paid off as they now want to see him,which is great news. He was shocked with the out of blue text. Thing is since he got the text he has told me he wants space to clear his head as he has lots on his mind from thinking about what he’s gonna be like with and what to say to his kids as its been so long and think about things with me,whether he wants to be with me and other stuff and says he’s gonna be quiet..whats confusing is he says were still together,wants to keep in contact..
I havent heard back from him and not sure if i should just leave it for him to contact me and give him the space he needs and also how long to leave it for before i get in touch and ask him what is happening as im only human and have feelings as well and need to know where i stand..hope you can help me with my dilemma as dont want to do the wrong thing…look forward to your help,many thanks
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i have been seeing a guy now for 3 and a half years, he is in a relationship, with 2 young children. When we first got together i knew about this, and accepted that fact, that was 3 years ago, we are very close, before he had financial problems i would see him all the time 3 or 4 times a week, but he lives 40 miles from me, so the petrol prices and financial matters at home took hold, and he couldnt get over to see me as much, sometimes would be 6 weeks or so before i see him.
We chatted online every night, or emailed each other at work or he would ring me…….. so very close, and i love him a lot. 2 weeks ago, he called me on a sunday night, and said that he had left her (things had been on the verge of this for a few months) he had nowhere to go, so like a good friend i invited him to stay with me for the night and although he ummd and arrrd, he did eventually come over and stay with me the night, he left for home the next day, looking for somewhere to live as he had left his family home….
i txt him later that day, but i got no reply, in fact i got no reply all week to any of my txts, i was heartbroken, i couldnt understand why he was not answering me… i sent him 4 texts on sunday, a week after he had left her, and got no answer….. then monday i got a txt back, saying he had turned his phone off for some isolation, to sort his head out… he had not gone back to her, he was at his brothers…. i txt him back saying i would take a back seat for now, let him get sorted, and told him he knows where i am if he needs me….. that was a week ago… he has not contacted me again… as u can imagine, i have never gone this long without speaking to him for 3 years.. its killing me… i keep wanting to txt him again to see how he is… but if he doesnt answer me i will be even more depressed…
my question is really, is this normal for a man to just not talk to the person he has been speaking to for 3 years….. i guess its a huge thing to walk out of a 14 year relationship and leave your 2 young kids too…. but should he at least let me know whats going on? should i txt him? should i just wait till he contacts me? will he contact me?
Your advice would be much appreciated…. do you think i should try and forget him…. its soooo hard.
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i am wrighting to you because i have done something terrible, and i cant really talk to anyone about it. i love my girlfriend more than life its self, but i have been unfaithful, i slept with another girl when i was drunk the other nigh.
Now my girlfriend is away at university, i am finding things difficult because if i told her i know she would end our relationship. i know i am in the wrong, big time. but i dont want to loose her, she is everything to me. ive been in and out of relationships but i have finally found the girl for me, we are so happy together, i hate myself for what i have done, she doesnt deserve what i have done.
Why, when everything is perfect does something have to go so terribly wrong, i know this is all my fault and i cant blame anyone else. i have messed up so bad and im scared of the outcome, i dont know what id do without her. i just need someone to talk to, get things off my chest, please just help me in what ever way you can.
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