Am I to reserved?

It’s OK to be reserved if you feel good about yourself – regardless of what others say about you. How YOU feel about yourself is more important. But if you feel you need social tips, it helps to read up on such stuff (whether books or on the net). There’s a site called selfesteem4women that offers good tips. http://www.selfesteem4women.com

Also press the word (confidence) on a search engine and you’ll be directed to relevant sites. Be sure to buy books too.

Generally try walking with your head high, smile at people, and listen to what they have to say. Then give feedback. You don’t have to share your private thoughts or things you’re not comfy sharing but be friendly. Give your frank opinion about what people discuss. As long as it’s said with respect, feel free to say what you believe.

It helps to keep a journal, do exercises and walk as these activities build confidence which helps end reserve. It’s OK to have only a few friends& not share everything with them. It’s OK if people think you’re reserved. There are FAR worse things to be. But it’s important to feel comfy with yourself and around people for your self-esteem. Take the time to dress nicely as well. Watch other people also as that’s the best way to learn anything in life.

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Look up EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) on Google or under EFT section on siouxhealer.co.uk This is a great method for building confidence to help you make the right decisions and do what you need to do to help yourself.

Well to be honest you sound alot like me. There isnt anything wrong with keeping things bottled up but sometimes you will explode and people will get annoyed with you, but I garentee if your strong enough to keep everything under wraps then you can cope with petty people getting annoyed because you wont tell them your life story!
People that keep things bottled up are strong people and perhaps theres somethings you dont want to tell the world.. Thats not a problem really is it?

It’s never a bad thing to keep things private. If your friends feel itmakes you unapproachable then perhaps ask them to tell you when you’re doing it so that you can alter the way you say things. If you don’t want to answer a personal question you don’t have to look defensive and say ‘I don’t want to talk about it’, you can smile and say ‘Oh, I really don’t like talking about myself.’ Little subtle changes in your tone and body language will give off a less defensive, unsociable vibe.

There’s no such thing as “too” anything, according to whom? By who’s standards? Being reserved is really a virtue, you’re somewhat mysterious and you’re trustworthy with secrets, all enviable traits. Enjoy being you and give yourself a break.

I think you shouldn’t be so open with your friends as friends aren’t people you can always depend on, they turn fake once you start telling them more things about yourself. They may have things which they hold against girls, such as being called a “sket” or doing “innaproprate” things which then makes them end up with a bad name .. It’s best to keep things to yourself and as for keeping things away from your mum, I think thats wrong and that you should tell your mum everything as she is your mum and you have the right to tell her things knowing that maybe she will be able to help you..
I hope this advice is use to you x

Dear Agony Aunt,
My best friend is supposed to be marrying this man I have been in love with for a few years now. She told me she liked some other man though. I just dont know what to do, please help me?

Love Helen.

^love, why have you posted a letter in a comment??