Am I to reserved?
By Agony Aunt | October 20, 2008
Hi.. Im really lost and confused.. Everyone says I’m too “reserved” like I don’t tell everyone about my whole life.. that’s not a bad thing is it? But I feel like it is because all my friends are so open about everything while I choose to bottle stuff up.. I don’t know what to do.. All my friends said it and even my mum.. Sometimes people I barely know.. I think I’m too protective of myself.. I need some social tips.. Please Help!!
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It’s OK to be reserved if you feel good about yourself - regardless of what others say about you. How YOU feel about yourself is more important. But if you feel you need social tips, it helps to read up on such stuff (whether books or on the net). There’s a site called selfesteem4women that offers good tips. http://www.selfesteem4women.com
Also press the word (confidence) on a search engine and you’ll be directed to relevant sites. Be sure to buy books too.
Generally try walking with your head high, smile at people, and listen to what they have to say. Then give feedback. You don’t have to share your private thoughts or things you’re not comfy sharing but be friendly. Give your frank opinion about what people discuss. As long as it’s said with respect, feel free to say what you believe.
It helps to keep a journal, do exercises and walk as these activities build confidence which helps end reserve. It’s OK to have only a few friends& not share everything with them. It’s OK if people think you’re reserved. There are FAR worse things to be. But it’s important to feel comfy with yourself and around people for your self-esteem. Take the time to dress nicely as well. Watch other people also as that’s the best way to learn anything in life.
I hope the advice I gave helped you. You can find me anytime at my website: anonymousletters.net
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Look up EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) on Google or under EFT section on siouxhealer.co.uk This is a great method for building confidence to help you make the right decisions and do what you need to do to help yourself.